It seems what ever the dating site you join, I noticed the stream of ignorant people. You send a nice message to a person. or even a wink or kiss or a hug. You dont even get a response. I understand that there are some people who are here on these sites just to mess around with peoples hearts. and I understand that there are many people who send nsty messages, in which you would ignore and not answer. in those case I would expect ignorance. But most people ask in there profiles, asking for a nice, decent and heartful guy to write. And many people just ignore them too. IF they going to ignore everyone, why the hell are they are here? or on other dating sites.

Do you really want ignorant people writing you back? Let it go and be thankfull that you have avoided that kind of stuff.

Or

Realise that a lot of folks on here are not on every day of their lives like I am. And you are not their top priority.

Or

Learn to adjust, the world is a changing. Thats how it goes on any dating/friends/chat site.

Love does not happen overnight.

I understand you. But sometimes a lil sent kiss or a hug, is a lil start in the process of any friendship. But I guess thing like that, is not for everyone. And as to hanging in there? Im not ready to give up. My question what the point goes out to those who do ignore. not from me personally. but thanx for your response.

I have to admit, I'd be a little freaked if I got a nudge from a loon.

I totally agree. but the question is? how do you know for sure it is a loon as you call them? you know, you dont have to smell a bad egg to know its bad right? you can see cant you? but there are many innocent ppl who nugdes, and send a kiss, or a hug or what ever the prop that you can send to start a convasation.

Why not just start the conversation with a heart felt email?

Because I for one, will not kiss, hug or what ever else a stranger. I do not return unsolisited nudges. Its just point less. Like some other sites I understand its all you can do untill you pay. Thats why I am here for conversation. Read the gals profile and talk to her in an email. You seem to have the skills.

Again, how do you know for sure it is a loon as you call it? the only kind of security as you have to know who has sent, is there profile, and there pics in there profile if they have any. I know profiles can be fake, and they can give false identity as the whome it is. but still you dont know untill you response, when you get more responses, and yes I would assume you are talking to a loon, or a fake person. then you would then have the notion to ignore. but my question is to those who do ignore. What is the point? its not gettin at me in anyway. but the question came to head. out of curiousity. but can you see what Im trying to get at?

Ok, there ya go. I nudged you.

I guess we are all different. and how we accept certain things about relationships. I understand that so many people wont accept a sent kiss, or a hug and a nudge, However they are virtually sent, not for real. its a starting point, and it must be some effect otherwise they would not have it on these sites, I know a person, who like you wont accept kisses or hugs from a stranger, in which I understand her views. but she was at an event, were the radio presenter came up to her and gave her a kiss on the cheek. she then could of said something, but she didnt, because she actually enjoyed it. now you either like something or dont like something. Again, this is a shame i guess, as lil suggestions like so, is a no go. its only a sent kiss, or a hug, not a real one. maybe everyone on here should have a discussion as to get rid of these apps that sends these lil suggestions. maybe i Dont know?

Thank you for your nudge, but I'm not into having ndges of strangers hahahaha, joking. But If people dont like it. then dont you think we should have a word with the site holder, to get rid of these elements as people are not happy to recieve them??

How many people have you sent nudges to? There are a lot of members in this site who sends and likes nudges. I get nudges from people I don't know and I nudge back. I don't see any harm in it. Yes, some may not like it, but it's their choice not to. Maybe you're just sending nudges to the wrong people?

Did you notice they got a kick in the but I get them all of the time but it all in good fun and from friends. But I hear wear you are coming from we all have got to take a chance and if we get shot down well there loss it just like dating in the real world some say yes some say no. Just my 2 cents

That's exactly it, there's as many people that like as don't like it. I receive nudges fairly often from people I've never met, and I usually respond in kind, unless it appears to me that the profile is an obvious scammer. It's an individual thing...

YEh It msut be that, So how do I know if that, wrong person is not right for me? and as to asnwer you i have sent many nudges, and guess what? out of all of those i sent. You were the first to send back, however through a thread of course. but the fact is you sent a nudge. Look this dont not bother me one bit, if i get any or not, I dont care if I dont get any messages or any persons looking at my profile. if thats the thing they like to do or not like to do, its there choice as you said. I agree. But My question was, what the point, in that question, it was questioning the ignorant, to see how many people who defend why the ignorance. and judging by SOME of the reaction. its sounds like many people who ignore are those who actually ignore. oh well. im going to carry on searhing. I wish you all the best.

Stick with sending emails, rather than nudges. Read their profiles and send an email that gives them something to reply to. There are always going to be people who don't reply, but sticking with emails will be better.

I never e-mail anybody first. If I wanted to be ignored, I would have stayed married.

but how do you know they ignore EVERYONE? the nudge option, in my opinion, is a way to express interest,,, if there is not a mutual interest,, perhaps its easiest not to respond instead of finding a nice way to say you arent interested


I know I am non confrontational and prefer not to have to come up with those words, I figure if I send a message and someone doesnt reply,, that IS their reply

Too funny, went to check out the op's profile and he's deactivated. Wonder why he never recieves responses!?!

That's a bit derogatory towards the loons... js.

I don’t think it’s a case of ignorance. It might be inconsiderate.

Some members can be very abusive, and if a “no thank you” reply is sent there have been instances wherein the first member gets angry for being rejected – and again replies with a tirade. At that point, it’s not even worth returning the messages because a person can’t predict who will be pleasant or who will snap.

Don’t let this get to you. Just move and continue to be positive.