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Topic: What do women want? Finally an answer
oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sat 05/14/11 03:07 PM Edited by oldsage on Sat 05/14/11 03:07 PM
"...to be in charge of her own life." And that is why I am single. I have not found any man who could give me that. I had to take it. Doing so, made them unhappy. Jeannie, it is not something anyone can give to you, because they NEVER had "charge" of your life. You are looking for someone to ACCEPT you as you are & love you as you are. Hard thing to learn to understand, but if a person learns the idea, it can be done. I relate it to an old butterfly saying: Catch a butterfly, set it free. If it comes back, it is your's, if it doesn't...it never was. Tough to understand, but great when someone does. Unfortunately most men, (the larger percent of them) and maybe that includes women, but my experience is with men... anyway, most think they OWN YOU and they try to take charge of your life. And if you allow them to do it, then yes, they are in charge. If you don't allow them to take charge, then there is a constant battle and that battle is a power struggle. Life is too damn short. So in taking back my life, I had to go all the way to divorce to get that accomplished. It was the only way to gain their respect and take back my life. That is why I am pretty certain that marriage is not for me, then or now. The ONLY thing I want charge/control of is ME. Hard enough job, by it self.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sat 05/14/11 03:27 PM
"...to be in charge of her own life." And that is why I am single. I have not found any man who could give me that. I had to take it. Doing so, made them unhappy. Jeannie, it is not something anyone can give to you, because they NEVER had "charge" of your life. You are looking for someone to ACCEPT you as you are & love you as you are. Hard thing to learn to understand, but if a person learns the idea, it can be done. I relate it to an old butterfly saying: Catch a butterfly, set it free. If it comes back, it is your's, if it doesn't...it never was. Tough to understand, but great when someone does. Unfortunately most men, (the larger percent of them) and maybe that includes women, but my experience is with men... anyway, most think they OWN YOU and they try to take charge of your life. And if you allow them to do it, then yes, they are in charge. If you don't allow them to take charge, then there is a constant battle and that battle is a power struggle. Life is too damn short. So in taking back my life, I had to go all the way to divorce to get that accomplished. It was the only way to gain their respect and take back my life. That is why I am pretty certain that marriage is not for me, then or now. The ONLY thing I want charge/control of is ME. Hard enough job, by it self. Then stay single. I'm sure if you found a wife, she might want to start taking charge of your life.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 05/14/11 03:28 PM
"...to be in charge of her own life." And that is why I am single. I have not found any man who could give me that. I had to take it. Doing so, made them unhappy. Jeannie, it is not something anyone can give to you, because they NEVER had "charge" of your life. You are looking for someone to ACCEPT you as you are & love you as you are. Hard thing to learn to understand, but if a person learns the idea, it can be done. I relate it to an old butterfly saying: Catch a butterfly, set it free. If it comes back, it is your's, if it doesn't...it never was. Tough to understand, but great when someone does. Unfortunately most men, (the larger percent of them) and maybe that includes women, but my experience is with men... anyway, most think they OWN YOU and they try to take charge of your life. And if you allow them to do it, then yes, they are in charge. If you don't allow them to take charge, then there is a constant battle and that battle is a power struggle. Life is too damn short. So in taking back my life, I had to go all the way to divorce to get that accomplished. It was the only way to gain their respect and take back my life. That is why I am pretty certain that marriage is not for me, then or now. The ONLY thing I want charge/control of is ME. Hard enough job, by it self. Then stay single. I'm sure if you found a wife, she might want to start taking charge of your life. that's for sure

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 05/14/11 04:25 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Sat 05/14/11 04:53 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you giggle

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 05/14/11 05:10 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 05/14/11 05:10 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you giggle

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 05/14/11 05:11 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh!

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 05/14/11 05:13 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 05/14/11 05:17 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO me bad!

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Sat 05/14/11 05:17 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO the trick is to help you realize you said it..we didn't.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 05/14/11 05:19 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO me bad! that's for sure..

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 05/14/11 05:20 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO the trick is to help you realize you said it..we didn't. who said what ??

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 05/14/11 05:22 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO me bad! that's for sure.. and you love it!

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 05/14/11 05:24 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO me bad! that's for sure.. and you love it! you being bad ? hmmmm

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 05/14/11 05:26 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO me bad! that's for sure.. and you love it! you being bad ? hmmmm If I wasn't....you wouldn't know what to do.

Sharris Joined Sun 12/10/06 Posts: 7300	Sat 05/14/11 05:27 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO the trick is to help you realize you said it..we didn't. who said what ?? I know the dementia game..don't even try.

vivian2981 Joined Thu 04/16/09 Posts: 37289	Sat 05/14/11 05:29 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO the trick is to help you realize you said it..we didn't. who said what ?? I know the dementia game..don't even try.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 05/14/11 05:30 PM
that's for sure You're too hardheaded....a woman would go nuts trying to change you uh huh! you don't have to tell the whole world, ya nO me bad! that's for sure.. and you love it! you being bad ? hmmmm If I wasn't....you wouldn't know what to do. wanna bet

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 05/14/11 05:31 PM
I know the dementia game..don't even try. the who what how ??