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Edited by
Veldt_Falsetto
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Well, basically there are two sides to this story.
My side is well, I've been lonely, never really been happy, or popular, heck I haven't really had any friends and from my point of view I felt I was ok...an alright person, most girls didn't wanna know and the ones that did had enough after a week. All of my early relationships I've been used for sex and I have no idea how to be in one properly. One of my exs (who is surprsingly one of my best friends), she loved me, she wrote everything down...and we've been reading it. I was horrible...I've been horrible with everyone I've ever met, sleeping with them and then becoming disinterested, leading people on, cheating, that's only the start. I was never physical...I just didn't care. I had no idea until now...most of these things I don't even remember. I know I don't deserve it but, I need help. I want to change things, I want to make things right, make up for everyone I've hurt and everything I've done. What can I do? How can they forgive me? I've been punishing myself for 4 or 5 years now, and I don't know how to forgive myself...I just don't know what to do. Help anyone? |
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The past is the past...let it go...live each day going forward a better person. Just let go....
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Stop worrying about trying to get people to forgive you, as there's a good chance they're not going to and just move on. Work on not treating new people who come into your life as you did to those in your past.
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Keep talking to God he's showing you the way as you speak
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The past is the past...let it go...live each day going forward a better person. Just let go.... Percisely. FORGIVE YOURSELF, so that you can move and be the person you want to be. You should admit your wrong doings and apologize to those you've wronged, but get started on making yourself better first. If you do feel that you need help, do get the help. There's numbers to call, and places you can go, even if you don't have money, you can get help if you need it. |
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The past is the past...let it go...live each day going forward a better person. Just let go.... ^^this and until you forgive yourself, it won't matter in your heart whether anyone else will! EVERYONE makes mistakes and you are learning from yours! Learning from them makes you a better person and you need to accept yourself for who you are right now! |
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Thanks for not judging
This whole self forgiveness thing, I am unsure on how to achieve it but I'll try, any more advice or support is welcome though, thank you |
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Well, basically there are two sides to this story. My side is well, I've been lonely, never really been happy, or popular, heck I haven't really had any friends and from my point of view I felt I was ok...an alright person, most girls didn't wanna know and the ones that did had enough after a week. All of my early relationships I've been used for sex and I have no idea how to be in one properly. One of my exs (who is surprsingly one of my best friends), she loved me, she wrote everything down... and we've been reading it. I was horrible...I've been horrible with everyone I've ever met, sleeping with them and then becoming disinterested, leading people on, cheating, that's only the start. I was never physical... I just didn't care. I had no idea until now...most of these things I don't even remember. I know I don't deserve it but, I need help. I want to change things, I want to make things right, make up for everyone I've hurt and everything I've done. What can I do? How can they forgive me? I've been punishing myself for 4 or 5 years now, and I don't know how to forgive myself...I just don't know what to do. Help anyone? You forgive yourself, by setting a standard. Standard=Never do that again. And it would never hurt to tell the ones you hurt, how sorry you are, if you need to. Each day is new, with new choices. A place to start. |
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I think the fact that you have acknowledged things in your life that you felt were inappropriate behavior shows that you have changed as a person. Leave it at that....those who truley love you will forgive you and give second chances to trust in you...You will establish new friends and lovers throughout life and also receive second chances(as a first) through them as well. GOOD LUCK!
I think we all do things when we are younger that we regret... |
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Edited by
wux
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Sun 04/17/11 07:41 PM
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I don't think you've been bad. You did what felt good -- what's so bad about that? You can say "no, that wasn't so bad, after all. Sex is good." Or you don't even need to say that. You just say... erm... why condemn myself? What's it going to matter in a thousand years? In forty-two thousand, two hundred and forty-seven years? Who will care?
You see, you are only making an elephant's heap out of a molar. This is nothing. Hitler went on to torture and kill millions, and he never had much headaches over that. Your values are yours, and nobody has the right to say they are wrong. If you want to screw young girls, (18+, or 21+ in some jurisdictions), then what's stopping you? You see, that's what nature wants you to do. If nature did not want you to screw more than one girl, then nature would have made all ladies a different opening, and men's rods a different shape, too, so that there was only one match for each guy and for each girl. But that's not the case, as far as my experiene has shown it. Go out; add, subtract, divide and multiply. Those are god's words, exactly. Who are you to argue with a guy of that calibre? |
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Just keep on doing the next right thing. Its a way of not hurting others or yourself in the process. Sometimes we can be our worse enemy so to speak by not forgiving ourselves. We can judge our insides by other peoples' outsides. One of the promises in the program that I follow is that we will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. Good guilt can be like an idiot light to let us know something is wrong but bad guilt lead us in the path of insanity because we might not let ourself move beyond it. We can get stuck in a time loop and deja vu just keeps on happening. We must move on because there really isn't any standing still in life.
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