is it? to start a new relationship and not have to here anything about love,marriage, but to just enjoy yourself and let what happens ..happen. is there a time frame for some? how do you feel this should go. and about the time im feeling good about here and the relationship i would for shure let her know,but what about after this? can you understand what i just wrote.....i cant.

That's where I'm at now, and no, don't think its too much to ask.
Then again the women I know, can never make up their minds,lol!

nope neither can I.

Quoted for truth.

My experience is, that the more clear you are about what you want and how, the better. And furthermore that you tell her straight up as soon as possible. I've gone on first dates saying that I'm not looking for serious - and still got a second date; I've told girlfriends before we began talking seriously about moving in together, that I have my own stuff, and I do my own stuff, and that isn't going to change.

So in essence, I think anything flies, except saying nothing, doing nothng... in that case she's just going to imagine whatever and push you there... if you're not clear about your own limits and goals, you're screwed, but otherwise just make up the rules you want to play with, and see what she says...

Ok from what I understand your trying to ask why when you start a new relationship, why do they have to know where its going by talking about love, marriage so soon.
Ok my answer
Some people may be trying to ge the right mind set of- Is this going to be an "real" relaitonship,or just a casual fling?
They may also be trying to jump ahead and rush things.
Alot of people are scared a bot new relationships and must have a "label" for it.
Time frame-- That would depend on the people in the relationship.
If this comes up, youcan always say "I care for you" So if your not sure if your ready for a permanent relationship you need to let them know. SOme people may be ready to settle down and your timing may not be there yet.
I hope this helped a little.

Quoting the quoter.

i cant understand too. repeat it from the start.

i don't like lists or agenda's or expectations. i like to just enjoy a person and see where we fit into each others lives. i think regardless of how you do it, compatability and chemistry rules people in or out. so you should stay true to yourself and just do what feels right for you.

Evermore.

no i think you`re not asking too much. but i also think that the way we conduct any realtioship is linked to the phase we are living. in my case, after a marriage thah left me very hurt i just want to take things slow, have a good time. i`m just not ready to give myself completely. but that can change in time. so maybe the person you`re dating is ready even if you are not. the timing is everything.

word of truth

Only you can prevent forest fires.

you are not asking for to much of anything

No, it isn't asking too much. But, are you being upfront about what you're looking for and not looking for in the beginning?

No it isn't asking too much. Just be clear and direct...people often get wrapped up in the fairy tale.

Too and hear

All depends on the person and what they're looking for

if your hard relationship did not work out and you are trying to start over askinng to much is never a bad thing just take it one step at a time and really talk with each other and see how the other feels your going to know if it works out or not

if all else fails,ask them if you can atleast see their boobs

what is it with u and boobs JT? LoL. a true boob man. gotta love ya