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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them?
Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? |
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Awhile back I had two or three men like that. After two e-mails they want to meet up. I wasn't one that could trust that easily. When I explained it, one of the guys started telling me I led him on. Excuse me? I talked to you twice! How is that leading you on??
If someone got gnarly with me because I wouldn't meet them quickly enough for their taste? They got blocked |
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Humm actually I'm a pretty forward person and all for meeting quickly. I mean hell set it up for during the day if needed. I always take my car to meet them in a public place.
But if they are being azzholes or just rude then I blow them off I have no time for that nor will I put up with it.... I have lived alone too many years it is either my way or the highway.......... |
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Edited by
EquusDancer
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Sat 05/28/11 08:30 AM
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If they get pissy like that, it's a no go. They can bugger off, as I'm not going to be rushed into something I'm not comfortable with.
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? People often wonder, how soon should I have known this was going to be a bad choice. Well, I have found, you can learn more about a person's psyche by rejecting them, early on, and seeing what they do, than you can by hanging around them forever. A good man will be ..accepting, gracious, move on, happy for you. A bad man will turn aggressive, belligerant and in your face about it. At which point you can breathe a sigh of relief that you bypassed that accident waiting to happen. The good man, you could be friends with, and who knows. The bad ones find someone else they can manipulate. |
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? Well, I have found, you can learn more about a person's psyche by rejecting them, early on, and seeing what they do, than you can by hanging around them forever. So basically you are saying you will reject someone to find out how they react in person or online? If they react bad, then you know it was the right thing to do? But, if they react in a good way, you tell them j/k. I was testing you? Lol. Sorry but that's how I am interpreting this |
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So basically you are saying you will reject someone to find out how they react in person or online? If they react bad, then you know it was the right thing to do? But, if they react in a good way, you tell them j/k. I was testing you? Lol. Sorry but that's how I am interpreting this That would be silly :-) Nah, I politely turn away EVERYone. But I am friends with the good ones simply because of their reactions :-) |
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So basically you are saying you will reject someone to find out how they react in person or online? If they react bad, then you know it was the right thing to do? But, if they react in a good way, you tell them j/k. I was testing you? Lol. Sorry but that's how I am interpreting this That would be silly :-) Nah, I politely turn away EVERYone. But I am friends with the good ones simply because of their reactions :-) There is nothing going on in here... just keep driving... DON'T SLOW DOWN, you idiot, you'll hold up the traffic... keep moving... nothing to see... |
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It works both ways, too. I've run across women who wanted to meet after two or three e-mails. That's a bad sign, in my opinion. The one time I did meet someone quickly, it turned out to be a huge mistake. (This was the arsonist.)
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? not sure I understand...actually my fav dude on here was the one to be careful after we did some talking - guess he saw a side of me that I did not and it's because it is personal but what do u mean by react badly? like being perverts - I block & delete them if they come on too strong sexually right away |
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It works both ways, too. I've run across women who wanted to meet after two or three e-mails. That's a bad sign, in my opinion. The one time I did meet someone quickly, it turned out to be a huge mistake. (This was the arsonist.) I see nothing wrong with an arsonist. Ars on... ars off. Ars on... Ars off. Easy as a whistle. |
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actually my fav dude on here was the one to be careful after we did some talking - guess he saw a side of me that I did not and it's because it is personal We can't say we haven't been forewarned. |
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Thats funny you bring this up....
I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. |
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Edited by
wux
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Sat 05/28/11 03:49 PM
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Insensitive post erased.
sorry. |
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Thats funny you bring this up.... I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. What's your secret? I'd give anything to be contacted by some people half my age....! |
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What do you do ladies with the men who react badly when you are trying to be careful when first meeting or dating them? Personally, I let it go. I figure if he cannot understand that it isn't personal when I am careful in the beginning then that signifies later problems. What do you do? not sure I understand...actually my fav dude on here was the one to be careful after we did some talking - guess he saw a side of me that I did not and it's because it is personal but what do u mean by react badly? like being perverts - I block & delete them if they come on too strong sexually right away I just reread that I meant wait a little while as far as all things intimate NOT be careful because of anything weird.... like being an arsonist (adds other foot to mouth and gives up) |
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Thats funny you bring this up.... I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. What's your secret? I'd give anything to be contacted by some people half my age....! Now you wouldnt. (No disrespect intended)... but the minute they start to talk... the fantasy ends. |
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Thats funny you bring this up.... I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. What's your secret? I'd give anything to be contacted by some people half my age....! Now you wouldnt. (No disrespect intended)... but the minute they start to talk... the fantasy ends. Aww So the fantasy ended when I started talking huh. |
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Thats funny you bring this up.... I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. What's your secret? I'd give anything to be contacted by some people half my age....! Now you wouldnt. (No disrespect intended)... but the minute they start to talk... the fantasy ends. Aww So the fantasy ended when I started talking huh. Now how could you take that personally? Your 30....not 19. I just meant to say that people that are that much younger than me, we dont have enough in common to have alot of conversation... and it had NOTHING to do with you babe. Silly! |
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Thats funny you bring this up.... I just got an email, from a georgous "23" year old man. When I told him I was "flattered", and "thank you" but he was too young for me..im 48, he sent me an email saying that "people that are older, judge younger people, by their age, and not their personality". I wrote back and told him I "was just telling the truth". I think he got his feelings hurt, but my gosh, hes like half my age. What's your secret? I'd give anything to be contacted by some people half my age....! Now you wouldnt. (No disrespect intended)... but the minute they start to talk... the fantasy ends. Aww So the fantasy ended when I started talking huh. Now how could you take that personally? Your 30....not 19. I just meant to say that people that are that much younger than me, we dont have enough in common to have alot of conversation... and it had NOTHING to do with you babe. Silly! I know just being facetious. |
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