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I was on a date with a guy who "attempted" to give me an I.Q Test. Questions that I didn't know the answer to...moreover, his questions had zero relvance to what we were talking about....
Hey Guys, is it best to be a Yummy Dummy or a Smarty Farty? Why would a guy "quiz" a woman on a date? It seems when I come across (initially) as cute and dumb...I don't get quizzed. If I sound intellectually inquisitive.... it's a pissing match....at that point, I don't feel very cute.....e.g. last first date. Thoughts...anyone? |
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This guy sounds incredibly "dumb" to me.
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This guy sounds incredibly "dumb" to me. No, duh. But...in a mid-size town in No. California-that's what I'm getting... |
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suppose I deserve that I'm missing the thoughtful place where I'm from in the midst of many who like to mow their lawn...and kill stuff. There ARE some jewels here and there though. 
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suppose I deserve that I'm missing the thoughtful place where I'm from in the midst of many who like to mow their lawn...and kill stuff. There ARE some jewels here and there though.
? Thanks for the flowers..darling. It's ok to mow the lawn and kill stuff. I like to cook, and keep a clean house....but that doesn't seem to matter.my I.Q is too low... |
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I'll just hope he didn't "literally" say, "no duh"!
one more flower
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I'll just hope he didn't "literally" say, "no duh"! one more flower
No. I said that....hey, what's a a kool kat doing in a place like this...at this ungodly hour? lol! |
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LMAO!....same as you I suppose...hahaha Shoot!
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Well, from my personal story I can kind of understand why he asked.
In my life, my ex continually told me that she was dumb and I was very intelligent. No matter what I told her she believed that she wasn't smart enough for me. - I really did respect her thoughts and ideas and truly thought she was intelligent. This became a big problem in our marriage and part of the reason she left. I don't talk about my IQ or quiz anyone. (well, with one exception but I knew before I talked about it that her IQ was slightly higher than mine) But, I have had a few women I have been interested in tell me that I am too smart and they are not. Generally when that happens, it is all downhill from there. I am friends with all of them. but there is no way we can date. Has nothing to do with what I want, it is their perspective. My ex continually tore herself down and I continually tried to lift her up. That gets exhausting after awhile and there is a real temptation to angrily agree with them. Obviously that is a really bad idea. 
I know the type of woman I click with. One of the things all the women I clicked with had in common was they were very intelligent (among a few other things). I don't seek it out or exclude anyone based on their intelligence, but this is what I have come to realize. But that is only what I have experienced so far. I would never rule out any woman for any reason until we get to know each other.
There has been one woman that I think we would have a great life together who freely admits she is not intelligent but is ok with it. But she is very wise and aware of life around her. She is just cute. But unavailable. 
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Well, from my personal story I can kind of understand why he asked. In my life, my ex continually told me that she was dumb and I was very intelligent. No matter what I told her she believed that she wasn't smart enough for me. - I really did respect her thoughts and ideas and truly thought she was intelligent. This became a big problem in our marriage and part of the reason she left. I don't talk about my IQ or quiz anyone. (well, with one exception but I knew before I talked about it that her IQ was slightly higher than mine) But, I have had a few women I have been interested in tell me that I am too smart and they are not. Generally when that happens, it is all downhill from there. I am friends with all of them. but there is no way we can date. Has nothing to do with what I want, it is their perspective. My ex continually tore herself down and I continually tried to lift her up. That gets exhausting after awhile and there is a real temptation to angrily agree with them. Obviously that is a really bad idea.
I know the type of woman I click with. One of the things all the women I clicked with had in common was they were very intelligent (among a few other things). I don't seek it out or exclude anyone based on their intelligence, but this is what I have come to realize. But that is only what I have experienced so far. I would never rule out any woman for any reason until we get to know each other.
There has been one woman that I think we would have a great life together who freely admits she is not intelligent but is ok with it. But she is very wise and aware of life around her. She is just cute. But unavailable.
