Somebody once told me that "Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong.....it is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there...you'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a "right person" for you...and don't rush things....because somewhere - somehow God is preparing somebody for you."

You can never be perfect...the person you love can never be perfect...but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But, no relationship is complete without God. Our relationships fail not because (s)he's not the right person....it's because we expected too much and we decided on our own. Let God do the work...you may call it waiting time....but while you are waiting ... pray. Let God guide you always...He knows better. No, He knows best.

Love is not what you think it is.... Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our
first relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some say that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others say love is immortal and can never be defined.

When we think we're in love the first thing many want is for the whole world to know that their love is for someone very special and that it can never be taken away from them. They may say this phrase "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received..." Yet then, after a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel they then say "You are the biggest mistake I've ever made for my entire life...!!!!".

Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers
right into our ears. All to often, love promises like "Forever,
Till Death do us apart, " etc... end up "Never" and "We should part
ways, I'm no longer happy with you! My love for you is DEAD!!!" Many times we think after having committed to someone and our trust to one another freezes down to zero degree "S/He isnt the right one. I should probably wait for the right one to come."


Jumping into sudden love will often lead to questioning, "Is she/he the right one?" and "When is the right time? Within this approach, you will always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit. Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already in love. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship.

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with a good relationship. If you already know that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try. You'll probably rip it and have to pay for the damages. If you know and feel that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into it. You'll just suffer the consequences and live tormented the rest of your life.

When someone is not right for you, you must set them free. It's really hard to say goodbye, but you can't make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart some much needed attention. Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself.

More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason. We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, its just pity. We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. In truth, its just that we're too much dependent on them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy nor beg - - It is real and existing. You can't touch it, but you can feel it in your heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.

Ahhhh, So you are saying that I might have a chance????:)

lol everyone has a chance. God also teaches us to be patient for a reason, God's blessings don't always happen when we think it should. Just keep your chin up and keep the faith and God will send someone your way.

Well I have tons of patients, and I'm grateful for all my blessings I've had in my life so far! So I'll take your advice and "keep the faith", and wait. Thanks!

That's the main reason on why marriages in this day and age doesn't last very often or atleast not as often as they used to i think. People just get to hurried and rush into something they regret later on in life. Just always have to have patients in it and good things will come your way.

yea

Thanks for your advise, sure patience pays and Gods appointed time is the best i will wait.

Thanks for your advise, sure patience pays and Gods appointed time is the best i will wait.

I do agree with that you must be patient and as we all know it is a hard thing to be able to do but you must put God first in your life and some of us who thought we were doing that found out different lol and when our lesson was taught to us we then realized that we truly were not putting God first. He will bring us someone if he wants us to have someone, all things are in his hands and his plan. Only he knows what our life holds for us. Gods is my someone

God Is Never Early!
God Is Never Late!
He Is Always On Time!

I recently lost someone who I thought was perfect. Its pretty easy to lose sight of the fact that God is there and he does care... Reading everyone's comments about relationships help remind me that He may be quiet but He is there protecting us.

Thanks all!

Its good for me to work daily on my relationship with God. After my soul mate passed away it took God to fill the emptiness. I was surprised how much I was dependent on her. Dependent on God took on a new meaning for me. Since her passing away was not immediate but over a period of time and I really had to take care of her during her last remaining days with me; It did some maturing on me. I was glad I had my mother's help who had two husbands to pass away on her. My relationship with my mother improved as she gave me some good pointers. I remember her saying, "You poor dear. Who is going to take care of you now?" Sure was a wake up call. I sure lost a good friend when I lost my wife but it let me know that it was time to develop other friendships. I found that no one can fill the emptiness like God can. God can give you a reason for living and I sure needed one after she left. One thing about having a relationship with God is that you don't have to worry about him ever leaving you. He is a wonderful friend to have when you are down. He is a wonderful friend to have when you are up.

Sorry for your loss!

Thank you. Some of the good friends who helped me were the women at the grief share meetings I attended. One lady especially was the lady who chaired over the meetings. She told me that I had to work through the grief and had to move on. She knew from own experience since she was a fellow member who had lost loved ones that you just can't replace the one you had since all of God's people are unique. I had to learn how to love myself and I had to go through the grief process. As the song says, "You got to walk that lonesome highway; You got to walk it by yourself. Nobody else can walk it for you; You got to walk it by yourself." Its been about five years now. God has sure worked a miracle in my life.

I dont see what the big deal is....

Someones right for me, someones wrong for me....


FUGGETABOUTTITTTT!


When you stop LOOKING for "the one"... Ya might just end up having a good time... and really...


WHO CARES where it goes?

You cant make anyone be into you anyway!

I say, go out, explore, make friends have fun, get to know people... date... and ENJOYYY YOURSELF!!

If you and someone mesch, awesome... itll happen naturally, and always unexpectedly...

So stop hunting.

God cares and will always be there

I did not meet my Miss Right until I was 34 and recovered from my encounter with Miss Take.

[Sadly, my wife died on July 3rd, 2010. I visit this website so that I can have some fellowship.]

Srry for your loss!