Met someone from this site and dated for awhile...

Always honest about my passion for my work and committment to that. Had an employee in which I worked with from diagnosis til death and had to cancel plans at the ast minute as that employee was in hospice and in the last stages.

Suddenly there was no contact because I made a committment to the empyee and his family to "be there" in the event of demise. My contact from Mingle2 was not so much in understanging and totally cut off communication.

Superficial?....Yes. I only hope that person can sleep at night. i know that I did the right thing being there for the family as I promised.
For anyone else who comes across this situation, please understand that when you tell someone you are going to be there...please alow them to hod to their word!

you did do the right thing!!!!!!!!!

every one gets to choose what they want...we could all serve ourselves by not taking others opinions or thoughts personally...
just sayin

did the person u were dating know what happened or did u just go totally MIA?

you were not superficial for sure. the other person probably is either a control freak or a crybaby. Either way if they can't accept you have commitments too like any other person, well they can just go over the bridge!

Face it, some people suck!

Kinda harsh, but I have to agree.

You don't know why they cut off communication. It's the internet. Don't worry about it.

I make less promises than what I used to for similar reasons. I know its not good to make promises that I can't keep. People can have a way of depending on you to keep your promises. Then a change of plans can come up and that is when you might have to make decisions based on preferences and choices. I used to think I was this great care giver until reality set in big time. I have found that it is sometimes easier to follow the path of least resistance when confronted with rules and regulations. Part of my learning in life has been about the concept of "if you don't stand for anything than chances you can fall for anything". But it is in these tough situations with others that people can get to know who we really are. Postmortem care is really not my cup of tea but I have had my share of doing it. I really don't care that much for restorative care because it can contradict my way of least resistance. Never cared that much for being the bad guy because taking my own medicine or practice my own preaching has been pointed out to me before. But sometimes one can be faced with having to face reality on its own terms and it is during those times one can truly find out who they are. And sometimes one has to come to grips with just what ones own limitations are. It is during those times I have had to do comfort care. It is during these times that can try men's souls. I hope you comfort in those tough decisions that you have to make.

The word that comes to mind for me is “compassion”. Your Mingle2 mate should have shown some to you and your employee. Maybe I’m being too harsh. Sorry if I am.

The words that come to my mind: sincerity, promise understanding, compassion, discipline, and feelings. Thank you for exhibiting those. You did the right thing and I am proud of you. Stand your ground and believe in your convictions.

Well I can see both sides.

Maybe that person has been hurt and lied to so many times that it's difficult for them to trust anyone. It took time, but you somehow managed to gain a good percentage of that persons trust. By not showing up to what ever was previously planned, that person might have gotten terribly hurt because they felt betrayed by someone they thought they could rely on and trust. To them, you're probably lying, and have turned into someone that can't keep their word. That person is possibly thinking up all the scenarios of what you were doing rather than being with them.

Of course, the above might just be that person. Maybe from your perspective, you probably care a lot for the person and never wanted to fail them. You made them aware of your situation in great detail to gain that persons trust and understanding. You probably think that a person that would do that is horrible for not being understanding when you tried your best to show how much you cared for them, yet because you couldn't make it, it seems like they didn't care enough for what ever it was you had going with them.

...That's just my point of view. I'm not going to judge what's wrong and what's right because we only have one side of the story. =/

you had a choice to make and you did. was it right or wrong for you, only you will know in due time. others can only speculate

imho life is about choices. i see no right or wrong in the choices. i see consequences. some good, some bad. regardless of what choice i make, i live with the consequence of that choice. over time i've gained some experience. i've learned to gather as much information as i can before i choose, thus limiting the likelyhood of a bad consequence of my choice. sometimes i'm not able to gather much information and i have to choose anyway. those decisions are harder to make. in the end i don't dwell on the "what if's" i simply live with no regrets

Well said!! Could not have said it better myself!!!

it's all good and thank you for starting that military thread. awesome idea, hope it sticks

If he had trust issues and had a problem with her not showing up do to what was going on, that's his problem, not hers. She's probably better off without someone who could not understand why she did what she did.

No fair.
YOU have the Bat Cave.

Well, if your partner is ugly...dump em.

If Your partner is hawt...then they must have had good reason.

What was the topic?

But, I love superfacial!

if you never embrace the superficial you will porobably have a hard time having fun with other people.


as for your story ..... I need both sides to comment on it and even then I may not.