No NO NO NO, there is lots wrong with it if you dont want a baby,

Because that little boy or girl is going to have one more person in their lives who doesnt really want them, and no child needs that,

Personal preference is all. Taking care of my nephew has made me realize I don't want to be an uncle yet, let a lone a father. Not that I don't love my nephews and nieces or anything though.

But they are a huge responsibility, and if they where yours, they are always there, morning night, and all the time..

Wonderful and entertaining, but basically if you take on a child, you hand over your life for the next 18 years and their needs sort of come first, especially while they are younger.

exactly

For the last 21 years my life has revolved around my kiddies,Ihave another 6 or 7 years of it and I love it, but it is definately not for everyone, and when you look around at the kiddies who have been ignored and unwanted there is a lot that people have to answer for,

Oh yes, people will definitely answer for it and, it's not for everyone.

The Joys of having a baby.

O it is very joyful, gets tiring at times, but seeing them grow up happy and healthy is very rewarding. I just have more than enough kids in my life right now is all. lol

In 1975 there was a girl I knew who I had always liked but she had a boyfriend. After becoming pregnant he left her. At 8 months of her pregnancy I started dating her. I even visited her in the hospital after she delivered. She gave the little boy, whom she named Peter, up for adoption. After the delivery we continued dating for 8 months. Had she kept little Peter I would have helped as I could though I was not ready to marry.

When we started dating she wanted the companionship of a man yet she was scared if i tried to hug or kiss her because her previous boyfriend had deserted her. I made allowances for this and eventually won her confidence.

For sure.

Depends on circumstances.

I rily tink it absurd & terrifyin datin a woman dat is pregnant,it indid a curse here in africa.

personally it doesnt matter to me if you think you can fill that role of being that child's father and treat them like they where your flesh and blood then go for it, its about being a man. SEX doesnt make you the man fatherhood does.

lookin4home, I'm in a very similar situation, only she is 8 months pregnant and we just met, on here, for the first time. We're kinda into each other, but she lives 500 miles away, and I'm only 20. Man, I'm not ready to take care of a kid, I can barely take care of myself...and if I fall for this girl as I stay in touch, that could be bad...I'm just like, maybe I should give up now, just let it go, I'll find other girls who like me and so will you.

If you can't put the kids first don't do it.

2 more (cents) or (sense)

very wise advise,,,we shouldnt penalize children to a destiny of a single parent upbringing because of what adults chose to do or not do,,,,,

it is good for children to have that male and female head of the home, so I wouldnt single out single moms at any stage for lifelong partnership,,,,

it still matters whether you are compatible and have compatible goals and family values AND if you WANT or CAN HANDLE The responsibility of parenting

I wasnt giving advice thats my personal opinion on how I would react. I have an 11yr old son myself she would have to accept. So its not like I'm a solitary male. Im on the pre-owned/used car lot myself so........

l admire you nice lady....................l'm a single father and l know what mean to be parent

so l say yes man, to the op , to date that lady and be careful do not hurt her

It is so unfair for any child to be unwanted. They are so innocent. However, someday those children will grow up and some may harbor bitterness against the parent(s) who didn't want or care for them. A lose/lose situation all the way around.

Based on some of the responses, I get the feeling this is a situation the OP has encountered - and I am in no way qualified to suggest what the OP should/might do in the given situation.

If it's 'just a generic question', I'd say NO - been there, done that with the whole child rearing thing. My attitude wouldn't be conducive to creating an acceptable environment for her or her child.