So I've been seeing this girl for a while, and alas, I've found someone better (for me), and I don't have much time to break it off with her. She's a real sweet girl, and I consequently just can't bring myself to be honest for the sake of her feelings.

So my question is: What can I tell her to end it?

Any suggestions?!

How about, that you can't be honest not for her sake, but for your own, you're too selfish and self centered to be honest because you don't want to feel like the that you are?

I'm pretty sure that would work.

why break it off. you could invent your twin and date both. get a different wardrobe from the goodwill store and make up a different personality. occasionally "feel" something your twin is "feeling" while on a date. when you get busted (eventually you will get busted) i guarantee i guarantee the girl that forgives you is the one that loves you more (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)

* this post was made to give the opposite of good sound advice

Yes yes, it's all my fault.

But I do think a selfish person would rather take their chances at both rather than break it off.

Depending on which side of the high donkey you rode in on of course.

Oh yeah, good point. Well, that was only one suggestion. Let's see what else we can come up with...

How do you feel about a**less chaps?

I think I should add that the basis of this relationship was mere physical attraction.

She's hot.

After spending time with her I realized she's dumber than a box of rocks.

How can you possibly bring yourself to say to someone that they're uninteresting and/or stoopid?

Like I said, I don't wanna scar the girl for life. Which is what would happen if I wore a**less chaps.

Oh, I see. What if you set her up on a blind date with just one rock?

They are the perfect fashion accessory.

I'm pretty ugly sure you've smoked them all up.

Moving on...

Its too late dude, you are already with her. It doesn't matter if someone better came along, there is always someone better out there. You should have thought about that before you commited to the one you are with now, jerk.

The Way I see it is If your already out looking for someone *better* then do her a favor and break it off with her because if Your already looking now you'll always be looking and its better to hurt her a little now then to tear her heart to shreds later.

Classy!


This is not rocket science. Honest doesn't mean "hey you are stupid so I'm outta here". Personal attacks are quite unnecessary and frankly speak more about the person making them than the person they are supposed to be about.

Honour the time you shared and the woman that she is by being truthful. The truth is that you don't feel enough of a connection on enough levels to see this relationship moving forward. The truth is that you probably rushed into it because you thought she was hot and pursued a physical relationship before you had any clue if you wanted an intellectual or an emotional one with her. The truth is that you you both want and deserve to be happy...it just isn't going to be together.

Now man up and be honest with her. She deserves that.

Break it off. She doesn't deserve to be strung along, and you should have considered her feelings when you found someone /better/. I ain't trying to be a b*tch, but the thing is that relationships based off of physical connections rarely last unless there's an insane amount of commitment from the get go.

Be honest, if there's one thing you should do for her, it's not trying to spare her feelings, that's either bogus, or a cop-out. No outright insults, don't call her stupid, you both didn't connect in the mental and physical, as well as the emotional level. Break it off NOW, or you'll be hurting her a LOT more as the relationship hunting progresses.

Since I know Garrett and the woman he is talking about, as well as the story behind this "relationship", I think it prudent to mention that this isn't a dating type scenario. They met at school, she wanted to get stoned between classes and even had a boyfriend at the time. It evolved into a physical relationship, having never been romantic or emotional.

Yeah, what she said.

First of all, I'd like to thank everyone for assuming the worst.

I know, I'm horrible.

Secondly, does anyone have any legitimate advice other that the proverbial "tell the truth?" (Refer to thread title for example)

Since I know Garrett and the woman he is talking about, as well as the story behind this "relationship", I think it prudent to mention that this isn't a dating type scenario. They met at school, she wanted to get stoned between classes and even had a boyfriend at the time. It evolved into a physical relationship, having never been romantic or emotional.



IF thats true, how much time does it take to just not sleep with her anymore?

seems pretty simple, unless I missed something

I honestly think explaining that you found someone you are really interested in and dont want to lead her on is less cruel than just hiding it of saying anything along the lines of 'she gets on your nerves'

I'm a single man, and when/if a woman I find attractive invites me over to their place to smoke out (which is a great passion of mine), and one thing leads to another, I can't possibly see how ANYONE, man or woman would turn this opportunity down.

My problemo is: She likes me more than I like her. Everyone's been there, so spare the judgmental insults for the "make believe" life you vicariously live thru for the people who don't know any better.

Edit: @ klc