Topic: Would you be a slave to your family or your family and job? | |
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Here is a paradoxical question. I can't see being both myself. The whole "magical sacrifice of having children" is just a myth! It is another way of saying to a guy 'change shoved down your throat...'
I do not want to be a slave to a job and family. I can only be one thing at a time! And a door stop is not one of them things but a rat bastard on occasion? Hmmmmmmmm... |
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Lincoln freed the slaves, so I'm a slave to no one.
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I guess you could say that I have been there and done that. I worked fulltime while raising 2 boys and a husband. During that time my wishes took a back seat but don't get me wrong it was not slavery. I had one h3ll of a good time and made alot of friends. I also have 2 great sons who look out for their Mom. But now is my time!
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Here is a paradoxical question. I can't see being both myself. The whole "magical sacrifice of having children" is just a myth! It is another way of saying to a guy 'change shoved down your throat...' Exactly. I've had that maneuver tried on me dozens of times -- if they think I need to make changes of THAT magnitude, they shouldn't even waste their time on me in the first place. |
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See now I wouldn't call it slavery... more like indentured servitude. Done by choice with my eyes wide open...
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See now I wouldn't call it slavery... more like indentured servitude. Done by choice with my eyes wide open... Now that does sound dirty.... |
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If some don't want children they shouldn't have any...I raised my 3 boys alone, worked my azz , was a tough gig. Their grown up now, I wouldn't trade a minute of it. I learned more from them then I ever taught them...
You'd be surprised what ya can do when ya have to. |
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Edited by
iam4u
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Wed 03/17/10 07:20 PM
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If some don't want children they shouldn't have any...I raised my 3 boys alone, worked my azz , was a tough gig. Their grown up now, I wouldn't trade a minute of it. I learned more from them then I ever taught them... You'd be surprised what ya can do when ya have to. I felt both of their loves and work,,was just how we survived and bought everything we wanted or needed.... I NEVER felt I HAD TO DO THIS,,I only felt that I knew I could,,and WANTED to have my own family,,,IT was time for me to settle down and RAISE my own children and be what this world seems to have us all involved in,,,,OUR OWN FAMILIES and MAKING A LIVING as we share all that THIS world can show us.... I have NEVER looked back,,,and have NOT even a SMALL regret of being and doing all of that,,,, WE LIVE,,,through our children and their children,,,through the LOVE we passed on to them all,,,as THEY reflect back on US... |
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If some don't want children they shouldn't have any...I raised my 3 boys alone, worked my azz , was a tough gig. Their grown up now, I wouldn't trade a minute of it. I learned more from them then I ever taught them... You'd be surprised what ya can do when ya have to. I felt both of their loves and work,,was just how we survived and bought everything we wanted or needed.... I NEVER felt I HAD TO DO THIS,,I only felt that I knew I could,,and WANTED to have my own family,,,IT was time for me to settle down and RAISE my own children and be what this world seems to have us all involved in,,,,OUR OWN FAMILIES and MAKING A LIVING as we share all that THIS world can show us.... I have NEVER looked back,,,and have NOT even a SMALL regret of being and doing all of that,,,, WE LIVE,,,through our children and their children,,,through the LOVE we passed on to them all,,,as THEY reflect back on US... |
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Delilady and Ladylid, I have been raising my daughter and son for 12 years on my own. It is the most rewarding, yet challenging experience I have had or will ever had. I wouldn't change a thing. It's nice now because they are almost beginning to "fly out of the nest" and I am excited about living my own life a little more now.
So, bravo to the two of you, and any other single moms that read this. And to those who didn't choose this route, it is an individual choice and I completely respect that. Rock on! |
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WE LIVE,,,through our children and their children,,,through the LOVE we passed on to them all,,,as THEY reflect back on US... We do just that. Nicely said. |
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See now I wouldn't call it slavery... more like indentured servitude. Done by choice with my eyes wide open... Now that does sound dirty.... dirty girl... queen of the entendre |
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See now I wouldn't call it slavery... more like indentured servitude. Done by choice with my eyes wide open... Now that does sound dirty.... dirty girl... queen of the entendre I try. |
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See now I wouldn't call it slavery... more like indentured servitude. Done by choice with my eyes wide open... There you go!!! I'm almost done... Then it's me time but I'm able to grab some me time here and there... It's all in how you look at it and what you want out of life... I'm thankful for everything I've had no matter how rough that road has been or can be.. |
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Edited by
Monier
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Wed 03/17/10 08:33 PM
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It's funny how people who tackle responsibility head on don't feel the least bit burdened by their jobs or family........
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Here is a paradoxical question. I can't see being both myself. The whole "magical sacrifice of having children" is just a myth! It is another way of saying to a guy 'change shoved down your throat...' I do not want to be a slave to a job and family. I can only be one thing at a time! And a door stop is not one of them things but a rat bastard on occasion? Hmmmmmmmm... Andy your looking at this all wrong. Take your time with the one you love, over time if both of you desire to have children then do. The only way i can see that you would put yourself in this dilemma is rush too fast in a relationship without know the other person. |
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I never considered raising my kids as slavery. Sorry but if that's what it feels like to anyone then you really need to not be around kids.
The only time I ever felt enslaved was when I was growing up and was everyone elses ****ing tv remote, or I'd get called out of my room to fix my mother a cup of coffee, or slapped around because I walked in front of the TV or whatever else that thing called my family felt like doing. Well now that I'm cranky I gotta go call my daughter so she can tell me I was a good dad and not like what I grew up with. :-/ |
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There is nothing more precious than children.
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Here is a paradoxical question. I can't see being both myself. The whole "magical sacrifice of having children" is just a myth! It is another way of saying to a guy 'change shoved down your throat...' Don't want kids? Simple: don't have any. Please! |
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I never considered raising my kids as slavery. Sorry but if that's what it feels like to anyone then you really need to not be around kids. The only time I ever felt enslaved was when I was growing up and was everyone elses ****ing tv remote, or I'd get called out of my room to fix my mother a cup of coffee, or slapped around because I walked in front of the TV or whatever else that thing called my family felt like doing. Well now that I'm cranky I gotta go call my daughter so she can tell me I was a good dad and not like what I grew up with. :-/ |
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