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Yeah, it is not good. The "take a break" is usually he wants to see someone else who wants him without anyone else. So he puts you to the side for a while until he see hows it goes with the new girl.
This might not be him, but what ever it is with this guy I would say to move on... Good Luck |
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My boyfriend brokeup with me about three weeks ago because we were to different. Just as I was accepting him for the way he was...Cold...he wanted to "take a break". I asked if he was breaking up with me, he said "yeah". After crying, telling him how much I loved him he told me I had to understand and we could still be friends. I didn't try to contact him in any way. I had time to think everything over and was prepared for when he called me two days later. I was composed and positive which he respected a lot since he has a past of girls going psycho on him. In the three weeks apart I've been keeping busy, still leaving it to him to keep contact. He gives me gifts, like a TV, and calls me regularly, even visits my house now and then. I don't know if it's guilt, that he still has feeling's for me, or if he just wants sex, or something else. Id like to get back together if he does, but it may be to soon. There is no resentment between us. Am I doing the right thing by giving him space and being friendly, or am I stuck as his "friend" forever when I still have feelings for him? Are the gifts...etc...a sigh he is still interested? Any advice is He breaks up with you because you two are different. (First clue, there.) Just as you were accepting him as he was (that might be a problem). Wondering why he had to break up? He moved on real fast then the just can't we be friends. (Ouch). Just as you were trying to get over him he contacts back. Hmm, the relationship with the other girl must not have worked out. No wonder they go psycho on him. He is a heart breaker. He has you on a string and he jerks it once in a while to see if you are on the other end. What a sadist. Then he stalks you. Geez. What a real friend there. You don't resent this monster. Whats wrong with you? Oh, yeah. This guy needs a lot of space. The farther away from you the better. I can't see how you would still be interested in him. With friends like him you don't need enemies. |
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Move on.
If he wants you back he will let you know. At that point, it's entirely up to you to take him back or not. |
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To the OP:
You said "he has a past of girls going psycho on him". Honey, that speaks volumes. You're probably better off moving to greener pastures for a while. Sounds like your friend might have some under-lying issues. Just my op., take it for what it's worth. K. |
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When he broke off with you,,,he also ruled out ANY ""MORE"" deeper with you and him,,,,so NOW,,,you've become his FWB...and his gifts (MAKE HIM FEEL HE'S NOT JUST USING YOU) but in his mind,,,thats all you are to him,,,sorry Krupa called it like I see it to,,,IF your hearts into him,,,,you need to take it back out,,,because HE'S a user and hurter for any REAL COMPASSIONS to get to be MORE with him....Good luck finding this out on your own,,as I am sure in your own way,,you will...I just hope this lightens the deepness you had for him...
Okay everyone has misunderstud...I HAVEN'T had sex with him since we broke up. Hes a freind with NO benefits. Im not like a hooker who would take a TV for sex. I have to much respect for myself to sleep with someone who doesn't love me. |
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My boyfriend brokeup with me about three weeks ago because we were to different. Just as I was accepting him for the way he was...Cold...he wanted to "take a break". I asked if he was breaking up with me, he said "yeah". After crying, telling him how much I loved him he told me I had to understand and we could still be friends. I didn't try to contact him in any way. I had time to think everything over and was prepared for when he called me two days later. I was composed and positive which he respected a lot since he has a past of girls going psycho on him. In the three weeks apart I've been keeping busy, still leaving it to him to keep contact. He gives me gifts, like a TV, and calls me regularly, even visits my house now and then. I don't know if it's guilt, that he still has feeling's for me, or if he just wants sex, or something else. Id like to get back together if he does, but it may be to soon. There is no resentment between us. Am I doing the right thing by giving him space and being friendly, or am I stuck as his "friend" forever when I still have feelings for him? Are the gifts...etc...a sigh he is still interested? Any advice is So he wants to break up but still see you when he wants? I would be showing some balls right in through here and stopping the contact. He can't have it both ways, right? Be free and have you available whenever he gets ready? Hell if that is the case why should he ever be in a committed anything with you? My one cent on it. |
