Been there, done that, really not that great

Edit: Because I prefer steady bangin all the time not a few days a month

Word !!!

Yeah well you already know what its like to be a different everyday now doncha?

I have always used my real name and picture online. I didn't realize that you couldn't see my real name here until a couple days ago lol.

Hi my name is Cheri. :) and yes, the pics are ME. Everything in my profile is true and I am willing to answer - honestly, anything someone should wish to ask. I would EXPECT the same honesty in return...but as GoofBall said, people can and do lie...in person and online...

LDR's can work if both parties are equally committed to being together and if at least one of the two is willing to relocate should it develop into a love relationship. The only condition would be that if I were to couple up with someone and move somewhere new, it would be better to get a new place together so it isn't "their" place from the get go...it would be "ours"...equal footing.

Think about it this way...should we only date neighbors and fellow citizens of our localities or should we be open to the fact there are BILLIONS of people in the world and a lot of miles doesn't make someone wrong for you. ;) In fact...if you believe in soulmates, "the one", etc, then why would anyone assume their match lives in their town/city?

FTR...IF I were to fall in love and it was genuinely a mutual thing I would move anywhere in the world.

Well, which is better, having someone lie to you from down the street or having someone lie to you from 897,000 miles away?

I'll take the closer one; that way I can throw stuff at them.

a lie is a lie wherever it comes from right...but if you are happy being limited on your options and it works for you then hazzar! LOL, me on the other hand would love if I met someone nearby, however I refuse to put myself in a little box.

Goof great points I think I am going to elaborate a bit. I have had better luck with more "real" people off the net than I have in my little bitty town. The key to any relationship is communication, with a ldr it is paramount... I can't stress that enough.
I have done them, it takes a lot from both parties, have they worked one worked for over two years. Due to a personal trauma in his life we parted and to this day I will say that man is a treasure sadly not mine.

As Goof as mentioned it is pretty easy after a while to spot the fakes and players. The one thing I look for is consistency... I dont' forget conversations. I remember the little things, a game player can't remember all the plays and they will screw up eventually. Time is your friend in any meet and greets where there is a spark.

Being "Real" depends on the person... I have always believed a player can't play you unless you allow it. Then what does that say about our personal pickers.

All i can say is ...

So far ... So good

Chat Global-Date Local.

Wag More-Bark Less.

For me?


It didn't work


Don't know if I'll ever try again

I have actually done this..I live in Indiana, he lived in New Zealand. He flew here and then I flew there!! Our first year was on the computer and the phone and then we met. Sure things were wonderful and we had an amazing time BUT then the reality hits you hard!!
What do you do, you have fallen for someone that lives 9000 miles away and it cost $1200.00 each time you want to fly to see them. The reality is, you just can't do it very often!! Then you have to have a BIG level of trust between you.
NO I would never do this again!! Simply because you think you found your soul mate and they are simply unreachable!! I would NEVER put myself in that situation again and let myself fall for someone who lives in another country!!! He is in another world and I just couldn't move and he couldn't either!! It is very hard on the heart to know the one you love lives so far away and there is nothing you can do!!

I've tried it and it didn't work well. I prefer someone closer so we can see each other when we want.

I had forgotten. A long time ago, I was room-mates with 2 people. one was a man. We eventually became a couple.After about 8 months. I had to move because my mom was ill, and it was 1/3 way across the country. We were in love. We wrote, snail mail, called 3-6 x a week, visited every few months, it was great. We were 'eventually' going to get together. That lasted about 18 months. my mom got real bad, took a turn for the worse. We had seen each other for Christmas and then in March. Mid April is when my mom got put in the hospital (we knew it was coming). So busy was I with that that I realized hadn't heard from 'Mark' in about 10 days. I called him the 1st of May, he was all sheepish. he may have 'met' someone. My mother died 2 days later.
I didn't notice still hadn't heard, except a short message. So the point of the story is, there are no promises anything is going to work, whether you know the person or not, things can change off in a shift of the wind. Who ever your heart throb is 1/2 across the country. the next time they go out or go grocery shopping, the girl or boy next store is standing right next to them you're not.
If you have a long list, you might as well throw in the towel, you're actually saying I don't want to meet anyone, and I'll make it as difficult as possible to prove it. The problem seems to stem from people wanting the 'perfect' mate, since no one around them like that where they are.
You have to admit, maybe...just maybe we're all here because we haven't healed, aren't really looking that hard, don't REALLY want a relationship that badly. How many here actually would up and leave all they have for another? seriously. You'd give up your entire life where you are, your job, house, home, friends and start all over?
I've done that alot when I was young but not for anyone but myself. And what would you do if it didn't work out, or wasn't working out as well as you thought it would? You're taking all your problems with you anyway. The ones that are stopping you from getting involved with the person who asked you out but you didn't go because you might have a chance with the person 7 states away? I'm just saying this because I thought I can't be the only one on here like that.

The lady in the picture with me is 380 miles from where I live.

We're making it work.

I give it 6 months!

my experiences exactly..for some reason anyone close can be considered a "threat" and one stays away from them. Besides, I live in a tiny town and know, maybe, too much about the others and have too many preconcieved opinions of them? Just sayin'

Might wanna extend that a bit, Goof.

Everyone is different what works for some will not work for the next one... I have tried the LDR for over a year then it crashed and burned not because of the distance he moved here. It was due to he was totally different once he got here...

From now on I want within driving distance of max and hour away. Why cause I prefer one that I can actually be around face to face.

So yeah it can work have seen it work as long as one is willing to move..............

A honest response and someone who looks at themself! Distance really isn't the problem. It's 'seeing' that picture of someone, reading what they have to say, and poof! thats them all tied up in a nutshell. They're the one for me! You don't have to spend day after day with them, getting to know their quirks, moods, thoughts or actually really get to know them as a person until you are forced to.
You live in a fairy tale made up in your mind on who and what that other person is and dagnabit, thats who they are. Whether they are or not is something to be discovered. It might as well be 'Mail Order Mate', you have to be a really flexible, easy going, laid back, accepting person, I think, to be able to handle all that. And most people you meet, simply aren't.