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Anybody wanting what they don't care to give themselves, deserves to get back the same. They won't want you either. i could be interpreting this wrong and if so, please correct me. it seems that you're saying that because i'm not willing to date someone that i'm not attracted to (in this instance overweight women) that i don't deserve for any woman that i am attracted to to be interested in me. is this a correct interpretation? . . . Yes. Assuming they have the same issue. |
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I was sitting outside for a while today and noticed all different kinds of couples. Big men/small women, small men/big women, older/younger and so on. You need to start being confident in who you are right now, no matter if you're trying to change yourself (body) or not. If you're not confident, women can tell and it could be a turn off.
You've already told us that you're only into skinny women. Perhaps some of those women you're into are only into skinny men? Again, it all comes down to preferences. Everyone has them. If you want people to respect yours, you'll have to be able to respect others as well. |
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At 6'3" and over 250lbs Im a pretty big guy. I never had a problems picking up woman of any size. Some women like the big guys cause they feel safer with a gorilla some don't. This kind of question always falls to her preferences. Stop turning me on, Im miles and miles away!   (i love that little bomb, she is so cute when she's angry)
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At 6'3" and over 250lbs Im a pretty big guy. I never had a problems picking up woman of any size. Some women like the big guys cause they feel safer with a gorilla some don't. This kind of question always falls to her preferences. Stop turning me on, Im miles and miles away! (i love that little bomb, she is so cute when she's angry) No!   
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I don't think it should matter massivley but there should be an attraction. But i am afraid some ppl are just into looks.
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At 6'3" and over 250lbs Im a pretty big guy. I never had a problems picking up woman of any size. Some women like the big guys cause they feel safer with a gorilla some don't. This kind of question always falls to her preferences. Stop turning me on, Im miles and miles away! (i love that little bomb, she is so cute when she's angry) No! Okay, Go Ahead then!   
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i understand that each individual has their own preferences and i don't begrudge them for that.
it's just that when i see comments (not necessarily here) that basically imply that people should stick to their own kind (in this case fat with fat) i am a bit put off. even soufiehere's comment is a bit irritating. because i won't date an overweight woman i don't deserve one who's not overweight? again, we all have preferences. i don't find overweight women attractive. are some of them good people? yes. my best friend is an overweight woman. we hang out, go to movies, and have a good time together. but i wouldn't sleep with her, i wouldn't marry her. for me she's friend material, but not lover material. it's not like i shun overweight people. i can't believe that i have to defend the fact that i have preferences just like anybody else. apparently, because i am overweight i don't have the right to have preferences. . . . |
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Yeah thats a lot of ****. Kind sticking with kind. Whats interesting about that. ppl that think like that are 1 dimensional man.
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At 6'3" and over 250lbs Im a pretty big guy. I never had a problems picking up woman of any size. Some women like the big guys cause they feel safer with a gorilla some don't. This kind of question always falls to her preferences. Stop turning me on, Im miles and miles away! (i love that little bomb, she is so cute when she's angry) No! Okay, Go Ahead then! I have baby blue eyes too.
