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the real me id reather hang with the animals feed ans photograph them
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Edited by
Kings_Knight
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There are times maybe rare?? That you meet a person as real as you are andyou blend like a well made smoothie personalitys mingling as one so easy to talk to. So easy to be near. You hold hands from miles away it's happening to me now i am experiencing the realness-the wholeness-of another human being because we were not afraid to be "real" it works!!! Dang ... I had no idea you felt that way ... that's so nice ... See? I'm good at jumping to conclusions ... |
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this is my interpretation of how relationships start. When you meet a person you meet their representative. This is my interpretation of the personality we take on to suit the others' interest:) But there are genuine matches of personality in these cases this doesn't apply. So you know that representative for a period of months until a trial comes your way. Then the real person comes out and you find out who they really are.LOL. Its then when the realization of is this gonna last or not. Is this someone i can see myself with in the future. I believe their would be more meaningful long lasting relationships if people would just mutually be themselves and leave out the representative. I hate to inform y'all. But you have no control over any of this. It is not a choice - it is simply what it is. Your personality has many facets. It takes a long time to get to know someone. No matter whether you put up a front or "think" u r not putting up a front, your new friends & acquaintances are not going to know you that well for at least several weeks. namaste |
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this is my interpretation of how relationships start. When you meet a person you meet their representative. This is my interpretation of the personality we take on to suit the others' interest:) But there are genuine matches of personality in these cases this doesn't apply. So you know that representative for a period of months until a trial comes your way. Then the real person comes out and you find out who they really are.LOL. Its then when the realization of is this gonna last or not. Is this someone i can see myself with in the future. I believe their would be more meaningful long lasting relationships if people would just mutually be themselves and leave out the representative. I hate to inform y'all. But you have no control over any of this. It is not a choice - it is simply what it is. Your personality has many facets. It takes a long time to get to know someone. No matter whether you put up a front or "think" u r not putting up a front, your new friends & acquaintances are not going to know you that well for at least several weeks. u can't leave the representative out of it. can't be done and the harder u try the more trubbleu cause for your self. namaste |
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this is my interpretation of how relationships start. When you meet a person you meet their representative. This is my interpretation of the personality we take on to suit the others' interest:) But there are genuine matches of personality in these cases this doesn't apply. So you know that representative for a period of months until a trial comes your way. Then the real person comes out and you find out who they really are.LOL. Its then when the realization of is this gonna last or not. Is this someone i can see myself with in the future. I believe their would be more meaningful long lasting relationships if people would just mutually be themselves and leave out the representative. The truth is everyone sees what they want to see when everything is new and exciting. What you think you like or love about the person the turns bcs your views and aspects change as well as their. The real lacking part is the commitment in todays society and ability to stay constant. Sometimes, people do misrepresent themselves, but more often than not it is a change of mindset and desires within the relationship status. |
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3 months is usually the amount of time needed to see a persons true colors... Time spent online with someone DOES NOT count.
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the real me id reather hang with the animals feed ans photograph them
Love it!! |
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One reason for the forums is to see how a person interacts with others. It's a useful tool into getting to know someone.
You need personal interaction too. Not through e-mails and calls, but actually being in the same room with them. Personally I have opened my heart and soul in the 3+ years I have been in these forums. I think it is to my own detriment sometimes but I am an honest and forthright person. I even have on my profile that I am bipolar. People are very complicated and complex. You may never really know someone for years but we need to have trust in order to have a relationship. How much trust to dispense and at what time to dispense it is very tricky indeed. |
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And THAT, folks, is the reason a 'FWB' relationship is the best solution ... maintaining separate residences helps, too .. i wonder what 'FWB' is. someone explained to me its friends with benefits, or sex without commitment,,,, kind of like an entertainment between friends, like going to shoot pool or darts,,, |
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I don't think people are always being fake. Like someone already said, we have different facets of our personality and will behave differently in a variety of situations.
