OK guys, I need some advice on what to do here and what better place than here? So here's some of the background... Sorry this is a bit long...

My long time friend has been dating this guy on and off for about 3 years. In this time I could plainly see he's lied to her, strung her along, plain out BS her, and she fell for it hook line and sinker every time. She drives me nuts! but that's a whole different story. I have hated this man all 3 of these years.
He's been living with his "baby mama" but keeps telling my friend "it's just so he can see his kids. I just sleep on the couch, I can't stand her" And all those other lies. He does his late night visits to my friend's house and of course goes back home. Keeps stringing her along how he loves her, and she just needs to wait it out for the right time when he can leave her, etc etc etc. And again, she falls for it. He would give her a date that he's moving out of his "baby mamas" house and then of course, that date would come and go and there's always another excuse. This has been going on for years. He would even go as far as to when she would FINALLY start talking to another guy, he would make her feel guilty because she's supposed to love him. She promised to wait for him. He would guilt her into getting rid of any new guy that came along in all this. All the while, he's the cheating no good rotten scoundral
Now, I agree she's stupid for falling for it. No one is disputing that. She even has finally realized how stupid she is when it comes to him.
But apparently he was just at her house last week, for his little late night visits. And then she finds out yesterday that he actually married his "baby mama" over a month ago, which of course he was never sleeping with and he can't stand her... OMG I hate this man!
Why bother getting married if you can't even stay faithful for your first month? He had NO INTENTIONS on staying faithful to his wife, and lord only knows what lies he's been telling to her to get her to marry him.
I feel so bad for his wife and kids as well. So, like I said, I'm not asking about my friend, I already know she needs help and has her own issues to deal with.
My question is... His wife is on another "social networking site". I was thinking about contacting her and telling her what's been going on. I don't really want to but in but I feel she has the right to know what her husband and father of her children is out doing while she's at work... supporting the family. Because of course, he doesn't work.
I think he deserves to be thrown out on his AZZ and not have a chance with either one of them! Whether she leaves him or not is up to her, but I think she deserves to know all of the information so she can make her own decisions.
Sooo... thanks for reading my long rant! Should I take it upon myself to contact his wife???

No.....I wouldn't get involved...the wife most likely wouldn't believe you anyhow...cheers

no!...stay out of their lives. The best thing you can do is get your friend to see him for what he is and not keep taking him back.

No good can from you ratting him out to his wife...besides, if she does throw him out, your friend might just take him in considering she has invested so much time here. Then what?...you will be the bad guy in this whole mess, that's what!!!

yea I thought about that... but I can back it up. If she chooses not to believe than thats her choice. At least she's getting the information, take it or leave it.
I TRY not to involve myself in others relationships which is why I am so torn. Maybe I just really wanna see him suffer

If you are friends with her, I wouldn't write her about it, would tell her in person. If you are not and you tell her, you will become seen as a instigator. Tell a good friend of hers perhaps, and let her tell the woman.
You're hurt because your girlfriend hurts, but if it were someone I never met, emailed me with this info, I wouldn't know how to take it, and he will deny everything. Thats all I got.
The cat will get out of the bag sooner or later...but really don't think it should be you to untie the bag.

YEa I thought about that too. I'm pretty sure I would go over there and throw him out My friend is finally at a place with herself that she doesn't actually want to talk to him or see him again. So she says... but I think him getting married was the final straw. She's finally seeing thru all of his lies.

yes Jill I think you should tell her

Damn! All of a sudden my life seems very simple......

I do not know his wife at all. I have never met her. And he may deny everything but I can put specifics in there that he can't wiggle himself out of.

Heres the thing Jill...he won't suffer...the wife will...he'll just find another woman to play with

I just try to put myself in her shoes... if I was his wife, I would want to know. Of course no one ever wants to hear such things about their spouse. But I would want to know if my husband was cheating on me and lying to me.

eh, she'll suffer for awhile sure, but then she can hopefully move on to someone that isn't treating her like crap. She's going to suffer whether I contact her or not. I do feel bad for her.

I agree...

I tried to get my friend to tell his wife but she just won't do it. She says "I'm not a home wrecker" and I tell her... you're not wrecking their home, HE is wrecking his home everytime he calls you or comes over to your house behind his wife's back. HE never takes any responsibility for any of his actions and never pays any consequences.

Same here. From physical health alone. STD's are F***king scary.

Double dipping is not good. Somebody is bound to get hurt..

your friend is a home wrecker imo she is wanting him to leave his family and as you said now knows he is married

Simple: Mind Your Own Business!!! No good ever comes from putting your nose where it doesn't belong.

I would want a friend to tell me if something was going on behind my back. Isn't that part of being a friend? Friends are supposed to look out for one another. JMO.........