i guess i'd have to gain 10 pounds for her to fit within the limit.


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he is just putting his preferences on his profile so people know what he wants. thats the whole point of a profile. It might narrow his results but if that is what he wants on his profile than who cares...

k, whatever...good luck

just advice from the perpetually single,, lol, for whatever its worth

but I think the foundation of a strong relationship is comfort with oneself

it seems if one is comfortable with themself they can build a strong relationship with someone else who is comfortable

but if either feels inside themself a need to change who they are, they may be changing the very thing that caused the attraction and killing the relationship

its a dichotomy to me, though, to be comforable with BEING overweight, but somehow uncomfortable with others being overweight,,

I think we should bring to a relationship whatever we expect to receive, including the level of 'fitness'

just my opinion though

affirmative Spock. I agree with that.

and how realistic is that if what is important is what u build together and the rapport and love u share?

You would rather bed down and marry a woman who is a T-Total Biotch just because she's skinny ? so like a man - this is the gender equivalent of the woman who ignore the "nice guys" for "bad boys" = men who ignore "heavier girls" and go for looks & thin-ness




(editorial note - I realize that thin women are not necessarily nasty. it's just an example)and I am not over weight myself, actually

apparently he does

It's not what you look like, it's what you are inside.. And I certainly wouldn't date a guy with an attitude like yours...

Aww you ninja perved it cause it isn't showing me you did. You know you coulda dropped me an email or something. Now I just feel like a piece of eye candy.

i never said that attitude was irrelevant. i'd neither date an overweight woman with great attitude nor a slender woman with shltty attitude.


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sounds a lot like sticking to ones own kind to me.


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that's your preference and i respect it.


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well drew u put such an emphasis on it (the thin-ness) that it really made me wonder whether her being thin is so important to you that u would overlook serious character flaws just because she was thin,

I think to some extent we all do that sometimes because most of us have visual/physical preferences that are important to us, and when weighing all factors those physical preferences weight in also

I have seen guys date women who treated them like crap with a capital C just because she was petite

my friends & I would just grab our size 10 jeans, shake our heads.... and say "there he goes again. what a dummazz"



(once again - to clarify - there are many friendly and very nice petite women out there - it's just an example)

i have dated women in the past who treated me poorly and yes they were thin. but i don't believe that every thin person will treat me (or any other man) poorly. yes there are women out there who take advantage and abuse men, but they come in all shapes and sizes.
is physical attraction important to me? absolutely. no doubt about it. but it's not the only thing that's important to me.

and some of the women on here think that i've got a bad attitude and whatever, but none really know me. none really know what i'm about or anything else. and none have ever expressed any interest in finding out. unfortunately, that extends into the real world as well.


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well if things were working perfectly IRL for any of us who are on here, we prolly wouldn't be here

I read an article a few years, months ago (w/e) that described some basic differences in perception (as in how our brains process the physical world - type perception) between men and women. Apparently men tend to be much more visually oriented than women

as an example (just an example not saying this IS the way it always is) a man might become more easily aroused just by seeing a woman do something - flick her hair - lick her lips for example, where a woman may tend be be turned on more often by a tactile or auditory stimulus

not that both genders don't respond all to all types of stimuli, they do. but the research found a strong preference in men for the visual

if by 'kind' we are referring to goals and priorities,, than I think its wise to do so

stick with those who have similar goals and priorities,, if WEIGHTINESS Is a priority for someone , it stands to reason they will keep control of their weight, before expecting their partner to do so,,,,

if financisl stability is important, it seems reasonable for one to be financially stable themself, before expecting their partner to be,,,,

etc,,,

I did you ninja style!!!! Thats how I operate, whatchow!

Ok, here's the skinny or fat---

I just reviewed Drews Profile. I think in my own opinion, that EVERYTHING was placed on there in a humorous tone. Clearly if you read through his entire profile he is using a comedic technique exuding pessimistic behavior. Either he is trying to make us laugh, or he is hiding behind a wall in fear of getting hurt....as many of us do..

I use a wall of unrealistic expectations to stay detached from people. That way I know i wont get hurt. Yet at the same time I want to find that special someone....but just in case they hurt me I wont really like them anyways....this is what I see when you read his profile.

He can like whatever preferences he wants. I dont want to date a midget. Im sorry if thats rude and I know there are a lot of nice midgets in the world, but it's not for me.....peeps gotta stop picking on drew for having an opinion that is relative to his dating life. You dont have to date him...

Okay well idk why size of ne man or women would matter as long as the passion is there... personally ive dated and tried all diffent kinds of men... but the ones ive been into is smaller men cuz im bbw and to be with a bhm is size of penis and how he works it... bigger is better...

he started the thread and asked opinions.....

I found Drew's profile hilarious, just saying. To me the question depends on if you mean overweight litterally. If you are overweight, I think you can pull it off with the right woman and so on. I would think once you reached obesity your chances would dwindle to almost nothing.

Attraction has to be there in a relationship or else you just call it a friendship. If you are strictly looking for slender gals then you are limiting your field, but if that's the field you want to play in, go for it. This is a crazy world, I'm sure you'll find what you are looking for.

I'm a big guy, even at my recomended weight I could never be considered skinny, it's just my build. I'm 6ft 210 and people think I'm 6'3 and 250, something about my build makes me look bigger than I am. I could see that being a problem for women with a similar build.