Hello,
I am now 37 years old and I think I look average, not ugly anyway. I am kind and funny but when It comes to the matters of the heart it just wont work... How do you get your self esteem to grow when all turns to ****?
Advice please and please be nice...

yours, Niklas

it's all in knowing you are a good person...and finding that one person that knows it also...don't try so hard...just allow it to happen...it will

I water my plants twice a day and they grow quite fast.

As it happens, I think that this website could be the best possible place for you. Getting into the forums and rubbing cyber-bodyparts with a lot of people really does work! I've fallen in love maybe half a dozen times here. Some of that has come back to me.

Why is it so hard? People have been asking that question for a thousand years. It just is. There is something to be gained here

-Art

Thanks, Art. you are a very wise man! thanks

You should ask your self why it turns to ****!Then instead of thinking negitive think well if she didnt like or love me she wouldnt be here with me.So if your self-esteem is low just go out get u a new shirt new hair cut then go out to town to find miss right.im sure ur not doing nothing wrong maybe your self esteem is the problem ok just think ur just as good as any other man in this crazy world.ok just take it easy man and relax.

You need to work on actually liking yourself and being happy with yourself first. Once that happens, then worry about dating. Finding someone to date when you aren't happy with yourself to begin with isn't going to fix everything.

Good luck! Get to know people here and have fun.

just get with any woman. especially if she has been in several failed relationships. she will be willing to change you into whatever she thinks you need to be. the less self esteem you have the more aggressive of a woman you need. she can fix you, and she will. once you have learned she will continue to tweak and fine tune you until you are perfect, then she will change you some more. all you have to do is wave goodbye to your manhood (you may want to bulk up physically so you can handle carrying her purse)

Not all women are like that.

Just thinking after looking at your profile, perhaps if you tweeked it, the type of women that respond to you might be different. You list your only interest as porn. You might be the nicest, most sensitive guy around. When your profile shows that you are the women that respond should be different.

sure...I was just trying to be a bit funny but I do see the harm in that so thanks for the input and I will change it to...summervacations or something more pc...thanks again, Niklas

You need to get dressed up one night. Now, you need to look sharp, and you need to have a confident attitude. Go out to a bar, or maybe some club, and just be cool. Bring some friends along, and just walk around making eye contact with chicks. Seriously. I am not kidding. Do this. You don't even have to say anything. Why? You know how valuable eye contact is with a chick? Very.....VERY.....valuable. If a chick sees confident eyes, she will want to know you. She may not say anything to you, but watch how she will keep looking at you. It will sroke your ego, will build your confidence, and sooner or later you will feel awesome enough about yourself that you will talk to chicks.

Bottom line. Woman love a confident guy. Not an egomaniac. But a confident (comfortable in his own skin) guy. I rest my caase. Go with God.

Bummer I hate it when I double post

Ha ha, even I thought It was worth it...an advice is an advice I guess...

Thanks, dude...You are totally right but to make it happen is a bit trickier but watch out for a sharp dressed man with the biggest bedroomeyes in town... Have a nice one, my friend!

ok this is what i do...
-first i evaluate my wardrobe
-second i go shopping
-third i evaluate my hair style
-forth i do something about my hairstyle
-fifth i evaluate my shoes
-sixth i go and buy new shoes
-seventh $#!T i just bought a whole new outfit =P
-eighth i go out and wander the world show my new looks off
-nineth i evaluate peoples attitudes towards me by saying hi
-tenth if not good i go home change if good i stay in my outfit =D
than just do this for the next few months, than eventually
you should have a bunch of new clothes for yourself. ugly clothes
usually has a impact on your self-esteem. well this is what i've
been doing and i seem to be doing alright "just the other night at
a rave" LOL one of my forums as u can see... a 16 yr old threw herself at me. was it me? no it was my new clothes! and new shoes!
and new hair style! new outfit! new looks! is what you aim for
if u want a good self-esteem

You have to decide that you are the most important person in your life. I have a few rules that may help you.

Always present yourself as if you are someone important.

Say no more than you must.

Trust your instincts.

Balls will take you further than brains.

Take action! Doing the wrong thing is better than doing nothing.

Never chase. It only makes you seem needy.

A real Timex is cooler than a fake Rolex.

Always use your manners, but reserve respect for those who have earned it.

Never rush. If it's important, people will wait.

Always keep your word. If you say you'll do it, do it. If you can't do it don't say you'll try, say no.

Always assume any insult is a joke. By doing so it actually becomes a joke.

It's better to be respected than feared, but it's better to be feared than loved.

The worst thing you can do to an enemy is to ignore him.

or blast him! hahaahah