well said

Yep, I am with you. I have given up. I am 51 and have no desire to find anyone. However that doesn't mean I am giving up on myself. There are great things in life to experience and I don't need a partner to experience them. Life is too short not to have fun.

Exactly. I used to believe that someday I would meet someone about whom I could think "My life is better because she's in it." But that's never happened and I no longer see any point in chasing the delusion.

Sweetie, you don't want to run around ... it will seem like fun at first but you will feel empty and lose your self respect in the long run.

Don't wait ... life is too short. Get out there and have fun, doing the things you love to do! You'll meet plenty of people who have those things in common with you and who knows what will happen?

As for physical needs, pardon my bluntness but get a B.O.B. if you have to .. not as good as the real thing but better than nothing and better than spreading yourself out too thin (forgive the pun).

Don't let life pass you by. (((hugs)))

I think most people are under the illusion that having a partner will make their life perfect and complete; I think its being dependent or needy. In fact having a partner doesn't make your life better but more complicated which is not necessarily good. I know of lots of unhappy couples. Why do they stay together? Its cheaper than divorce as lets face it the man in most cases will lose his shirt.

I agree navygirl. Maybe it's an age thing? Because I'm 53 and feel the same. I have had those complications in the past; I was raised to believe I couldn't do anything without a man. But I found out differently; I love my independence and to be able to make my own choices .. often I make mistakes, but they are MINE. I learn from them and move on - and I have fun.

When and if I am ready for that type of complication again - because relationships have to be worked at - I know I will still be happy because I had a chance to be just me and "just me" is just fine.

Sometimes its a better option to give up! Or are you just waitin for your prince charmin to come ridin on his horse n pick you up?

Your fed of what? .....Jerks? Being single? Or Are you afraid of love?

Well, if you cant take what life has to offer then you should better give up.! Oh n I see peeps are sayin you should be patient n i guess you had enough waiting.

Wakeup, look around yourself n you may actually figure it out n get outta these nasty thoughts.

Now, go find a date. Atleast try rather wonderin when will you find a nice guy.


AMEN AMEN!!

no wants to date me.....some men are just wayyyyyyyy too young or way toooooooooooo old and ugly. sorry to say that, but some ppl should know that if i don't respond....it's because of those reasons.

i'm just tired tryn with this one guy i was talking to, plus if i go to talk to someone else....they are fake! they might talk all the good stuff, but they see a pic of me.........and take off running. or something got them running, maybe it's because i'm too real and they want to play. too old for that.

so yes basically i give up on LOVE, it's not for everyone obviously! can't try anymore.

Wow.... You've gotten a lot of support on this thread.

When I said I was giving up.... a lot of people agreed.
Showed me, the virtual internet door....
Threw a party on my behalf, and I wasn't invited.


You know what, seeing our pictures next to each other. We would make a cute looking couple....

So...Give up, never really saw any point to threads like these.

And Up2Us...I did invite you, the invitation must have blown away or something, I made all of them out of napkins.

The bitter, sweet.... invitations of a goodbye party.

I think the point of this thread is to express how frustrated she is with the dating/love scene. Sometimes its good to vent to others here on Mingles. These forums are a good way to let people know they are not alone and I think its all good.

sorry but i'm not interested

Good answer Monier!

You could also try becoming a Nun. {/b]

i could.....cause right now i'm so heartless i don't want a man now.

62.3467859% of women worldwide feel the same. Nun apps are up 123%. Why the hell am I all of a sudden into percentages? Damn FOX News!

how could i allow myself into this situation again. I LITERALLY GIVE UP THIS TIME. there's nothing left for me.......