woaw, that all?? Lol

I have always noticed this in break ups,
first, people jus bumb into relationship and start dating, without even knowing themselves very well, when they now start dating, then they get to know they aint compactible with eachother, then break up and start yelling "**** love, **** love!"

well, my ex is kinda "late bloomer"..oopppss! I mean he is REALLY A LATE BLOOMER!!! So we had an on and off relationship which he is the one who always called the off. Then suddenly one day he totally broke up with me "without" giving me any reason at all. It hurts a lot when you didn't know what you've done and the person you trusted and loved leave you JUST LIKE THAT! And because of that, I begin to use drugs,go party and so on.... I knew it's stupid to do those things but I pretty much enjoy it and it helps me,really! Those silly things didn't last long anyway, perhaps a year only, just to try drugs for the 1st time haha! After that, watching movie and hook up in different dating network became my habit till the time I meet my present man (I'm still movie manic though drool:

It was so stupid the way he sent me a nasty text message a whole page long. Weirdo. It was almost an essay by the time i finished reading it.

men aren't mean - he is mean - and a player - all he was doing was waitin to notch his belt it sounds like

he may also been usin u to cheat on someone else

only cure IMO is to wait longer to sleep with them - they hate that - but they (men) bring it on themselves by behaving like that azzhole u described

yes that would be annoying


hmmmmm my last break up of a real relationship was after 5 years of never being quite on the same page about where we were going with each other

it was an amicable split, I think,

with a few difficult moments.

It's hard to split up otherwise - especially being that we had been such friends! Oh gosh - did we ever laugh - even during sex - all of that laughter kept us together a pretty long time

but one night I told him that I wasn't feeling it any more and I didn't tell him why - just that it was time, time for it to be over and I think he agreed tho he said nothing. We talked on the phone once after that and it was difficult - he said some things that were pretty shallow & mean and I hung up

about a year ago we exchanged 1 message on FB...then nothing...as it should be

I finally realized that my breakup 5 years ago was almost entirely my own fault, and actually was going to start a thread entitled "Lifes Lessons" with...

Lesson One : If you take the person you are with for granted, someone else will come along and give them the attention they crave, and you will be left alone.

My ex and I were together for 13 years and I helped raise her two girls aged 1 1/2yrs and 3yrs

She was much younger than I, but we were extremely happy together until the last year or so. I would watch the kids whenever she wanted to go out partying with her girlfriends.

I realize now that I had become complacent in our relationship. As long as she was around, I was happy... didn't have to touch her, talk to her, or let her know how beautiful she was or even that I loved her.

She finally started staying out all night, and would come home falling-down drunk the next morning. I asked her to be a little more caring, by just calling me to let me know she was okay and wanted to keep partying for awhile. I would pace back and forth between the phone and the front door all night, worrying she'd been attacked (again) and wondering *when is the right time to call the police*.

Finally I could not take it anymore... ended up with ulcers from the worry, and told her I was leaving and why.

I later learned she was having an affair with one of the DJ's from the club that I use to manage... but not until *after* I had left her.

However... Life Lesson #1... I believe that she would not have had an excuse to have an affair, had I taken the time to pay attention to her and let her know how much she meant to me.

I'm over it now, and she moved in with the guy... but I'm glad I took the time to remove the blame from *her* and take responsibility for my own actions. I resolved that I would never take my partner for granted again.

it takes two

she took u for granted also

the free babysitting and all...

but yes - there is usually stuff on both sides with a break up


with my ex boyfriend - I just assumed that he did want things to be over because he didn't say otherwise, but I never asked him what he thought , felt

live & learnm I guess

When deal with a relationship, you have to play in between pampering and not pampering... When ladies are over pampered you get bad result, when not pampered you get the same bad result

if that works for you

I just pamper or no according to my own feelings - don't keep score - that is shallow

Oh hell yeah... somethings are harder to change than others...

I am, ya' know... a heavy burden it seems sometimes.

well said...." didn't have to touch her, talk to her, or let her know how beautiful she was or even that I loved her."


this does hurt deeply...I have been treated this way.

I wonder how many other guys fall victim to it as well. Only paying attention when you want some, only saying "I Love You" when SHE asks "do you love me"...

Fortunately, I usually learn from my mistakes
UNfortunately, my next partner may need many pairs of running shoes

jam tomorrow, jam yesterday, but never jam today

yes actually

in thinking about it - this is the single biggest mistake a man can make - is to only be nice when he wants sex

it happens when you get together for the wrong reason or if the man has been raised to believe that women have no other real value (< and this is not as uncommon as u may think)

my ex husband AND my ex boyfriend were like this and it is a pattern that I will not permit to continue

so one of the reasons, I think it has taken me so long to pair up again, is that a priority is to find a man who wants to spend a lot of time together - like being best friends and soul mates and doing most things together - not just " oh honey let me bend u over the kitchen sink"

I never had that and I will be single 4ever unless I find that person

To this day, I still have no idea why it ended. She never told me, never explained anything. All I know is it went from "I need you, I can't live without you" one day to total abandonment the next....

after 4 1/2 yrs together, i go to work one day and come home to find a Dear John letter on the kitchen table. amongst other BS, it said for me to forgive him, but he felt bad that he wasnt working (it had been 2 mths) and he missed his family (in Mexico...Mom, Dad, brothers etc etc) so he went back to Mexico. not good. not good at all. a little over a year now and it still hurts. ALOT.

I sang the chorus to the Humpy Dance, and she got mad. I'm serious, thats how it ended.

I realized I had fallen out of love with him, and ended it. But couldn't figure out the reason of what happened and I ended up hurting him, which made me feel bad, but I was honest, and believe I did the right thing...