my pleasure talking with you. hope you find a good, free lawyer so you can at least make ur situation BLACK & WHITE with ur ex. it'll get easier on u and ur son and don't worry your son is stronger then u realize. u sound like a find woman and im sure u have and continue to raise him great so don't worry even though his situation may NOT be the best he will come out a strong, independent and good kid. life is TOO short, but it's VERY long when all we do is sit here worrying. if u believe in God then pray to Him that He will protect ur son and give him ALL that he stands in need of, then u'll have NOTHING to worry about and just accept that some things are just going to bother you ALWAYS about ur ex. some say we need to let go of our hatred for people, but i say you just need to learn to accept that it's NATURAL and just learn to clear ur mind of it and NOT let it waste space in ur brain. i don't know ur religious beliefs, but MEDITATION has done wonders for me. sorry to keep u, now don't work too hard at work and hope to talk with u again sometime. take care always and God bless you and your children.

I do pray everyday to keep my son safe. I know God is with him and when the time's right he'll be with me.

In NH you cant leave a kid alone till they are 13.Pot is an illegal substance ,so I dont understand the tolerance about smoking it period.Sounds like Boss Hog runs childrens services in Indiana.As for a lawyer ,call your local american bar association.they usually have a list of lawyers who donate pro bono time.
I think the cops will be more effective in this case then the state.

Well..CPS told me when my son was 9 it was ok for him to be alone for at least an hour...umm..excuse me??? Not on the front step locked out it's not. I did not and will not abandon my son for nobody. I will see what I can do. Next time i take FMLA leave cuz of my pain i'll call the bar association and see what they can do.

(((((((((hugs)))))))))) Sorry to hear ya got one of those assshole ex's who need to grow up.
Believe in YOU, and believe in your SON,,and life will ALWAYS be GOOD in the end...

(((((((((iam4u)))))))))))Thank you hun. I do believe in my son and I do believe one day i'll have custody of him.

i know exactly what you are going through kate......i have 4 beautiful daughters that i take care of by myself. i don't ask for help from no one..there fathers are ****...i hate them both. they haven't seen my kids in over 2 years i guess they have more important things to do then say be a father.....that's ok they are my kids...i exactly know what you are going through.....SINGLE MOTHER POWER!!!!!!!!

Definitly SINGLE MOTHER POWER...MOM'S RULE!!!!..and some dad's ...just not all

You,re a good looking gal, I,m sure there,s a guy out there licking his chops for a piece of you katers!

PEPPER!!!! Shame on you...lmao

see , every now and then i decide to step into threads like this...and i get so pissed off...i feel like I WANT TO SHAKE THE WHOLE FEMALE TREE on this planet

and SCREAM....!!!........................STOP.

let's look at the big picture. or a level of it. What do we need to do?
to step out of the patriarchal domination of our societies , our religions , our environmental policies, our LIVES!!!!!

empower yourselves with what is true,

Marriage has been manufactured , marketed , designed and insideously injected into your psyche as something to achieve, woven deviously into the intrinsic fabric of a patriarchal domination 'the nuclear family' and injected for thousands of years into your blood streams.

patriarchy is based on secular, not sacred relationships, and on property possession, which utterly excludes the experience of ecstatic communion. It is also of course, based on sexual passivity, weakness and dependence of women.

The sacred union, "marriage' now becomes the ugly business of domination and humiliation ,between the sheets or in the harem, the male paradise filled with sexual slaves. And now the sacred relation of MOTHER - CHILD, is closed indoors, is psychologized, and publicly diminished, as the child becomes to be viewed as the "wife" as property of 'the father', neither having social , economic or political rights, except thru him.
with patriarchy we are in the world of male display, strutting and boasting before each other, playing with the power of religion , regardless of what flavour, and we are being raped.


get out of the game any way you can.

i know for many this is already not an option, but thru your children and how you process these hard times , it could be ...available thru them...plant the seeds of the mother and respect for life...dissolve the traditions and just live as decent and true men and women....

let go of the attachment to that concepts and designs of these belief systems!!!!!!!!

just invent your own life.... i never married...i had 4 children , went thru all kinds of dramas , but consciously chose to do something unconventional (even tho i knew i could just be in opposition) ( it all could have gone horribly wrong)..my ground of being was solid and clean... i had no plan just a direction away from....

anyway , consequently, i have always enjoyed sole custody because i have never given myself up into that system of patriarchal marriage that chews you up and spits you out like so much garbage.

i also never held the fathers financially responsible, my children are not something that can be bartered over or rented or paid for like some hobby or commodity, nor could i be lured into the whole blackmail/dependency thing.... just as no one has to pay me to be a mother , i would not pay them to be a father. they are free to make themselves available if they like and i have moved continents to insure my son have that availability to be near his father, but I STILL call the shots at the end of the day. we struggled sometimes...but we had and have and enjoy a quality of life that has allowed us all to remain in a very well integrated lifestyle....we have all chosen to act with respect..... instead of power..

i have no ex's..just different flavours of love

give your children another perspective....show them that they can create the life and relationship they want without the constructs of these mass marketed traps.

and don't lend her your crayons. she doesn't color
within the lines. i like that!

Bl8ant, great post. People need to be responsibile for their actions & decisions. Just don't understand why people don't think more.

I would like to comment on one thing you said, 'getting out of the game anyway you can'. In trying to help a nurse resolve some controversies I mentioned that the only way to win the game is to not play the game. She agreed with me on that. Unfortunately, most of the women I know are plagued with this ailment called marriage and the rest are plagued with another ailment called divorce. I am not sure if there is a cure for either.

never been married here, but i do believe that each individual his/her own choices (yes, i said his/her). I choose to live in a way it's because I chose it, nobody made me do it. We lose too much time feeling sorry for ourselves instead of moving on.
I understand that most of the cases the victim is the woman. However, I believe we should not generalize because at this point of time even women can psychological abuse men.
Hate me if you want, but it's true.

Roy, that's what i meant when i said it may be too late for some but not for what we teach our children.....using our mistakes with humility to help them make better choices.

the victim is the child that has to grow up in a he said she said bull**** worls with everyone stressing over how much is owed for his existence...no wonder they wanna kill themselves....

world....


that d keeps sticking...

the kids are a whole different situation, they are not at guilt I must agree with that. Therefore, the responsability of having children it's bigger than just feeding them and sending them to school
However, we see in this world people having kids as a hobby. Sad to say.

to hate is to give that which you hate

control of a part of your very being



but hey what do i know