Finally read your profile. You are one strange, interesting character. Funny stuff! I liked it. You're off the wall.

Thanks!

Thats why i get lots! haha

define sex. my definition is the activity necessary to create life

anything outside of that is fondling and foreplay



I could easily live without sex as long as we could still have physical intimacy in other ways,,,

I've been talking to a very wise man all day

brains abundence!!!

Going without sex. There's nada wrong with it!!!

It's a cleansing process

thinking seriously bout doin it!!

Agree! Not all love the sex but most love the foreplay.

I will be having a deep emotional relationship culminating in marriage before I endulge in selfish physical gratification again. Why do y'all have sex? What do you really get out of it? That lasts until the next day I mean... is it really just about physical pleasure? Immediate gratification and temporary pleasures no longer quench the thirst I seem to have on a daily basis. Am I alone in this regard?

btw the AFF ads on this site are a bit over the top. I don't want to see that!

I guess the closest example I can give is pleasure ,,similar to the pleasurable feelings one has when they eat good food or hear good music. Preferrably that pleasure should involve deep emotional connection and when that is the case that physical connection works to deepen the emotional one.

I also dont feel it mandatory any more than eating chocolate is, but I still cant deny that it is pleasurable and , in a meaningful relationship, it is even emotionally fulfilling. I agree that too much is made of sex (in and of itself) and you are not alone in wanting it to be less superficial than just a source of immediate gratification.

This is why people don't like me, I'm way too serious.

In strictly the physical realm of course it's pleasurable! It's designed to be the ultimate. But, what other 'levels of truth' are we forgetting about if we limit ourself to the physical?

In my experience, the brief physical pleasure has been far outweighed by a whole host of other issues which present themselfs after the fact. Such as: changes in the relationship, changes in the individuals, redefinition of purpose for the relationship (moving more to the physical -- not a good thing), let alone diseases and procreation. Do these not count for something or should we just indulge in moment?

The real question is, what is life? Is it exclusively this phyisical human experience, or is there something more?

Tell you what. We cut it down to three times daily and take it from there. See how it goes...

yes, they count, and yes life is more than physical human experience.

so I just want to encourage people to not take their life at superficial face value. You are more than an animal roaming the planet. It is the accumulation of millions of choices that defines who you become. And at any point you can change and become something else. That's the unique part about being human. I no longer have to live my life in a quest for physical human emotion, I now have a higher calling and a more thorough, accurate understanding of who I am as a person. But I am still only one perspective, and we need human interaction to understand other people's perspecive to clarify and refine our current world view. We're just human beings and will never understand the depths of how and why sex is such an important part of not just physical but spiritual life. Sexual immorality is the one sin that is against the body. I'm not quoting here, I'm telling you what I've found out by making a series of ever-increasingly important mistakes. All the bad things that have happened in my life because of sex are worse than all the other bad things I've ever been through combined. Is this a coincidence, or is this a consequence of natural laws which we are still struggling to understand?

Short answer: yes I'm OK with that.

We don't judge, be serious all you like :-)

This 'brief' physical pleasure might have
been an hour, a day, a month, 30 years in
the making, nothing brief about it.

I would like to think there is some noble
purpose in denying oneself what one's self
really wants. But I don't see it.

It is a wonderful thing because you share
it, each the others impetus. Life already handed
us this. The 'little death' so as to appreciate
life all the more.

Of course there is more, everything else.
The whole world.
Ahhh but it is sweeter....

MUST MOUNT NIGHTLY!

That IS what Breakfast in Bed means right Slow??

I can REALLY attest to that .. met him once, still getting therapy ..

I hope you finally get over it one day Judy!

I suppose my question is do we really understand what we really want? We can only consciously perceive that which our unconscious mind has allowed. Your unconscious mind will decide what is important and what you are 'allowed' to perceive. So what you experience as a desire is a function of the way your brain has been wired. This factors in everything: genetics, epigenetics, the way you were raised, what happened to you growing up. So I for one do not trust the thoughts that flow through my head to be accurate representations of reality. We think things are acceptable or not largely on what has happened to us externally. This is an inevitable consequence of brain function. Therefore we must work diligently to exercise our unique human ability: stepping outside our own brain function to contemplate life and then returning to make choices again another day. This is the only way we will realize the only reason we put all the focus on sex is because of all the external deceptions trying to keep you locked into a particular framework. Your family, friends, society. Radio, TV, the internet. On the most fundamental level these are engaged in warefare to determine your worldview, and ultimately how you feel about important things like sex, family, LOVE (which incompasses all), and everything else. Does anyone else think this much about it?

A girlfriend and I were dissecting the pros and cons of relationship/cohabitating, the dance of dating thingo the other day....



and I decided to ask... why do I put on war paint, shoes and a frock.....just so I can hook a man and do a his washing, and feed him...?



....and of course, the answer would be ....


for the MAN-datory GREAT sex.

Dang it all Dan. I'm tryin.

so of the 3 billion members of the opposite sex, how many do you think can get you off? is this really the crowning achievement of our civilization? is there nothing more gratifying we could be working towards?