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josie68
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Thu 03/24/11 11:58 PM
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So, you just can't trust anyone? Friends? Family? No one? I find that hard to believe. I have no family, and no friends in real life. Basically, everyone I THOUGHT was a friend abandoned me after the car accident in Feb. of 2009. That's when I learned everything I needed to know about trust.  nor would I. Thanks, Terry! And I appreciate it! The people who really ARE my friends are people from this site -- I suppose it's strange, but I've gotten more genuine friendship from this site than I've EVER had in real life -- and that's why I've been here so long.... Hey Lex, you can add me to your list of friends on here. I know how you feel. I've been there before and don't want to go back either. Take care, :) Thank you!  people here know me better than anyone else, simply because on here, I show who i am, at work I am whatever people want me to be, My children know who i am but nobody else has any idea. i dont have friends, I do have family and a few people who i say hi to and laugh with, I dont have anyone i would go and visit with, nor anyone who i would speak to if something was wrong, basically I deal with things by just smiling and ignoring them. I dont miss people as I am always surrounded by them, I just dont let them any closer than neccessary, as somehow I always get myself into trouble or they take advantage of me, i just dont know how to say no , nor can i judge character very well. i tend to want to believe everyone, but I am not really game to trust them anymore. here it is easy, nobody expects anything and everyone just says what they think, it is a great place to come and I love it here. Ilove the openess. Lex if you ever want another friend, i am here as well. 
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So, you just can't trust anyone? Friends? Family? No one? I find that hard to believe. I have no family, and no friends in real life. Basically, everyone I THOUGHT was a friend abandoned me after the car accident in Feb. of 2009. That's when I learned everything I needed to know about trust. nor would I. Thanks, Terry! And I appreciate it! The people who really ARE my friends are people from this site -- I suppose it's strange, but I've gotten more genuine friendship from this site than I've EVER had in real life -- and that's why I've been here so long.... Hey Lex, you can add me to your list of friends on here. I know how you feel. I've been there before and don't want to go back either. Take care, :) Thank you! people here know me better than anyone else, simply because on here, I show who i am, at work I am whatever people want me to be, My children know who i am but nobody else has any idea. i dont have friends, I do have family and a few people who i say hi to and laugh with, I dont have anyone i would go and visit with, nor anyone who i would speak to if something was wrong, basically I deal with things by just smiling and ignoring them. I dont miss people as I am always surrounded by them, I just dont let them any closer than neccessary, as somehow I always get myself into trouble or they take advantage of me, i just dont know how to say no , nor can i judge character very well. i tend to want to believe everyone, but I am not really game to trust them anymore. here it is easy, nobody expects anything and everyone just says what they think, it is a great place to come and I love it here. Ilove the openess. Lex if you ever want another friend, i am here as well. Thanks, I appreciate that! And I also enjoy your postings....! |
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Trust like respect must be earned.
Give the opportunity to earn your trust. |
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I can't trust the OP, but I feel I can trust everyone else here...
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I can't trust the OP, but I feel I can trust everyone else here... Guess she didn't trust us...or just flaked out 
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Methinks she had personal issues
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yes! I am sure we all have those, but osme of us cope better than others I guess
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I can see being careful about who you trust. But I need to be able to trust some people in my life. I can't go through life being paranoid, thinking everyone is out to get me. to me, it's not about someone out to get me, it's more of a trust in people to do whats right, or not to lie, or to be there when they are supposed to be.... i just find it easier to do everything myself, rather than to trust someone else with much of anything... |
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I have noticed when someone gets upset in real life, they tend to post it here, because I guess venting to a lot of "strangers" is better than to the person who hurt you?
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I trust everyone from the time I meet them to the time they give me reason not to - but I don't leave my doors unlocked or show everyone my most valuable possessions. Not sure where that puts me on trust issues.
