Like just go have fun. Hell, so what she is older. As long as you don't take it too seriously things should go well. If you get serious things will get weird.

Life is too short to suffer with the "what if I" this and "What if I did that?" kind if garbage.

Would I date a guy in his early twenties when I was in my early thirty's?

Yea I did.

He was a truely nice guy that after a year was very hurt when it just didn't take hold and move into the hoped for permenant family scenario. Why? Because it was just too hard for me to back track over the decade difference in life experiences but it still hurt a lot to face it.

So my advice is get yourself someone who is more your peer and save yourself the misery.

I have dated 10 years younger than me... And up to 15 years older... Age really has nothing to do with it. If you have chemistry, and are pretty even on maturity, It can work.

I don't think 10 years older or younger is a big age deal, now. I have dated both, I am 33. Just start out casual and see what happens, don't put pressure on yourself or expectations on her though.

As for getting out more, I know its hard when you are chained to your computer, I was like that after my divorce, but you really should force yourself to get out. Start out small, a trip to a walking trail and walk a little, or borrow a dog and take it on a walk, or even window shop around the mall? You will then feel better about yourself which makes it easier to meet people :)

Anyway, would you date someone 10 years younger then you are?

I sort of started to do this today actually. I had these coffee shop flyers I had been given a few weeks back to put on houses around the neighborhood (wanted to help the lady out), and.....after my friend and I had spent one morning hitting a bunch of streets near me, I got lazy about it for a while and they just sat here. It didn't help that my friend hasn't been around either, as usually if I ever do go out, it's to meet him and do something and even that hasn't always been that often.

Finally though, I decided I had to force myself to get some of this done today, couldn't keep putting it off as I tend to do a lot at times admittedly, and I went out and did one block that I had been meaning to do for a while. Wasn't much but it was something at least, baby steps you know?

Shshs at this point and time sure I would prefer someone around my age but most of the time the ones my age or older don't appeal to me. I have dated 6 years younger and hell he acted older then me ....

Shshs at this point and time sure I would prefer someone around my age but most of the time the ones my age or older don't appeal to me. I have dated 6 years younger and hell he acted older then me ....

Just an update on things, I finally did go out and see her yesterday afternoon. She needs people to do massages on as she goes through her massage therapy courses, like 6 a week. I offered to help her out, so I went and got a back massage from her yesterday as the first of these.

I was nervous about going on my own, never having bussed out to where she is, and was nervous about seeing her again after so long. I wasn't sure what to expect with the massage either. I got a little sick on the bus over in fact, but she didn't even notice nor care much when I told her what happened later as she was taking me home.

It was really nice, I needn't have worried. I hadn't seen her in 2 and a half years or better, but you wouldn't know it from how we got on upon seeing each other again. It was like we just saw each other yesterday, I had a good time, was very relaxed, she put me at ease very fast. We talked, we laughed a lot, was just a real comfortable setting, and the massage was nice too.

I'm planning to go on a weekly basis to help her with this as I can, now that I know I can do it. I really can see something happening with her, though I'm not gonna broach the topic just yet, but depending on what happens now I will soon. She has a dance recital next weekend, I might see if I go along to watch it, since I'll be up there again that afternoon anyway if all goes to plan.

But yeah I had a good time, was glad I did it and was great seeing her again.

lol the quick hitting not so much my style.

Yeah, my head is just kinda going all over the place at the moment. I really do want to see her again though, even if just as friends. Need something more productive to do then sitting on a computer all day, seems that's been the story of my life for a while, need to get out, active and motivated.

I don't really agree with the whole age has nothing to do with it thing. However, it will depend on the person. As for maturity, the younger the guy gets, generally, the less mature he gets. But, that's not always the case.. .