Has anyone else noticed that half the profiles (or more) have things in my "about me" where it's just "I like music" or "blueberry muffins!" "Not my name is..." or "on a perfect date I like to..." I mean I understand most people are on these things looking at pictures, but how do you establish talking to someone with one line.

My profile has a few convo starters, but I have not had much success on this because I am looking for communication...(and as I mentioned earlier...people are here for looks. :-p) I feel communication is key, that is why my past girlfriends are now "exes." We ran out of things to talk about, then things to do, then everything fizzled. So saying "I need someone to save me" as your whole paragraph won't get you much success...because not all guys look at the picture only. ;-)

Hi cfones, You're a relative newbie, so I'll be glad to start a converstaion with you. (Don't worry. I don't plan to look up your profile and hit on you). On this site, I think that very little is generated from the profiles. In many cases they only succeed in turning a lot of people off. Good profiles are difficult to compose. The interest generally initiates in the forums. This is where people get a decent impression of who you are and what you are like. I see this is your 5th posting. Get busy, and you are likely to make friends (and probably a few enemies) . This site is a lot more like real life than other dating sites.

but we live in a world with decreasing patience so MANY people prefer shorter profiles which give them a basic and succinct idea of who they are looking at so they can make a quick decision and then find out more later,,,

then there are those who prefer more detail so that they know upfront any small detail that might mean they were wasting their time


and as many as there are who dont like one liner profiles, IM sure there are far more who dont wish to read a mini book

its hard to figure out the balance sometimes, but it comes with time

I appreciate the response...only a newbie to this site. I don't mean writing an autobiography on yourself or war and peace...I mean like I would put "I'm a relatively simple guy, I like bowling, wine tasting, love to cook, and good sense of humor." I personally feel "someone save me" is an act of despair as opposed to a dating thing. That's less than 20 words. If that's trying people's patience, then that would not look good for future generations! Also Artlo, thanks for not hitting on me.

it could also be someones way of leading a conversation, it gives the viewer their topic of discussion right off the bat

'save you from what?'

I've seen profiles that said about as much for people who draw interest like honey attracts bees. These are people who are active in the forums. They are seen by many times more people that those who just post a profile. Good luck.

Thanks. Guess I'm just old fashioned and not enjoying the subtlety...usually when I just say a one liner in my "paragraph," (like "hampers hold clothes") it gets me over looked. To each their own.

Yup, the forums are the place to be if you want people to see you.

And most profiles are about as interesting and informative as the ingredients list on the Planters Peanuts jar.

Ummmmm, but I just looked at yours in it only had a couple of words, that told me nothing about you..

Just stay in here thats where you ge to know who people are..
good luck and have fun

When I filled out the stuff for my profile, it wasn't with finding a date in mind. Heck, I even have it displaying 'Drinks?: Often' to scare em off. (Although, I do drink every day. It's not healthy, not having some daily water/ juice intake of some sort)
I signed up to lurk around in the computer forum.

Not all guys look at the pictures only? I call bull on that comment. The first thing that attracts a man to a woman is their looks not the fact that they can communicate.

I haven't sent an email to someone I didn't meet in the forums since 2008. I don't even peruse the people outside of the forums. I usually send or receive an email from someone based on a conversation in the forums as well. Hang in there and good luck.

yeah...when you can't beat em, join em...i shoulda copied/pasted what I had before...

I have passed up many women because they couldn't carry a conversation, not I looked for 2 seconds and thought "oh, they aren't hot, I don't care for them." No...I stayed for quite some time. It may be the first thing they see...but my first g/f wasn't ugly, but she wasn't what most guys go after...I stayed with her because she was an animal rights person.

You may be the exception to this but I can tell you from my experience guys won't contact you unless you are drop dead gorgeous. The guys here don't want an intelligent woman that can talk about more than clothes and shoes. I went on a date with a guy as we discusses renovating as I was able to renovate my own house. After that date; he said he couldn't date me because I knew too much.

OMG you read those too!?!?!

gosh so much sodium, it's awful!!

I want to know whhy so many blokes just think that you write your profile so they can say OH I read your profile and then tell you that they think you are so interesting and believe that you are the one for them..

My profile clearly states I am looking for friends not a husband...

Wy tell me they have read it if they havent..

would be surprised if they even read the first line..

Yeah, I love those.

I get e-mails that say "I just read your profile and I really liked it. Where do you live and what do you do? What kind of person are you looking for?"

OK, unless there's some new kind of amazingly rapid and pervasive short-term memory loss going around, these people are lying.

Unfortunately, most people do not bother to read profiles, so conversation starters don't really help. I have some too, but the emails I get from non-forum members are often just asking questions that have already been answered in my profile.

And here I have been looking for an intelligent woman to carry on a conversation. He doesn't know what he is missing...