I dated a girl and she like me at first until she found out i thought about asking some other women out(which i didn't) but anyways we stayed together for awhile and her kids started liking me alot, i knew this was good if i stayed together with there mother, but when i tried balencing the kids and giving there mother attention i got rejected. Is she psycho?, or did i do something wrong they weren't even my kids by blood?

I don't get it. Are you asking were you wrong to break up with their mom simply because they got attached to you? If so, the answer is no, the relationship was between you and her, it's unfortunate the kids got involved before it was a "done deal" but it happens. Maybe next time hold off on meeting the kids until you know you want to be in a committed relationship with their mother.

no, but was wanting to know why a girl wouldn't want to try to work things out with me because i took her kids in as my own and looked past the rough spots in our relationship?

Maybe she thought things were beyond fixing? It's not good to have kids in the middle of a relationship that's not going well.

i suppose so, thanks for your thoughts.

Perhaps she was jealous of the relationship you had with the kids.. The reason doesn't really matter.. It didn't work out, it's time to move on and NO ONE PERSON validates you....

I've been in that situation a couple of times, well similar anyways. One woman actually used my attachment to her kids against me when I finally had enough of her psycho ways. (She was constantly blaming me for cheating, even though I never gave her a reason to think I was let alone I would never cheat anyhow).

It's tough when kids are involved. If it wasn't for the fact that she moved to Florida when I moved to Arizona, I would probably still be with her. Those kids were my life, and they were even calling me dad much to my ambition to not have them do so.

I don't ever want to have to abandon another kid, I know i could have been there still, but she always played games with me. I had to get away from her.

You probably shouldn't date anymore women with kids... It's unfortunate but life happens and you'll get through it and move on... I've been attached as well but you have to let go when it ends.. It's very rare that you can stay in contact in a healthy way...

Welcome to the club... lol

You're welcome.

i think i'm going to leave the club, lol

yes, i need to stay away from woman with kids.

clubs can be dumb especially negative or stereotypical ones..

Do what works for you but if you're one that gets attached and it's hard not to (kids are cute and sweet most of the time) then maybe women with kids are not for you...

very unfortunate. Sorry to hear. Hope you find a great girl for YOU.

yes, thanks for the chat.

Just because the kids likes you does not mean there was chemistry between you and their mother She just was not into you as much as the kids was time to move on....

Seems to me, you broke trust first.

He also said he didn't ask the woman out, he just thought about it. Thinking something isn't cheating, is it?

Telling someone you want to date elsewhere,
seems as bad.