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I trust everyone from the time I meet them to the time they give me reason not to - but I don't leave my doors unlocked or show everyone my most valuable possessions. Not sure where that puts me on trust issues. Puts you in the "Smart and cautious, definitely not naive" catergory |
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I have noticed when someone gets upset in real life, they tend to post it here, because I guess venting to a lot of "strangers" is better than to the person who hurt you? Yes, sometimes it is! Sometimes we need opinions that are not biased by people that know the situation & players involved to get a better perspective. Other times, talking with whoever did the hurting just isn't the best option I guess! I generally internalize situations before venting to anyone, but some say I just have trouble expressing my emotions. I actually have trust issues, but also have so many real friends in RL that I could never fathom abandoning the notion of trust with everyone. I just have learned to trust my own intuition over time and have become much more cautious in life. |
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I have noticed when someone gets upset in real life, they tend to post it here, because I guess venting to a lot of "strangers" is better than to the person who hurt you? Yes, sometimes it is! Sometimes we need opinions that are not biased by people that know the situation & players involved to get a better perspective. Other times, talking with whoever did the hurting just isn't the best option I guess! I generally internalize situations before venting to anyone, but some say I just have trouble expressing my emotions. I actually have trust issues, but also have so many real friends in RL that I could never fathom abandoning the notion of trust with everyone. I just have learned to trust my own intuition over time and have become much more cautious in life. it is hard to get advice that means anything from people that only know one side of the issue... sounds more like they want conformation of them being right... |
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it is hard to get advice that means anything from people that only know one side of the issue... sounds more like they want conformation of them being right... that's kinda the answer I was going for. they want validation or sympathy. |
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it is hard to get advice that means anything from people that only know one side of the issue... sounds more like they want conformation of them being right... that's kinda the answer I was going for. they want validation or sympathy. yes, thats why i have a smartazz reply to them, if i say anything at all... they need to figure it out for themselves, not from a group of strangers... we really don't know either one of them, so our advice is basically meaningless... |
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hello everyone my oppion might not count but how can u trust someone just like me I let my guard down it never fails I get hurt everytime my heart can't handle being hurt again this guy I'm dating I'm giving a second chance n I know whats going to happen. Like I said its hard for me to trust my heart is so shattered n crying inside n noone hears me please give me some advices thank u renee
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hello everyone my oppion might not count but how can u trust someone just like me I let my guard down it never fails I get hurt everytime my heart can't handle being hurt again "this guy I'm dating I'm giving a second chance n I know whats going to happen." Like I said its hard for me to trust my heart is so shattered n crying inside n noone hears me please give me some advices thank u renee You are insane by definition...insanity is doing the same thing over & over and expecting a different response! If you know it's not gonna work then just move on & find someone trustworthy |
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You can trust God. Unless you're an atheist and then you're just outta luck.
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hello everyone my oppion might not count but how can u trust someone just like me I let my guard down it never fails I get hurt everytime my heart can't handle being hurt again this guy I'm dating I'm giving a second chance n I know whats going to happen. Like I said its hard for me to trust my heart is so shattered n crying inside n noone hears me please give me some advices thank u renee everyone goes through that stage... but remember, there are different levels of trust...but it sounds like to me you confused about trust because you don't trust yourself to pick the right guy to trust... in your life, your the person that comes first, not some dork that wants to get laid... |
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hello everyone my oppion might not count but how can u trust someone just like me I let my guard down it never fails I get hurt everytime my heart can't handle being hurt again this guy I'm dating I'm giving a second chance n I know whats going to happen. Like I said its hard for me to trust my heart is so shattered n crying inside n noone hears me please give me some advices thank u renee well first of all, your opinion counts...at least as much as anyone else's around here  it's road that is sometimes rough, the heart what did Linda Ronstadt say - it was perfect: Sometimes the heart is just like a wheel you can bend it but you can't mend it You have to give it away renee (ur heart) or else u spend life wondering what would have been....could have been instead of living. sometimes I get so mad at the time I've wasted giving my ex BF second, third, forth etc etc on & on ad nauseum more chances. but I was living I moved on and am ready to live again...whatever that will mean ultimately - I hope it includes love in my life |
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