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Come to think of it, I do get annoyed with people's brutal honesty sometimes. For instance, i don't mean this as a go at anyone here in particular, but often when I mention a problem in a relationship, often the advice I get in response is "oh just dump her", and I hate to say it, but for me, that's akin to me saying that I'm having issues at work and just saying "oh just quit your job" in response. Simply put, if I was to just quit my job, I would be in a much worse financial situation and it's not as easy to find work these days, with all these recessions people keep talking about. and don't even get me started on relationships, I guess my frustration is that too many people give such simplistic solutions to what are complex life problems. that's my take on it.
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there's a certain amount of tact required when giving someone an honest answer. 'not being mean' is subjective. telling me that i might find a more suitable dress is a little different than telling me i look like a pig in it. exactly,, seems our culture has started revering RUDENESS as 'honesty' and you seem like a beautiful person ,,,btw I agree lol,, ur a lovely couple LOL no I mean I agree with your post...LOL |
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there's a certain amount of tact required when giving someone an honest answer. 'not being mean' is subjective. telling me that i might find a more suitable dress is a little different than telling me i look like a pig in it. exactly,, seems our culture has started revering RUDENESS as 'honesty' and you seem like a beautiful person ,,,btw I agree lol,, ur a lovely couple LOL no I mean I agree with your post...LOL oh, oops,, egg on my face,,lol |
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(don't know who i am giving them to though, anyone who wants these flowers can take them i just saw the other guy giving them so i thought why not join in)
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Come to think of it, I do get annoyed with people's brutal honesty sometimes. For instance, i don't mean this as a go at anyone here in particular, but often when I mention a problem in a relationship, often the advice I get in response is "oh just dump her", and I hate to say it, but for me, that's akin to me saying that I'm having issues at work and just saying "oh just quit your job" in response. Simply put, if I was to just quit my job, I would be in a much worse financial situation and it's not as easy to find work these days, with all these recessions people keep talking about. and don't even get me started on relationships, I guess my frustration is that too many people give such simplistic solutions to what are complex life problems. that's my take on it. People can be poor conversationalists. At least when someone responds like that, you know not to talk to them seriously about anything anymore. My ex was like that. Extremely poor listener. |
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why is people ask for honesty and then get all ticked off when i give it to them...and really I am not mean about it just blatently honest! Even if they get ticked off, that doesn't matter. Most of the time the truth will pi$$ everyone off, but once past the initial rage, they couldn't be more glad to know how things are in reality. |
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Sometimes a good dose of honesty is just what we need..like a wake up slap in the face, just without the violence...
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People can be poor conversationalists. At least when someone responds like that, you know not to talk to them seriously about anything anymore. My ex was like that. Extremely poor listener. hey Shasta, it's hard because I want to respect everyone's point of view, and not be mean about how I respond to others, but yes, it is a concern of mine when people respond to something in such a simplistic manner to complex life problems. |
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SuFScoO4tb0
"If you search for tenderness it isn't hard to find. You can have the love you need to live. But if you look for truthfulness You might just as well be blind. It always seems to be so hard to give. Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you. I can always find someone to say they sympathize. If I wear my heart out on my sleeve. But I don't want some pretty face to tell me pretty lies. All I want is someone to believe. Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you. I can find a lover. I can find a friend. I can have security until the bitter end. Anyone can comfort me with promises again. I know, I know. When I'm deep inside of me don't be too concerned. I won't as for nothin' while I'm gone. But when I want sincerity tell me where else can I turn. Because you're the one I depend upon. Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you." Billy Joel - 1978 |
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I think the defensiveness of the person you are addressing will show if they feel attacked by your honesty.
Blunt honesty is a tough thing to receive. |
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Some people just can not handle the truth. Honest
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well my honest opinion on this is that it depends on the situation.
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why is people ask for honesty and then get all ticked off when i give it to them...and really I am not mean about it just blatently honest! Even if they get ticked off, that doesn't matter. Most of the time the truth will pi$$ everyone off, but once past the initial rage, they couldn't be more glad to know how things are in reality. 
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horses are such beautiful amazing creatures...
anyway, as i said, i stand by this statement, that if someone's "honest" opinion is a simplistic solution to a complex social problem, then that would annoy me, people are entitled to their opinion sure... another thing that annoyed me, is that i was just being myself online one day, and had one girl say to me in response to me saying that i'm a dog lover "oh no offense, i can see why a lot of people probably don't talk to you much" i mean what the hell?? nobody can accept people for who they are anymore, and i will always be just me and would sooner have little to no friends who like me for who i am then a lot of bad shallow friends that couldn't care less if i died tomorrow, aye? |
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why is people ask for honesty and then get all ticked off when i give it to them...and really I am not mean about it just blatently honest! always be said. You have to consider how much you care about the person. Sometimes you have to redirect the question, so they give themselves the answer. Insightful.. 
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If an axe murderer or big ogre or something was hunting some innocent girl, about to chop her head off or something, and asked me if she went to the left into the forest or right towards the river, if she had gone into the forests I would definitely point to the river. and run like hell.
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Honesty is a good thing. However, there are ways to be honest about things without being mean about them. It just takes a little thinking before blurting out something in a way that could hurt someone.
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why is people ask for honesty and then get all ticked off when i give it to them...and really I am not mean about it just blatently honest! Me to girl!! My honesty causes people to get reeeaal mad but that's usually because of their own insecurities ya know I laugh!!! Ya gotta love people!!!:: 
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i never had a problem with your honesty gosspip...at least Tina, the love of my life never gossis about me :))
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