This I agree with. I have yet to see where lists mean anything other than to stop progress from past to future and missed opportunities. One needs just enjoy and see where the chips fall.

Sometimes people tend to try to rush things, especially if
they are serious about finding someone. Although the whole
"whirlwind" thing only works, at least for a while, if both
people are that way, usually it just scares the other person
off. Also with this "online" thing, most are not sure exactly
what is "appropriate" and when, so they try to fit it all in
as quickly as possible. Although their intentions may be good,
they turn out looking and acting kind of, umm, sanity
challenged?