That's what dating is for. To get to know someone over a period of time. You have to see a person in different environments and situations before you really get to know them. Now if someone is flat out making things up about themselves, that's different. But it takes time to really know someone. You can't view it as a waste of time if you find out later that you are not compatible. Everyone who comes into our lives has something to offer and something to teach us. Even if it just helps us realize what we don't want. |
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I don't think people are always being fake. Like someone already said, we have different facets of our personality and will behave differently in a variety of situations. That's what dating is for. To get to know someone over a period of time. You have to see a person in different environments and situations before you really get to know them. Now if someone is flat out making things up about themselves, that's different. But it takes time to really know someone. You can't view it as a waste of time if you find out later that you are not compatible. Everyone who comes into our lives has something to offer and something to teach us. Even if it just helps us realize what we don't want. 
And then there are those who after 10 years you realize you didn't know AT ALL! 
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That's why my relationships never last! I'm not into egos and a guys "representative" as you call it, acts like he is ok with a strong, independent female. Months on down the road I come to find out that's really not the case when he turns into a d*ck with a bruised ego because he realizes that I don't NEED him for anything. Sometimes I think I scare guys away rather quickly because I lack a representative and I just let all of my personality out for the world see from day 1. 
Wow, never thought about it that way. No wonder I have rarely gone past a 1st date with someone. Even on dates I had good impressions of. Screw it, I won't change for nobody! If they do not like me for who I am, they were not the right people to be in a relationship with. |
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 about this whole representative thing i agree Josh. Its a terrible thing to like someone then find out what they are like IF its a disappointment. It seems like there is so many people in this world that pretend who they are. When this happens it leads to meaningless, wastes of time. I would just like to meet some genuine people that dont lie or pretend because that would save us both the heartache.
~one honest girl Ashangel~ |
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Edited by
joshd27
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Tue 07/27/10 07:28 AM
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sounds about right bro
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the real me id reather hang with the animals feed ans photograph them
Great pic 
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Welcome 
Your theory is the same psychological test format for " Personality Disorders: Camouflage Clusters." Many suffer from it - but the sad news is, those that represent their true personality from the gate are dismissed for being "too much; too strong; too jaded; set in their ways", etc. In contrast, many people who camouflage their personality to “catch” a partner can withhold their true colors for years. Just use common sense and watch for red flags. BTW, have fun in the forums! 
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Tue 07/27/10 08:36 PM
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this is my interpretation of how relationships start. When you meet a person you meet their representative. This is my interpretation of the personality we take on to suit the others' interest:) But there are genuine matches of personality in these cases this doesn't apply. So you know that representative for a period of months until a trial comes your way. Then the real person comes out and you find out who they really are.LOL. Its then when the realization of is this gonna last or not. Is this someone i can see myself with in the future. I believe their would be more meaningful long lasting relationships if people would just mutually be themselves and leave out the representative. Actually it does work. Nowadays, you better have a printed copy of your work Resume and your cover letter with you when you go on a date. Plus if you tell too much and being honest, you are most likely out. When women say "I am looking for my dream guy" they mean it literally. In dreams, you are perfect in every way. Only in nightmares she would be dating someone who isn't perfect. For guys..all the women need is a cleavage display or a tight sweatshirt, the rest are only details of what she does or how fckd up life she is living. Guys usually don't care if she is in the ghetto and haven't done a full day of work, as long as she looks sexy. Her sexiness replaces every other thing that is wrong with her. |
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Edited by
ValentinaSS
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Tue 07/27/10 10:19 PM
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that would make men very easy prey, indeed, Atlantis.
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I think most of us tend to put our best foot forward at the beginning of a new relationship, but noone can keep that foot out there forever...eventually everyone has to blow their nose, right? Perfectly normal.
I believe the real obstacle is that you can't truely know how someone will react to different situations until they present themselves. In a few short months, what situations do a happy new couple encounter? Not many, so....you only know the carefree, happy side of a person for a while. |
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