I don't find it offensive at all!

Just don't be wierd! Unless it's Saturday!

Men get weird about it too, so make sure you're taking your own advice there Kid...

There's one person here that will understand the humour behind what I said.
Not to be taken as advice.

As long as it dose not turn into a stocking eposoed its no big.

Awww, come on. Being stalked is so romantic!

Okay, not seriously...unless she's really hot and not a murderer like in Swim Fan.

stalk

Ohh no...I could never make the first move. I guess I'm just a little on the old fashioned side..also very shy around new people especially men, so I couldn't see me taking that first step.

I think the way I look at women making the first move is this:

I get really tired of finding these "perfect" women, contacting them, and getting no reply.

So it'd be nice if someone interested in me would be willing to make the first move. It makes a guy feel wanted in a sea of rejection.

That's right! As awesome as I am, I have people not respond to me!

Not a problem.

Same here T.O., these days, outgoing guys are assumed to be creepy.

i think it depends on the man...some guys may not like it..and some may do...I use to be really shy and wouldnt approach anyone..but now i do..and i havent had any probs..YET..lol

well i am kinda shy about that.....

have made the first move a couple of times and was turned down flat so... didnt help with the shyness

It's a gppd feeling when it happens, lets me know she likes me and takes off the inital I hope i don t get toungue ties stage, takes aay reje fear

I see most women are afraid to make the first move, could it be they are afraid of being turned down?? since more than likely they have turned many men down in the past. still I think it would be nice to have the woman make the first move. ^_^ !!!!!!!!!!!!

Is there a way for guys to let women know we're ok with being contacted (on our profile) without sounding desperate?

Is there a way for guys to let women know we're ok with being contacted (on our profile) without sounding desperate?

how bout i dont bite hard so go ahead and send a message lol

hmmm i dunno transient....
just say something like feel free to write me or somethin like that...

i dunno, just a suggestion


widowerseeking..... for me .... like i said before, i was turned down flat...... so didnt help me get over bein shy about it

Most of the time I just start up a conversation, randomly. Then it's not like I'm hitting on them it's just like hey what's up? A lot of the guys I've met like a genuine girl, someone who can just pick up a good conversation instead of all the corny pick up lines and "accidently" running into you, etc. The ones I know get put off when a girls up in their face like, hey your hot wanna be my buddy.

I do however think that it shouldn't always be up to the guy to make the first move. Like you said, it is the 21st century.

Truly,
MSD

Yeah, I had someone I had never talked to before just up and tell me to add them to my friends.

Uh, no, not happening.

I like it when a girl can talk to me, but I don't want to be demanded to be their friend as soon as they talk to me. Nor do I like a woman assuming that just because I'm talking to her, it's okay to say sexual things to me.

You're right. Genuine girl. That means don't message me with sexual innuendo. Have a conversation with me.

hey..are you partly reffering to me?
I added you to my friends without talking to you first.