California is just the kinda 'special' place that provides the perfect 'background setting' for stories like this ... I'm not singling you out - I'm takin' advantage of the state's well-earned reputation for being, well, kinda 'flaky'. My sister and BIL live out there goin' on, what, 25 years now ... they say the same thing about it. There's a reason it's called 'LaLa Land', y'know ... don't get so bunched up - it's not personal.

a lot of wasted time It seems like you would have talked about what you wanted in the 2 years you were emailing

Perhaps the experience of 2 or 4 people doesn't make the consensus of the whole state... I am a bit "bunched up" as I live here, I love my state and FLAKES are EVERYWHERE...Not to mention the loser he's speaking of was from another state NOT Cali..

I agree with your actions.....it is one thing to need a leg up......quite another to deceive someone to get.....very sorry about the person using your emotions as her stepping stone

I forgot to tell you all. I had manager kick her out with NO money. NO return bus ticket. And, she has never been in this part of CAli before. Sooooooo. right now she is homeless in a strange town.

Hummmm and that is suppose to be funny???????? Thank gawd I always pay for my own ticket when I go met anyone and always have a way to get to the airport if needed.......But then I have never yet had a bad experience when I went somewhere......

Sorry in my book that is pretty sad.........I would never do anyone that way that I invited into my home.....

No. Its not suppose to be funny. in all truth, I do feel bad about it.

You should...........when we make mistakes in our lives it is up to us to be the better person and at least try to correct what we messed up.

And yes in reality your just as much at fault as she is for jumping head first into the lion pit and not even knowing what was to come of it....

I know you are right. Andmy heart tells me to make sure that she gets back to her home town. So, right now im 99.99% infavor of buying her that ticket for haome.

If she came with nothing you sent her away with the same. Nothing wrong with that. I honestly can't imagine talking to a woman for two years without meeting earlier. I'd maybe give it a month and move on, LTR's suck.

Also, any woman that wants to move to be with me needs to get her life in order first! Have a job, money, car... self sufficient. I don't want someone to love me cause they need me, I want them to need me cause they love me.

Anyway, learn from it and move on, that way it's not a waste.
Good luck man!

I really don't see how one can "fall" for someone if all they have done is talk on the phone, text, email...blah, blah. I mean, you get to know someone by doing all that, and you either move forward to wanting to know more about them. Or, you decide that by talking to them that they just do not interest you at all. Hell, even when you do meet someone and spend time (say a few days) with that person, you still don't know if that person is "the one". And that is why you keep on seeing each other. This is a dating site, and that is what you are supposed to do....date. Not fall in love and get married within a two month span.

I guess you can raise that to 3 or 5. I've been there a couple times.....

I'm thinkin after that first class McBus ride you really shoulda treated her to a #7 combo meal someplace before you kicked her out in the street

Another true life Mutual Match Miracle of Internet Dating.


Thanks for taking one for the team and reminding us to pay attention.

Yeah you could have least seen her to a shelter, dam I can understand kickin her to the curb for deceit you never know, is a trust thing keeping her in your home though, maybe hotel room for the night?? But definitely agree with kickin her out, life of hard knocks teaches good life lessons.....