I don't think you can really generalize and say all, or even most guys are like this. Of course there are going to be some who are insecure and are intimidated by intelligent women. But, there are also many out there who are attracted to intelligent women.

First thing people see is a picture so initially contact is made entirely because the picture caught their attention, at least for the most part...Then you have people like me who love cartoons and a witty nickname, but I'm weird, like alien weird.

Since I have friends and family to have a social life with I tend to date more for the desire to have a personal relationship.

At my age I have a pretty well develope idea of my personality and what is going to fit with it.

So it is nice if someone can give more than the a few spoonfuls of the usual non-comittal dribble.

If trying to pull enough info out of their profile is like chopping wood I am not going to make the effort to research their posts.

They have made the effort to make a committment to the revelation/search they sure are not going to commit to anything more.

Oh my gosh, and especially yours Lex, it tells you straight.
it took me ages to get through it and i had to go back 3 or 4 times

I guess when I was loking at people, it was the picture, I liked honest faces and happy faces, Gentleness and fun are very important to me.

Well,

Can't avoid it.

Everyone looks at the pictures first. If you don't like what you see for whatever reason, you won't even bother reading the profile.

On the flip side, if you really see what you like, you won't see the obvious stop signs in the profile. "Oh, they don't really mean that" or "I am good enough, once they get to know me, what they said will be tossed by the wayside."

We want what we want. We are kind of human that way...

You are too kind. I guess the guys here prefer the dumb silent type of gals.

A photo or lack thereof IS the first impression you make...like it or not.

For a novice, Profile content is important.

To us jaded forum hounds....actual personality, humor, intellect....or the complete lack therof, is where the attraction/ repulsion lays.

Hang around and get to know people long enough and you will soon discover that many people you first had the impression that they were crass douche bags...are actually good friends and great people. Others that you thought were decent will reveal themselves to be souless. Still others ARE who they present themselves to be. This place really aint that far off from reality. You talk to people long enough..you will actually get to know who people truly are.

Maybe not all the guys for you but every single guy I have met over the past 14 years has been that way. Guess it must be a fantastic coincidence that they are all like that? Oh yes, forgot to mention I live in redneck country where looks matter and brains don't.

I must be a exception then, dumb silent types are boring.

Ah, well sorry to hear that. I've not really encountered guys much like what you've described.