Anyone else here rrrreeeally awkward and bad around people? I'm fine with people I know well, but introduce me to anyone new and I start to feel anxiety, and I hate large groups. It really hinders me in making friends, as I don't have many here at school. Just wondering if anyone has overcome this, I think I can, but a little encouragement wouldn't hurt haha Just opening it up to the floor

I am the same way...an I work in the medical field. I was pushed out of my comfort zone many times. When I'm at work I come out of my shell but outside of work I still feel nervous in large groups and really hate talking to new people.

For me, the trick was to learn to laugh at myself. If I walked into a door, it might be embarrassing. If I walked into a door (not through the door) and then started cracking jokes like, "Okay, no more alcohol for me (funnier when no alcohol is involved)!" Or, I could say something like, "OMG! Did you see that thing just run right out in front of me?!"

People are relaxed around humor as long as it's not malicious. Try it sometime. It works great.

Its the same for me. I work in a nursing home. I used to have to psyche myself up every time I would open up a room. Of course, that means I have many labels because of dementia residents so I am almost always welcomed. In the words of Dee Snyder, "I am your daddy who looks like your mommy." I have went to countless counsellors, shrinks and therapists so I am generally uncomfortable no matter where I am. I have tried to come out of my shell only to find that shell was in another shell like Chinese boxes. I am in there some where.

maybe some volunteer work in your community. something that forces you to come in direct contact with people. if you try this you might find a way to open up and socialize in other situations.

i suck around new people.
i get super self conscious.
>.<
i'm basically a hermit.

I don`t know anyone who doesn`t feel anxiety meeting new people...it`s normal..but I would say the more you practice..the easier it should get...

I would just say be you..be exactly how you are now...open & honest and people can relate to that

see how many friends you made already

to being honest...

" I have tried to come out of my shell only to find
that shell was in another shell...."

beautifully spoken

I can relate to must the posts here. I just push thru the anxiety. Sometimes its bad at night when I think about my day. I have to remind myself that I am my own worst critic.

Best wishes to everyone here

You just need to work through it.

Personally, I think all of our social skills are getting worse and will continue to do so. We're raising a generation of kids whose prime source of social contact is on the internet.

when i met someone i like to create an awkward situation that way all the awkwardness is outta the way

yeah..I used to be that way, until I realized that I really dont care what other people think of me...since then that awkward feeling just dissapeared and im ok in a room full of strangers.

I am learning the difference in being honest and being tactful. It is when it takes you fifty words to say what they can say in one.

I have the opposite problem. Everyone else is really awkward around me.

i'm the exact same way.i always have been that way and i doubt i'll ever get over it

I used to be shy, but not so much anymore. I had to get out there and start talking to people and just not worry about feeling awkward. I eventually got over it. Good luck.

I can be intimidating to adults and boys who might want to jump my lil' 14 year old.

Babies, love me and get real comfortable.

One stepdaughter had a newborn that would pitch fits and get all fussy.

She couldn't calm her.

I'd go over and sit with the baby in an overstuffed rocker.

5 minutes and she'd either be out or laughin' and gigglin'.

I'm still her favorite Grandpa.

I find I am pretty good one on one, but it really depends and what I feel I have to lose. If she is a hot chick I can feel anxious about not getting her info, or seeing if there is a connection.

In a large crowd, it really depends, sometimes I feel small other times I try to get around and mingle and try to see who might be a cool person to know. They don't know you, or you them, so be who you want to be, confident, attractive and friendly. Who does not like that combination?

Most all of this comes from who we think we are, and how we portray ourselves. Am I fat ( we all have ideas on what that says) do I groom myself well, am I overly made up( that would be ladies)are all have things that we project on who we think we are. Lots of guys who look hard actually have great hearts, but they feel intimidating, as it covers up their softness. We all seem to have shells around our hearts, protecting us from past and perceived hurts.

I have found like so many things in life a coach is helpful. So be it sports or a therapist, they are there to help us achieve what we can't do on our own. It could be a grandma or older friend who has lived a little that we can lean of for advice, or a therapist.. Essentially it comes down to loving yourself and not looking for acceptance from the other person.

I find as I have moved along in life the anxiety has diminished. Remember to smile, compliment, and not be too worried about the outcome. Obvious grooming and breath( remember to brush)are obvious things that people judge us on before we open our mouths. For me today seeing people with tattoos, is a sign, just as well. Who you are at 20 and who you are at 40 is usually worlds apart, for good reasons, usually.

Everyone is a little anxious to meet new people you are not alone there...

I don't like large groups. Its noisey and distracting for me...lol
I don't know which convo to join..

I like one on one or two people. I feel anxiety in my stomach
when I am chatting sooo I just talk more...lol

The Who, what, which questions are good kinda good takes off the pressure until those anxiety feelings reduce.

I find I communicate better in written word, then talking...but thats me.

No!!!!


I am great with people!!!


love to hang with them...talk...laugh

i LOOOVVVVEEEE People!!!!