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i understand that each individual has their own preferences and i don't begrudge them for that. it's just that when i see comments (not necessarily here) that basically imply that people should stick to their own kind (in this case fat with fat) i am a bit put off. even soufiehere's comment is a bit irritating. because i won't date an overweight woman i don't deserve one who's not overweight? again, we all have preferences. i don't find overweight women attractive. are some of them good people? yes. my best friend is an overweight woman. we hang out, go to movies, and have a good time together. but i wouldn't sleep with her, i wouldn't marry her. for me she's friend material, but not lover material. it's not like i shun overweight people. i can't believe that i have to defend the fact that i have preferences just like anybody else. apparently, because i am overweight i don't have the right to have preferences. . . . I don't think that's what soufie was saying. She said that if they felt the same way as you (not into bigger people) then you shouldn't expect them to be into you. I don't see it as she was saying you don't deserve someone who is not overweight. You're only choosing to hear what you want to hear from her response. I don't think anyone here has said that because you are overweight, you don't have the right to have preferences. That being said, you have a negative attitude. That may play a part in not being able to meet women. As someone who is not a skinny girl at all, I've been with men of different sizes. I never felt like I didn't deserve someone who was skinnier than I was. I also don't look for just skinny men, though. |
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Do you feel that an overweight man isn't good enough for/doesn't deserve a slender woman? Or that he shouldn't even try? Or that he's dreaming if he thinks he could attract a slender woman? I think if he is seriously overweight he has more important issues to worry about - like his health. Other than that - he can always ask, but if a person is into working out and fitness, they will most likely be looking for the same in a partner. what gets me is guys thinking they are "entitled" to a Barbie Doll when they do nothing to keep up their appearance (often thinking their money can buy them anything I guess) Does an overweight man have a chance; or should he just settle for whoever is willing to be with him? he should makes his own chances just like anyone else, and not let his chances slip past him. I'm sure there are prolly women who it wouldn't matter to nothing is sadder than what "could" have been. I don't think he should be surprised tho, again, if fit women prefer men who are at least somewhat fit and i know that there are some funny overweight guys out there that women just love, like jack black or kevin james. but not every overweight guy is extremely funny, so let's ignore the exceptions. OK - but any of us can become the exception....that's the up side to life . . . |
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At 6'3" and over 250lbs Im a pretty big guy. I never had a problems picking up woman of any size. Some women like the big guys cause they feel safer with a gorilla some don't. This kind of question always falls to her preferences. Stop turning me on, Im miles and miles away! (i love that little bomb, she is so cute when she's angry) 
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At 6'3" and over 250lbs Im a pretty big guy. I never had a problems picking up woman of any size. Some women like the big guys cause they feel safer with a gorilla some don't. This kind of question always falls to her preferences. Stop turning me on, Im miles and miles away! (i love that little bomb, she is so cute when she's angry) No! Okay, Go Ahead then! I have baby blue eyes too. I know I just raped your profile, hahaha
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Everyone has preferences, that's no big deal. I've seen big gals with smaller men and vise versa.
I read your profile Drew, you have actually put a particular weight. I would think that is gonna stop a woman right in her tracks. Your also limiting yourself.... 135 is more petite and is going to vary on her age, height, if she works out or not... so your set on a certain weight, yet that weight can actually come in several 'styles' what if an attractive tall women is 140, she would be slim...and she was put off by your weight preference? |
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i understand that each individual has their own preferences and i don't begrudge them for that. it's just that when i see comments (not necessarily here) that basically imply that people should stick to their own kind (in this case fat with fat) i am a bit put off. even soufiehere's comment is a bit irritating. because i won't date an overweight woman i don't deserve one who's not overweight? again, we all have preferences. i don't find overweight women attractive. are some of them good people? yes. my best friend is an overweight woman. we hang out, go to movies, and have a good time together. but i wouldn't sleep with her, i wouldn't marry her. for me she's friend material, but not lover material. it's not like i shun overweight people. i can't believe that i have to defend the fact that i have preferences just like anybody else. apparently, because i am overweight i don't have the right to have preferences. . . . u have a right to preferences but I think Sofie makes a point that what u are willing to do to keep up your appearance should not be less than what u would expect someone else to do... unless u find a woman who is just naturally skinny and maybe a woman like that would love a big teddy bear of a guy |
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He actually listed a weight in his profile for women to fall under?
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He actually listed a weight in his profile for women to fall under? if that's the only thing in there that you take offense to then i haven't done my job properly. . . . |
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Like I said, the negative attitude is not going to help you.
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you have to read the whole thing.
almost nothing in my profile is serious. . . . |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Sun 06/12/11 02:08 PM
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I'm talking about in general.. in addition to the profile. I skimmed over the profile and didn't think it was serious, though I wouldn't have been surprised by the weight thing after what you've said here.
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