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Yeah, it is not good. The "take a break" is usually he wants to see someone else who wants him without anyone else. So he puts you to the side for a while until he see hows it goes with the new girl. This might not be him, but what ever it is with this guy I would say to move on... Good Luck Excellent advice! |
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I got nothing to gain here so I will say what no one else is saying... You are being used. I don't care if he has eyes like a baby chimp and a magic penis. You are being played and kept on the side... You are a fall back option and the "Gifts" (hookers would demand cash)..will ensure that you will keep him open as an option. If you are one of the people who don't mind being kept on a string and used for when his other options are running thin....keep on crying....you will be used. I would use you. I could do it for less than a T.V. or whatever crap that little dikd manslut is paying to keep you waiting in the wings for. I got a monster dik and can use nothing more than that and words you want to hear to keep you waiting and willing to put up with me banging whichever ginch I chose....(Did it in my past so..I know what I am saying) If you don't mind being used....keep doing what you are doing. Personally...I don't settle. You are gorgeous and reasonably intelligent from what little I have read from you.... DEMAND no less than what you are worth. If you are willing to settle for being used...pencil me into your schedule and I will turn you out. WOW! I appreciate your honesty, but I haven't had sex with him, no matter what hes given me. And trust me...Im not crying. Thanks for the offer to "turn me out", I'll think about it. |
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I have never been able to make the transition from ex to friend and never offered my friendship as consolation after a break-up.
Just move on and make yourself available to meet someone who's more compatible. Hopefully, you have discovered something about yourself that may have caused the failure of the relationship despite your best efforts to make it succeed. Perhaps you've even taken a hard look at the type of guys you attract and recognize a pattern that contributed to the failure of a relationship ...I dunno |
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I do hope it all works out for you doll.
Life has strange ways and I am notoriously unforgiving....It is easy to lose perspective and keep analytical..cause the heart wants what the heart wants....and it is rarely the same thing that the brain wants. As long as you dont sell yourself short and settle for less than than the best...you will be fine darlin. |
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Edited by
Jess642
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Tue 02/08/11 06:04 PM
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My boyfriend brokeup with me about three weeks ago because we were to different. Just as I was accepting him for the way he was...Cold...he wanted to "take a break". I asked if he was breaking up with me, he said "yeah". After crying, telling him how much I loved him he told me I had to understand and we could still be friends. I didn't try to contact him in any way. I had time to think everything over and was prepared for when he called me two days later. I was composed and positive which he respected a lot since he has a past of girls going psycho on him. In the three weeks apart I've been keeping busy, still leaving it to him to keep contact. He gives me gifts, like a TV, and calls me regularly, even visits my house now and then. I don't know if it's guilt, that he still has feeling's for me, or if he just wants sex, or something else. Id like to get back together if he does, but it may be to soon. There is no resentment between us. Am I doing the right thing by giving him space and being friendly, or am I stuck as his "friend" forever when I still have feelings for him? Are the gifts...etc...a sigh he is still interested? Any advice is Guilt much?...(his bearing of gifts)...Self preservation much?...(sniff around and make sure you aren't plotting to thread his pen *s onto a bracelet...or to quote him, 'gone psycho') If this mongrel was done with you...why the perkuck is he sniffing around still...and attempting to bribe you with stuff? ..do you have children with this man?..property?...loans, debts? He is playing a horrible horrible game with you. Friends?...he doesn't respect you enough to even know the freakin meaning of the word...I wanna go to his house and smack him upside of the head! I don't know you, I only know that which you have chosen to share with us... my question would be... Why would you want to rekindle a relationship with someone who doesn't want a committed relationship with you, but wants to walk in and out of your life whenever he damn well chooses? My prescription from Dr jess would be.... ring him up...tell him the free ride is over, thanks for the memories, but you refuse to play the doormat game for one minute longer. THEN refuse him entry via phone or in person for at least one year. IF he wants to develop a friendship with you after one year...he has learnt how to value you. |
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