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navygirl
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Yep buddy, if it hasn't happened by now, or not gonna happen, what's the use???????? Just not for me, as bad as i want it, just not for me. Love hurts too bad, too many games, too many lies, too many cheaters... so i feel i should just go out and be a 'get around girl', might as well...everyone else is doing it, just don't want to feel anything. Hey, I am sitting in a same situation here but with woman  . I have been member in many sites but no one is serious or are having seriously intentions. Just ended a membership one one of the sites because these members just ignored me but not answering on any messages I sent and some didn´t even care to read my profile. I hope you find him you are looking for....... yea, and on some of these sites, ya get on a forum and some of the members be hating and just down right rude. there was no one really interested on any of the ones i been on either. the one i just deleted not too long ago, met someone, talked on the phone, became friends on FB...and i'm assuming bcuz he seen a body pic........he bounced. i'm assuming that was the problem. so yea, no one is serious anymore on any of these. that's sad. I think there are serious people out there but people are just being cautious. There is a lot of hurting people out there and its hard to open up your heart when its been crushed. I have read some heart wrenching stories on dating sites and honestly I am surprised that people are still on these dating sites. For myself; no I am not serious about meeting anyone else but there are a lot of good people on Mingles that are very serious about meeting someone. So I ask that you don't put these people in the same category as me. |
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Wow.... I remember my first heartache.
I was 17 yrs old, it was the worst one in my life. All the other ones have been easier since that time. Love yourself, be kind & caring, loving by nature, people come & go. When they leave it's their loss....  |
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Honey, ain't no one here gonna condemn you for being jaded and cynical. Everyone here feels cast aside (near as I can tell). It is easy to let the eyes glaze over and just not care. That is the easy way. But, love ain't easy. If you wait...you wait.....I did and it was sooooo worth it. I flailed around blindly then just settled in....got to make some actual real life friends....then I talked to a woman for 6 months before I realized that I love her. (I ain't that bright)....I have got to meet her and she is the best thing that has ever happened in my life. So, do what you need to do to protect yourself because it is the pain that makes you stronger. When all things equal out...when you find your zen spot....when you are happy with you.....love will come. really, the pain is breaking me down all i do is cry and i haven't even eaten today AT ALL nothing not even water. it's after 6 here and hot. i just don't have a taste for anything. that really shook me up. but yea, maybe in the long run i'll see that it's making me stronger. i just wish that there was an open door when this one closed. i really feel like ish.........maybe it wasn't my fault, but still, i deserved an explanation of why he left me. We all desreve an explanation doll. But, no one ever said life was fair. You were used. I think we all have been. Nothing I can say will make it hurt less....it hurts. No doubt. Endure Baby.....past the ache and I guarantee that what you want will be waiting on the other side of the pain. |
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For some reason I doubt that you are unwanted. no one wants me right now!!! now maybe on the internet, somebody might try to holla, but not in real life. I hear you, I'm in the same boat. Nobody wants me, they want some non-existent alternate-universe version of me that cares about nothing other than booze and babies. We need to get comfortable with the idea that there is MORE to life than being an adjunct to another person.... yea ur right...i just haven't got to that point yet. but what are u suppose to do if u have no one, other than ur kids and fam, feels like God isn't there, although i know he is. and i know he removed this situation all for my good. it just hurts like heck. I understand. I don't have any family, no real-life friends, and there isn't anybody in the world I can turn to for help. I have to deal with this thing all by myself, and I'm OK with that. In some sort of perverse way, I actually think it's better to have to do it like this. It forces me to deal with reality instead of delusions. I can't sit around and wait for anyone else to step in and do anything for me. Actually it has been like that for me too once I left the military. My so-called civilian friends are only out for themselves so I have dealt with a lot on my own. A year ago in July, I chatted with a guy that was in a parade with me and we are now very close friends. I have someone I can lean on and he has the same in me. He is that special friend that I can talk to about anything and I feel like I have known him for years instead of just under a year. I am very lucky to have met someone that special. Yes, you are! I would really like to have a friend like that, too. Unfortunately, it just isn't feasible, so I will have to go without. |
