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i recently met someone and we had some great conversations. one night things went too far (sex) and i did the typical girl freak out. when i confronted him and wanted to chat about where we were headed. . . . i got the response of "do we really need to talk about it?" i said yes and that i felt things started to fast and i wanted to build a friendship. the response i got to that was " yes, i want friendship too. i don't want to lose you. . . we can build from here"
after that. no real communication. the occasional text messages and "hi how are you today emails". how can someone say they don't want to lose you and then not stay in contact? how can they not want to lose something that never really started? how do you start after taking 10 steps forward and go back? i guess i am looking for clarification of what that phrase really means. |
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Depends who says it. One person might be honest, another dozen will lie.
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Edited by
ProPhotographer
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Tue 09/28/10 08:11 PM
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sounds like you've established barriers to the relationship without outlining what is and what isn't out of bounds. Now it's just walking on egg shells...
party on 
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very well put. that's how it feels.
now the question is it worth the effort to try to continue? |
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"I dont want to loose you" = I hope we can still shag without commitment
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"I dont want to loose you" = I hope we can still shag without commitment yes we can 
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"I dont want to loose you" = I hope we can still shag without commitment yes we can  |
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perhaps the ducking out politely version of well I wont hurt her feelings I just wont respond anymore??
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This is simple. Dude says this after getting the booty, and then acting this way.....means he was abducted by aliens and is now getting an anal probe. This is just so common these days. Shame really.
 
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"I dont want to loose you" = I hope we can still shag without commitment exactly! |
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It's time to jump his bones again. He will stick around if he's getting some.
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Edited by
DTHRomeo
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Tue 09/28/10 08:30 PM
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"I dont want to loose you" = I hope we can still shag without commitment Exactomundo! |
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when i confronted him and wanted to chat about where we were headed. . He's running scared. Sounds like he doesn't want to 'head' anywhere. He's already told you he doesn't want to talk about it. Sorry! |
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i recently met someone and we had some great conversations. one night things went too far (sex) and i did the typical girl freak out.
What did you freak out about?? You scared the man |
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OP: I agree with 1Bartolo...
also: the occasional text messages and "hi how are you today emails". sounds like he is communicating, but not to the degree that you expect. You tried to communicate with him, and you scared him (perhaps scared him away)... maybe let things play out and evolve? relax, go out - have fun, meet other people... watch and wait... $.02 
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a lot of my early relationships was like that really, i wanted a relationship and the person i was dating or had sex with did not, i feel that if your honest and tell the truth that it does all work out but if your parter does not tell the truth from the start there could be problems down the road
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i recently met someone and we had some great conversations. one night things went too far (sex) and i did the typical girl freak out. when i confronted him and wanted to chat about where we were headed. . . . i got the response of "do we really need to talk about it?" i said yes and that i felt things started to fast and i wanted to build a friendship. the response i got to that was " yes, i want friendship too. i don't want to lose you. . . we can build from here" after that. no real communication. the occasional text messages and "hi how are you today emails". how can someone say they don't want to lose you and then not stay in contact? how can they not want to lose something that never really started? how do you start after taking 10 steps forward and go back? i guess i am looking for clarification of what that phrase really means. It might mean I do not want to lose my friend with benefit because I may not be so lucky next time. Gee, that sounds shallow but maybe it is honest, too. |
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i recently met someone and we had some great conversations. one night things went too far (sex) and i did the typical girl freak out. when i confronted him and wanted to chat about where we were headed. . . . i got the response of "do we really need to talk about it?" i said yes and that i felt things started to fast and i wanted to build a friendship. the response i got to that was " yes, i want friendship too. i don't want to lose you. . . we can build from here" after that. no real communication. the occasional text messages and "hi how are you today emails". how can someone say they don't want to lose you and then not stay in contact? how can they not want to lose something that never really started? how do you start after taking 10 steps forward and go back? i guess i am looking for clarification of what that phrase really means. Not wanting to lose you as a friend is what I got from it. Which doesn't mean any romance to me. |
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You might ask him if there was anything that he liked about you other than just the sex. A friend with benefits may be a friend that has other benefits other than just sex.
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Sex is just sex after all.
Love is a whole different animal. |
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