What do you mean by dating sites aren't what they were meant to be anymore?



It's just in general being on dating sites, there are more people on these site that are here just to chat or bs like I stated already.


I been on theses sites a good couple years as a lot of us have been that are on these forum alone. Now I know i'm not that bad looking and from what I have known from friends on the net and off, that i'm a good hearted man or how ever they may see me. Not alot of women are looking for that these days, and some of you women on this forum may say different, but that is only maybe 10 of you that are actually on this forum out of thousands that are actually on dating sites. So the thousands out way the 10 of you that are actually looking for someone that they can enjoy life with.



So in all, if more people were here to actually meet someone as to what these dating sites were made for. There would be a hell of a lot more people sharing there stories. But reality sets in and here we are...


It's going to be what you make of it. Some people are here to chat and bs. Some people are here to make friends. Some people are here to find someone to date. If a site like this wasn't mean for people to chat on, there wouldn't be forums.

Many of us have met others from this site. If you want to do that, you have to put the effort in.

I just heard a report on the news last night. It seems that over 60% of peeps are finding love online now...so Id say your chances are good

..it's like anything else in life...you roll the dice ..and hope you don't crap out...

I understand what our saying


The effort part isn't the issue. If you read a lot of the threads, more people have problems being on the net finding someone then anything else. What i'm getting at is, the net has made people lazy and other things like cell phones or what ever you may use now a days for dating. The dating sites have become more of chatting then anything else, and a lot of that has to deal with location. There is nothing wrong with chatting. I just feel many people are hear more so for that then actually dating.

i see success stories on here about someone on here that met someone somewhere else, but is going to stay on here to chat with friends. as for actually going out of state to meet, i have read about some that have done that, but are now against doing that anymore. it seems this is a chat room site like shadow said

I agree with you both at times it does seem more of just a chat site that is for the ones that are within the forums.

Most of the time the ones that are serious about internet dating are those that leave the forums be and use the site strictly for dating..

Myself I would love to just go for the old fashion way and date instead of chatting on line with them all the time. I want to interact with them in person to get to know them....face to face.

Myself I would love to just go for the old fashion way and date instead of chatting on line with them all the time. I want to interact with them in person to get to know them....face to face.


This is where the effort needs to take place, but doesn't happen often. So without the interaction face to face. Things don't really seem to go to far so you end up making more friends on the net then actual dating.

I'm just here for the forums and not for dating. So, I guess I'm one of those people you're talking about.

How do you know it doesn't happen? Or, are you just talking about yourself? As I have said before, many here have met, so obviously some are putting the effort into meeting.

Internet dating is what you make it. Over the years I have probably met close to 100 men. On this site, I've flown to see two. One didn't work out and the other has been a friend for over 3 years.

Most of the people I meet are not in the forums at all. I guess that cuts down on the endless chit chat. If they are close and we have something in common, I move to phoning and meeting fairly soon.

I don't want to converse for months and then meet someone and find out there is no chemistry. Goof is right. You have to be willing to put yourself out there. Most won't be a match, but you can have a good time anyway. It's all in the attitude.

Some are great, but not great for me, some lie, some don't know what they want, some change their minds, some cheat....just like real life. Go forth with an open mind and just try to have fun.

I have to agree with Sing. For all we know, there may be a lot more success stories that have happened, but they never bothered to post. In my opinion, the thing about people, no matter how much of a skeptic we claim to be, no matter how much we deny it, there is something in us that wishes to be proven wrong. That is why no amount of negative statistics can shut down this online dating thingie. We hope that in the one percent success rate in a hundred of finding love, we belong in the one percent who took the chance and won.

Just my two cents.

I'm just not looking for any dates right now. I like the forums, so I stick around this site for that.

OK, answer this ladies


How many people play on this forum?


Then ask yourself how many have met someone and are still with them. Maybe two out of how many?


Then ask yourself how long have you been on the net seeing the same people year after year and still haven't found anyone.


What you guys are saying that everyone else is having the luck. Not likely. Some yes, but very few. I'm just looking at reality for what it really is being on the net. Am I looking for someone right now. No, I have issues to deal with. So i'm one of the people that chat as well as I was explaining.


In all for the 4 years I been on this site alone, and in that time there has been over 500 hundred people that played on this forum and you only heard of a couple people actually meeting someone. Explain why that is out of 500 only 2 or 3 found someone? I can tell you why a lot of people don't find anyone, but why can't people tell why people do find someone?

I am willing to bet the number of people in the forums is much smaller than the number of people on this site. Also, several people in the forums are with other people, yet still stick around to chat. So, I'm not quite seeing what you're getting at. Also, I doubt that you know the personal details of everyone in the forums, so there are probably some who have found someone without you knowing.

I think you may have missed my point. :)

The venue does not matter and there are no guarantees whether be it about love or any other subject. Such is life.

Exactly.

This is just another way to meet people. That's all.

The number of people on the forums is VERY small compared to the number of people that are on the site. The majority of emailing goes on between members. We don't see that.

Many probably have never even ventured into or realize there is a forum. So, if they meet someone they wouldn't think to announce it, because the majority of people don't participate in the forums.

Those of us who are on the forums may be talking because we haven't met someone. So, even if you don't hear about it, it happens all the time. They are just so happy that they leave and move on about their lives.

They haven't developed the friendships that some of us experience on the forums. I've been on several other dating sites. I have never participated in any other forum but here. There are successes every day, we just don't hear about them.

I've had dates from this site and made friends from this site...
truth is there are soooo many little factors to be figured in when "seeking a mate". Meeting is just the first one...

my advice

give it a month. thats how long it takes for you to abandon all hope.

then

go to "russian wives.net"

apparently they "activly" message western men.

oh, and you should look into becoming a western man

I agree with what you are saying, and there are a couple people on the forum that have met someone. All i'm saying is that being on any site majority of people that don't find someone out ways the ones that do. This is do to location, attraction, communication. Then you have a lot of people that just like to chat. Then you have your down side of people that play games, other that mention people only wanting sex, cheaters etc etc. So it all comes down to that not many people are actually serious about meeting someone and building a relationship. So knowing all the people I know that have been on the forum for the last 4 years and some still are that would like to meet someone. Are still single. It says a lot for what the net actually has to offer.


When it comes to women, men make more of the effort in the beginning, but as you laddies know. How many of the emails you get from men are actually wanted emails? Or better yet, how many of them will you reply to that your actually interested in? Ill bet there are more emaile that are not wanted then wanted.