As "Ruth34611" alluded to, there are no absolutes. It really depends on so many variables. but going into a LDR you should be aware that the chances of it working over the long term are slim. One of the parties will need to move to the others city.

When I moved to Toronto from Montreal, I had just began a relationship with a co-worker. The wear and tear of driving to Montreal every weekend took it's toll. After a few months the questions were asked, "Are you moving back" and "Are you moving to Toronto with me." Neither of us were moving so we ended it amicably.

No absolutes but the chance of a successful long-term commitment is elusive.

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The mighty and wise MMAN has spoken....

Great to hear Luis..best of luck to both of you!!!

Thanks bro!

Distance between us === 2,558 miles

Length of relationship, so far === 3 years 1 month

How long will it last === forever!

Hope you have web cam

I think LDRs can work for a few out there, but they are the exception. For most it's asking too much.
Personally, I need physical connection. I readily admit that I am the touchy, feely, snuggly type. I also need to make love to someone I'm in love with. Having a connection to someone across a long distance feels nice, but looking into the eyes of someone who says he loves me is a must, walking side by side as we talk and finding out if he'd want to hold my hand or put his arm around my waist or reach out to touch me when I need it is necessary to know how deep a relationship can become and you just can't get that by only writing and talking.

I realized was a tad crabby when wrote my responses, hurt actually but this is the more important aspect of the LDR to me also. I couldn't last very long without that. Yes, everyone is different. At least, from my experience, it put it all in a nutshell for me that hadn't even really thought about until it came up and the question was posed.
If I were 20 years younger, I really might have. Security really does become a big priority in your life when you get older, one that never did when were younger. As you get older, jobs aren't there, so if you have one, it's best to hang on to it, as a home, etc. Suppose am more leary due to the people I work with daily.
I do really congradulate you guiys who have done it, are doing it and have the energy and stamina to make it work.

I understand. I don't think most LDRs can work unless you have special circumstances, like access to money/job if you do move, willingness to travel, and the courage to take a lot of risks and accept it may not work out. I don't think an LDR should remain an LDR for too long. An LDR needs to move toward a normal relationship, and that means being close by so you can be together.

That said, I have seen LDRs work and become marriages. Takes exceptional commitment, understanding, and connectedness. One of my friends bumped into a girl in Japan, and though he spoke no Japanese, maintained a relationship with her by phone, internet, and regular trips visiting her for over a year until she moved to the US and they married several months later. They have been married for a year now and plan to have kids. Happy couple. It can work. Takes luck and lots of hard work. One or the other has to be mobile and have access to money or a job to make things easier and more stable.

Isn't being in a serious relationship mean being with that person so you can see them face to face and do things together? That is sort of hard to do with distance. Especially if you can only see each other occasionally.

On the other hand, if someone really attracts you and it is mutual, then maybe one of you might consider moving. If that is the case, then yes possibly it could work. But that should be brought up before going to far.

Ya, you two give us all hope.

It's gotta be a tough gig...

I'm a "flow with the river" kinda gal so I like to think I could do it...he'd have to something special, like connection special

If it's meant to be, the distance issue will work itself out.

Hey bro....I told that girl of yours to not be mean to you. LOL! I have the midgets on stand by. And you know that when The Midgets are called in, they mean business.

That's the way I look at it to...mostly.