really in a neeeed for help! please? :(

those in my family who have professed their preference have done just that,, came out and shared it with us

there is probably never a 'good' time to do it, but if you explain how you FEEL and prepare yourself for the range of feelings others will have,,,,it will be a start

thanks for replying.. but it feels a lot too difficult to stand the millions of reactions.. :/ i'm freaked out! :o

Your country is so different from mine.
I have no idea what you face there.

One day, you will want to be
more out than in.

My daughter came out as being Bi many years ago and we all loved her no matter what!!! And I have a gay nephew that we all loove no matter what!! Just pick the time thats right for U!! You might be suprised about how many actually know or at least have a good idea!!! Good luck and hold your head high!!

you dont have to come out to millions,, just start with one who is closest to you,,,

I agree with Mikey,

those who love you will love you regardless of what you 'confess' to them

try not to confuse those who may not believe as you do or ACCEPT your choice with them not loving you

remember that its a two way street, both sides want to be respected and LOVED and permitted to be themself(in both their lifestyle, feelings, beliefs)

turn the knob?

I think you just did. The whole world can read your post... just sayin'. So there.. wasn't all that bad, eh? Hey, its your life. You only live once. So live it the way you want it. Gay, Straight, bi.. whatever.

All I can say is speak up or forever stay in the closet........they will either embrace you or walk away from you......life is too short to let others rule your life.......

This isn't really the best place to get advice since Western Countries mostly don't react strongly to gays (there are exceptions). Some countries, coming "out" will get you killed. I don't know the reactions of the people where you live and I doubt if any of the minglers here know either( but if they do they need to state that!)

You need to find out what happens to people in your culture who "come out" and base your actions accordingly.

Good luck.

hmmmmmmmmmmm

advice from a flying pig

and it was good

who would have ever thought

another good point, It always slips the front of my mind that more than americans are posting,,,

My family has strong, religious roots, and I have two cousins who came out. Now, most of my family does not like the fact that both have proclaimed themselves as gay. A few people in my family will have nothing to do with my cousins. And that is really a shame. Deep down, no matter what, you have to love people for who they are. Sadly, some just cannot do it.

I'm sure it is tough to do, but Cinderella said it best. This is your life. You need to be happy, and if you are gay, then just come on out and admit it. You need to accept that not everyone will like it. But as long as you feel great about it, does it really matter what others think?

Honey, for the amount of people who may not appreciate you when you come out, there is ten fold waiting to love you with open arms. . . wouldnt you much rather be free and be able to move forward with your life and lifestyle.... Look if its not beign gay, its going to be the college you chose, or the job you have or the pay scale you are on...I say come out, the sooner the better, will it be easy, HELL NO, but the sooner you do, the sooner you can move forward with your life. Good Luck. Start meeting some more people in your circle and lifestyle, you will get the support you need and desire, Good luck.

well this is the first time ever said that i guess in front of the world really... i'v never done this.. yeah Cinderella you're right..
i even agree with "soufiehere" people in India are just so backward.. but still the government got out some acts for people like us.. i guess its getting better than before...
it will be much much better if i do it sooner.. that will ease things up.. its gonna be difficult.. well but i'm gonna try stay stronger and take the first step!
thank you all.. more advices are welcome.. it will only help :)

PS: i don't know how the quote thing works so sorry.. :/

A fifty-second commercial during Superbowl ought to do it.

Or producing a world-class bollywood movie, the South Asian version of Sound of Music, with and all-male cast.

I don't know. My worry is how to get a woman to go out on a coffee date with me. I haven't had that experience in five years.

double post

triple post -- this has got to stop.

As I was born in one and have been to the other many times, India and Russia are very much alike. Both have very strong religous values. Both have extensive family roots. Both are very culture oriented, and yes, both have had and still have instances of stoning people to death for such reprehensable acts such as "being gay". Fortunately for me, my family moved to America before I was even 10 but I still go home every summer and have a multitude of friends and family I have to face every year. It seems that the mothers of the world always know before you do. So I say start there. Confide in your mother first and alone. Don't just say "mom i'n gay". Start with something like,

Mom, You know I love you and would never willingly hurt you but, there is something I need to share with you. My life as you may already know. As my mother I am confident you would want me to be happy and healthy. I am healthy and plan to stay that way. As for the happy, That is a matter where you can help me immensely.

Then you explain how you are different. I am pretty sure she will stand by you no matter how much she disagrees with your lifestyle. Then once you have gotten your family comfortabe with your life, get your cute butt to America ;)