Being a woman of tradition....I don't know what to do about this one...


See traditionally the father walks the bride down the aisle then "gives
her away".

I don't know who to chose?!?!

When I was 7, my mom married my step dad...and he was mainly my "father"
figure...however, then I have my dad dad...I dont know if I want to
scratch him out of that part, it being tradition that your father walks
you down the aisle!

If I had them both walk me down the aisle it could start a fight! I
doubt either of them would do it either!!!!! But if I just asked
one...the others feelings would be hurt BIG TIME!


But my mom has been there ALWAYS, through thick or thin. Can I ask her
to do it??? Many years she has played the role of both mom & dad.

Got to go with your heart.
If they can't get along for YOU,
on this special day;
I feel sorry for THEM.
Tell them, they can get along for 1 day.
Make it a SPECIAL wedding present.
Won't cost them a dime & mean alot to you.
Put it just that way.
Monkey on their back

I know Im plotting again...I dont purposely plot when Chris is sleeping
or at work...its pure quinky dinkies

I would ask mom to do it

Thanks sage...Im not very good at guilt trips though

Honey I would offer them the chance to have them both do it, and if they
cant agree, then have your mom do it its YOUR day and u will remember it
forever, so do what makes YOU happy!!!

Im thinking of that jenn...has that been done before?

Thanks Mikey

I dont want my mom to feel like she is my second choice though. WHen I
ask (whomever) I want them to feel honored that I chose them.

It isn't a guilt thing if it is the TRUTH.

Guilt is about hidden things, for me.
Telling what you want is just upfront.
They can do as they feel proper & leave you out of it.

well when my daughter got married

both of us walked her down the isle

i thought it was a bad thing

but that was what she wanted

and my x married him 3 weeks after the divorce was final

but if they can't be at piece for one day tell them both to stay away

it is your day and it is about you

not the actions of the past

if they can not get along well enough to do
this one thing for you then they will
more than likely end up spoiling the
whole event

but hey what do i know

Awwwwwwww Katie,, My step Father Died when I was 15 and I did not know
who my real father was until 3 years ago, so yes when I got married my
Mother walked me down the aisle for she was my Mom and Dad,,, It was the
most amazing moment her and I ever spent with each other,, Listen to
your heart you will find the answers,,

I would go with whatever your heart tells you. If you think that your
"DADS" can't be civil towards one another on probably the MOST important
day of your life, then I would ask your Mom

I think it will be hard enough to get them in the same room...let alone
both walk me down the asile.
I dont want either to get insulted that I asked both and not them soley.

My dad dad is the type that would take offense to that.

But, my step dad would be most honored if I asked him.


My mom might think it weird if I ask her...but Im sure she'd gracefully
do whatever I asked.

I say ask them both. If they start a fight then they are being selfish.
They are there for you and for your special day. Not for each other.

Thanks adj4u

(((((LAMOM))))))

Thanks for the advice puffins & whisper

i had my father inlaw to be do it before i had no step father and
my dad wasnt around...

well katie

yer right i did take offense to it

but it was my daughters day and she should have what she wanted

and after the walk down the isle(the 3 of us) i djed the reception

and yes he (her stepfather was an azz but i would not let him
control me and ruin my baby's day)

cause i love her and it just let others see what a jerk he is

really i think u should have the one whom is most like dad to you do
it...i said dad not father ..i know one day my oldest daughter will have
the same issue.. cause she had a sperm doner for a father and im sure it
will be her "dad" to walk her.. that is her stepfather... my youngest
daughters dad..