Well....you sound like a very lucky man. You get what you want...and accept what you cannot change....rare breed.... |
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Well, from my personal story I can kind of understand why he asked. In my life, my ex continually told me that she was dumb and I was very intelligent. No matter what I told her she believed that she wasn't smart enough for me. - I really did respect her thoughts and ideas and truly thought she was intelligent. This became a big problem in our marriage and part of the reason she left. I don't talk about my IQ or quiz anyone. (well, with one exception but I knew before I talked about it that her IQ was slightly higher than mine) But, I have had a few women I have been interested in tell me that I am too smart and they are not. Generally when that happens, it is all downhill from there. I am friends with all of them. but there is no way we can date. Has nothing to do with what I want, it is their perspective. My ex continually tore herself down and I continually tried to lift her up. That gets exhausting after awhile and there is a real temptation to angrily agree with them. Obviously that is a really bad idea.
I know the type of woman I click with. One of the things all the women I clicked with had in common was they were very intelligent (among a few other things). I don't seek it out or exclude anyone based on their intelligence, but this is what I have come to realize. But that is only what I have experienced so far. I would never rule out any woman for any reason until we get to know each other.
There has been one woman that I think we would have a great life together who freely admits she is not intelligent but is ok with it. But she is very wise and aware of life around her. She is just cute. But unavailable.
Well....you sound like a very lucky man. You get what you want...and accept what you cannot change....rare breed.... Thank you. 
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Good luck on your search for love and happiness!
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You too.
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I'll be honest and say that I thought you were very young from what you were asking (couldn't tell much from the picture), but after looking at your profile, I see that you're 49. At 49, you're happy with being a "yummy dummy?" Why?
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There are ways to get a read on someone's intellectual level without the need for blatant quizzery.
Having said that, I have to admit I can see why someone might resort to such a tactic. Having seen little other than Yummy Dummies over the course of my life, I can sympathize with someone who feels the ongoing frustration of being unable to find a partner whose conversational gamut goes beyond shoes, babies, and American Idol. So, while I don't condone the methodology, I fully acknowledge the underlying concern. |
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I was on a date with a guy who "attempted" to give me an I.Q Test. Questions that I didn't know the answer to...moreover, his questions had zero relvance to what we were talking about.... Hey Guys, is it best to be a Yummy Dummy or a Smarty Farty? Why would a guy "quiz" a woman on a date? It seems when I come across (initially) as cute and dumb...I don't get quizzed. If I sound intellectually inquisitive.... it's a pissing match....at that point, I don't feel very cute.....e.g. last first date. Thoughts...anyone? Sounds like you've just been talking to some yucky... duckys? IDK
Seriously though, don't hide who you are, if they can't handle your true self, find someone who can. There's plenty of men out there that appreciate and know how to handle intelligent women. |
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I was on a date with a guy who "attempted" to give me an I.Q Test. Questions that I didn't know the answer to...moreover, his questions had zero relvance to what we were talking about.... Hey Guys, is it best to be a Yummy Dummy or a Smarty Farty? Why would a guy "quiz" a woman on a date? It seems when I come across (initially) as cute and dumb...I don't get quizzed. If I sound intellectually inquisitive.... it's a pissing match....at that point, I don't feel very cute.....e.g. last first date. Thoughts...anyone? 
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"Yummy Smarty"
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"Yummy Smarty" 
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I was on a date with a guy who "attempted" to give me an I.Q Test. Questions that I didn't know the answer to...moreover, his questions had zero relvance to what we were talking about.... Hey Guys, is it best to be a Yummy Dummy or a Smarty Farty? Why would a guy "quiz" a woman on a date? It seems when I come across (initially) as cute and dumb...I don't get quizzed. If I sound intellectually inquisitive.... it's a pissing match....at that point, I don't feel very cute.....e.g. last first date. Thoughts...anyone?
That's why your date always looks surprised, huh? j/k
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