My boarder is always calling me her protector but sometimes her negativity just gets to me because I try to stay a positive person. It is now the fourth refrigerator that we have to get rid of because three just didn't work. The first one given to me by my mom stop working. The second replacement the ice box worked but not the lower section. The third one given to us never did work but made a lot of noise. The fourth worked for a few days then went out and it cost me eighty dollars. We both were getting upset about this. This month she says that she will just buy us a new refrigerator. I am giving up chivarly and going for logic and let her buy it.

LOL.... thought this thread was about something else...

Yeah just let her buy it and enjoy yourself

i suppose one could substitute 'refrigerator' for something else, like blow up doll, and spice this up a bit

but yeah, i agree, i don't see a problem with letting her take matters into her own hands here.

Wow!this went from an interesting,attention grabbing title to a high speed blow-out.pssssssst.
But anyhow,I definitely think that you should let her decide on the next refrigerator.May the fourth be the greatest charm of them all.G'luck!

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hell let her buy it........

Still trying to figure out how the topic deals with the heading and in dating and relationships

When I was growing up I had this friend whose younger brother always called the bathroom the 'refrigerator'... I'll never forget the first time I heard him tell his parents that he had to go to the refrigerator to go to the bathroom.... He was strange like that, he even put mustard in all of his food, even his cold cereal...

Sounds like a strange mf'r.....

I've heard "washing machine" as a sex metaphor.....

Yeah he probably grew up and became rich

You can buy a brand new refer for about four hundred bucks. If it bothers you that she is paying for it go halfs on it.

Chivalry ... ? CHIVALRY ... ? Ummm, like Jimi said ... 'Scuse me while I kiss the sky ... I don't see nothing here about no steenkin' 'chivalry' ... I see a sad tale of unfortunate appliances, but nothing more ... IS there more ... ? do tell - do tell ...

how bizarre ~ i wonder if he got the milk out of the bathroom??

You can buy a brand new refer for about four hundred bucks. If it bothers you that she is paying for it go halfs on it.


I am just learning a lot about our relationship. She is just seeing the obviousness of the situation. I was just trying to save her and me some money. I misdiagnosed. Actually, for me it was an acceptance for reality on its own terms. The reality of it being that the refrigerators were just junk whether I paid for them or not. I am quite happy to let her buy the new refrigerator and she is quite happy to buy it. She is feeling less like she owes me. The symbioses of the relationship is getting better. I was somewhat worried that I would have to lose my independence but it is turning out more of an interdependence which was what I was shooting for. She is not getting used and neither am I. I was getting advice that taking on this felon would not be in my best interest but some how we are beating the odds. One of the reasons that she agreed to move in with me was because she was serious about her recovery and she feels safe here. There still seems to be this weirdness about the relationship and I think it is still being define but so far so good. I was worried about her husband and how I would get along with him but in the second retrieving of her stuff from his house I got to meet his new girlfriend. I got to experience in person the signing of their divorce and became a witness of that. So evidently like her husband at the time said it wouldn't mess up his and my friendship. It did take a little more time for her to let go of him then it took for him to let go of her but atleast now she isn't stranded. I am glad she was able to parole out to me. It is helping the both of us. Just got to get used to living with another person. Really strange after being by myself for four years. I just have to accept the fact that I am not alone any more. Pros and cons of that for sure.

Buying appliances isn't chivalry. Well, unless you need one to rescue her from your local fire-breathing relative.

If you are together, you share in things like appliances, and chivalry is about the little gestures that show you care and are there for her. It's great of you to want to do something, but sometimes stepping back and letting things be a joint venture is better!

Yeah, still learning about the 'joint venture thing'. I mean its not a marriage and its not a sexual relationship. She is 11 years older than me and I am trying to capitalize on that fact because she does bring some experience to the relationship. I mean I am trying to respect my elder here and I am finding stepping back does help. Its just that her honesty can be so brutal at times. I find myself wanting to counter attack when it really is not necessary. I am trying the intellect over emotion thing and that seems to help.

If they run on batteries and he buys the batteries it might be

chokes on drink...

LOL

Now...THAT'S true love.....