I have a serious question for all you minglers out there. I'm here to date and meet people. But I'm wondering if I'm going to find anything besides photos and long chat conversations.

So I'm curious what the actually likely hood of meeting a "date-able" young women on the internet. Not to mention in my area. That and getting past the idea of "wait, I've never met this person" is stressful and hard to get past because there are a lot of untrustworthy people out there...

I'm sure some of you have been here awhile and maybe many of you have had success.

So I'm curious, whether I should be crossing my fingers, or out at the bar trying to find something close to a date. I mean... really...

I'm not impatient just skeptical, for various reasons. Maybe someone can fill me in here. Because I've tried the bar... not much going on there. That and walking up to innocent young women and asking them out is strange and unprecedented. Any other ideas?

Because after all I could just give up and wait till someone crosses my path like normal, busy people do. Something...

Maybe its a matter of luck?

I met a guy online once, ended up dating for 3 years. I have heard of others that only last a month. just luck of the draw.

Ive had dates with 3. 1 would have been alright if she didn't have 25 cats living with her.

the answer to your question is to pray. put God in your decision and your values and virtues. sometimes where being blind on what we see, lack self esteem and confident in ourself. just understnd this things. "God put us in that situation or negativity coz it will make us strong later on with our life"....its life finding your partner in life. we always take the perfect one....in the end we will say "I dont like her or him anymore" .."i cant handle this person"...the reason why you check on the positive first and in the end their is also negative part and you want to give up right away and the acceptance is gone...thats why there is divorce. .maybe life is like LUCK

Sounds like the cats voted.

sounds like too much ***** to me

The secret to online dating: Grab a quarter, preferably one minted in 1985 or before (the date is important, it has to be minted on 1985 or before!). Next, inspect the quarter for damage, uneven ridges, is it bent? The quarter must be in perfect shape! Now, take the quarter and lay it on your thumbnail with your other fingers curled in holding it in place, flick your thumb, call it in the air.

Heads I win. Tails you lose.

Honestly...it doesn't matter what lands, you pretty much lose anyway. I just find it to be fun flipping coins and all.

i met my ex not on here but in a local chatroom.. was with him for 6 yrs..
as far as on here.. ive been on here more than 4 yrs.. not single the whole time though.. only on here single for 2 of the 4 yrs..
met one long distance he just wasnt for me... met my friend whom is my room mate for a yr and a half now. never had a room mate for that long before so i guess that is successful... and its a guy..
the last 4 months i have met 2 local guys... one i dated for a couple of months... wasnt who he portrayed his self to be.< talked to him for two weeks before meeting>. the last one.. well met for a friend not that he is not interesting.. but started to talk to him right after the other bs'er lol.. dont know that i want anyone for more than friends... talked to him for 5 weeks before i met him... we still talk like 3 days a week or 4 days met only last week.. believe i am getting interested in him.... for maybe more than friends not sure yet. he tried to take me to dinner last night but i already ate lol.. if anything i really do like to hang out with him really nice guy! cute too... :)

You already answered you're own question.

You have just as much chance as everyone else, but from where i stand as far as dating sites go. There are more people here just to chat an bs then anything else. So expect the long conversations going nowhere. Some may look at what I said isn't giving much hope sorry , but reality is not something you can hide from.

I've been on here for fifteen minutes and haven't found a date yet. But hey, I'm patient.

Blunt and to the point... thanks.

Makes me feel sorry for the people who actually pay for this.


But we should all take a lesson from our friend here... Maybe if where blunt and honest, we will get what we are looking for...

maybe

one find what it wants, based upon what itself values MOST, itself, or who it wants to know.

here here!!!!!!!!! i agree... i just have been lucky lately is all.. to actually find 2 people who really wanted to meet.... for i found 3o that did not! and a big waste of my time...

Don't have too many expectations. Chat with people, get to know them a little and meet those you want to. Take a chance and who knows what can happen.

that is a good way to put it.... and nice pic!

This is a good way to meet some cool and interesting people. You probably wont get to hambone most of the chicks here but, I am guessing you probably aint gonna be hamboning most of the chicks in your hometown either.

At least here, the stalkers will have a much harder time screwing with your life than the chicks back home who show up at your work wearing a wedding gown or taking a crap on your car when you pissem off.

Thanks!

I took a chance and propositioned you.
You rejected me.