Twilight-I did not read all of the suggestions, but a friend of mine had
her Step Dad escort her halfway then her Birth Dad escorted her halfway.

What about Mom doing it?

I wanted both parents to walk me down the aisle (Jewish tradition), but
my mother hates that tradition. So, my Dad walked me down to the front,
I got to kiss Mom and Dad, then entered the Chuppah on my own. Entering
the Chuppah (marriage canopy) is another tradition that you are doing
this of your own free will.

Okay, I am getting really excited about the wedding. I love weddings!
Going to have the Chicken Dance?

TT, I don't know how you feel about Michele's suggestion, but it kinda
gave me a thought...How about Dad walking the first half (he was there
first), kissing you and handing you off to Step dad (he was with you
during the second half of your growing years), kissing you and handing
you off just a few short steps from Chris, where she can get you away
since she has been there thru thick and thin?

When you talk to them all about what you want and the story doing it
this way will tell about how important each of them are in your life. It
will take a bit longer but includes all the people who are important to
you.

SIDEBAR: Chris, can you say elope?

I say go with your mom...She has been there the most for you in your
life and it would save alot of bad feelings too...These days anyone can
walk you down the isle so it doesn't matter!!!!!!

well at a friends wedding her grandfather gave her away,not because the
father wasn't there,but because she was closer to & loved him more, go
with your heart. And remeber it's your day make it special,not to please
anyone else.Hope your love & marriage last a lifetime. good luck & God
bless!!

Wow, lots of suggestions, didn't read them all so sorry if I'm
duplicating.

Tradition - where did it come from and how do we want it upheld?

Women were assets, possessions. They did not, in some places were not
allowed to own property. All property, including daughters belonged to
the male head of household and all the women therein, served that man
first and then the other males in the house. She was his to protect,
until HE gave her into the care of another man, whose possession she
then became.

That dear, is tradition. Today, does it not seem more valid that, the
person, any person, who has the most time, and love invested in your
life, be the one to bless your union by offering the hand once held in
love to another hand who will love it as well?

I have been to several weddings where a woman, Aunt, Mother even an
older sister, gave the brides hand to another to hold and love.

I think tradition is nice, but the reason for the tradition can be
changed without changing the traditional act.

Much happiness to you both.

Thank you all for the advice.

I think I have more of idea what I want to do.





I think I am going to have my step dad give me away.

My mom I love alot, but like I said before...She wouldn't be hurt if I
didn't ask her because traditionally it is the father that gives away
the daughter. Shes not expecting me to ask her.

I don't think I will ask my real dad. I dont want to take the honor
away from my step dad who has truely been there for me and never let me
down. If my dad dad doesnt respect my wishes and has a hissy fit...Never
talking to me again...then that is his loss. I dont feel I should
compromise what I want on my wedding day just to please him so he doesnt
throw a fit.

If I ask my step dad, and him alone...I KNOW he would be very proud and
the happiest man (2nd to Chris) in that church that day. Where as I
dont think my real dad would have the same reaction.

good decision Twighlite, i adopted my daughter and when she does get
married I would not feel slighted in the least if she asked her
biological father to walk her down, when she was 16 she told me " Dad u
didnt have to love me, u choose to" so I would absulotly feel no threat
with her "other" dad, theres plenty of room in her life for both of
us!!!! Mike

Awww Mike

AWWWWWwwwwwwww girl I only have one suggestion about your choice which
by the way you explained it I can very well understand your choice. Okay
My suggestion is that when that time comes for you to ask your Step-Dad
if that is were you will stand is. To meet with your dad either at home
his home somewhere private and explain to him as you just did here. I
really think if you give him that extra consideration you might be
surprised on what his reaction as a whole might be. Sure he will be
upset but if he takes the time and really give it some thought he will
understand your choice just let him know you do love him but due to
ect..

I do think it will help with matters if you sit down or both of you sit
down and explain no raising voices just simply talking.