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For some reason I doubt that you are unwanted. no one wants me right now!!! now maybe on the internet, somebody might try to holla, but not in real life. I hear you, I'm in the same boat. Nobody wants me, they want some non-existent alternate-universe version of me that cares about nothing other than booze and babies. We need to get comfortable with the idea that there is MORE to life than being an adjunct to another person.... yea ur right...i just haven't got to that point yet. but what are u suppose to do if u have no one, other than ur kids and fam, feels like God isn't there, although i know he is. and i know he removed this situation all for my good. it just hurts like heck. I understand. I don't have any family, no real-life friends, and there isn't anybody in the world I can turn to for help. I have to deal with this thing all by myself, and I'm OK with that. In some sort of perverse way, I actually think it's better to have to do it like this. It forces me to deal with reality instead of delusions. I can't sit around and wait for anyone else to step in and do anything for me. Actually it has been like that for me too once I left the military. My so-called civilian friends are only out for themselves so I have dealt with a lot on my own. A year ago in July, I chatted with a guy that was in a parade with me and we are now very close friends. I have someone I can lean on and he has the same in me. He is that special friend that I can talk to about anything and I feel like I have known him for years instead of just under a year. I am very lucky to have met someone that special. Yes, you are! I would really like to have a friend like that, too. Unfortunately, it just isn't feasible, so I will have to go without. Having a friend like that certainly is feasible. I wasn't looking for it; we just started chatting after the parade; the rest is history. I don't think its feasible for me to find love but certainly can find friendship. |
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For some reason I doubt that you are unwanted. no one wants me right now!!! now maybe on the internet, somebody might try to holla, but not in real life. I hear you, I'm in the same boat. Nobody wants me, they want some non-existent alternate-universe version of me that cares about nothing other than booze and babies. We need to get comfortable with the idea that there is MORE to life than being an adjunct to another person.... yea ur right...i just haven't got to that point yet. but what are u suppose to do if u have no one, other than ur kids and fam, feels like God isn't there, although i know he is. and i know he removed this situation all for my good. it just hurts like heck. I understand. I don't have any family, no real-life friends, and there isn't anybody in the world I can turn to for help. I have to deal with this thing all by myself, and I'm OK with that. In some sort of perverse way, I actually think it's better to have to do it like this. It forces me to deal with reality instead of delusions. I can't sit around and wait for anyone else to step in and do anything for me. Actually it has been like that for me too once I left the military. My so-called civilian friends are only out for themselves so I have dealt with a lot on my own. A year ago in July, I chatted with a guy that was in a parade with me and we are now very close friends. I have someone I can lean on and he has the same in me. He is that special friend that I can talk to about anything and I feel like I have known him for years instead of just under a year. I am very lucky to have met someone that special. Yes, you are! I would really like to have a friend like that, too. Unfortunately, it just isn't feasible, so I will have to go without. Having a friend like that certainly is feasible. I wasn't looking for it; we just started chatting after the parade; the rest is history. I don't think its feasible for me to find love but certainly can find friendship. I just mean it's not feasible for me, where I live, etc. I'm in the wrong place for that sort of thing! Well, more like I'm in the wrong place for anything....! |
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For some reason I doubt that you are unwanted. no one wants me right now!!! now maybe on the internet, somebody might try to holla, but not in real life. I hear you, I'm in the same boat. Nobody wants me, they want some non-existent alternate-universe version of me that cares about nothing other than booze and babies. We need to get comfortable with the idea that there is MORE to life than being an adjunct to another person.... yea ur right...i just haven't got to that point yet. but what are u suppose to do if u have no one, other than ur kids and fam, feels like God isn't there, although i know he is. and i know he removed this situation all for my good. it just hurts like heck. I understand. I don't have any family, no real-life friends, and there isn't anybody in the world I can turn to for help. I have to deal with this thing all by myself, and I'm OK with that. In some sort of perverse way, I actually think it's better to have to do it like this. It forces me to deal with reality instead of delusions. I can't sit around and wait for anyone else to step in and do anything for me. Actually it has been like that for me too once I left the military. My so-called civilian friends are only out for themselves so I have dealt with a lot on my own. A year ago in July, I chatted with a guy that was in a parade with me and we are now very close friends. I have someone I can lean on and he has the same in me. He is that special friend that I can talk to about anything and I feel like I have known him for years instead of just under a year. I am very lucky to have met someone that special. Yes, you are! I would really like to have a friend like that, too. Unfortunately, it just isn't feasible, so I will have to go without. Having a friend like that certainly is feasible. I wasn't looking for it; we just started chatting after the parade; the rest is history. I don't think its feasible for me to find love but certainly can find friendship. I just mean it's not feasible for me, where I live, etc. I'm in the wrong place for that sort of thing! Well, more like I'm in the wrong place for anything....! Well, I live in a racist, sexist, bigotted city. What guy can accept an independant military woman that has a free spirit. Somewhere in this hopeless place; one friend slipped though that cracks that accepts me for who I am. Makes me wonder why the heck he is in this city as he certainly is not the norm. |
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"BEEN THERE, DONE THAT"... I said that too myself once to give up and I gave myself a time. I stop looking, dating for years then suddenly I feel like checking my mails and my former neighbor sent me message and we talk blah blah blah and bOOoOOoOOm!!! He's the man I've been waiting for.
So generally speaking, "don't give up" just "don't be in a hurry".. Remember, "GOOD THINGS HAPPEN TO THOSE WHO WAIT".. believe me!  For the meanwhile have some fun including "PLAYING AROUND" hehe |
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