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Looks like someone just read the title and didn't bother reading the content...lol
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Looks like someone just read the title and didn't bother reading the content...lol |
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Looks like someone just read the title and didn't bother reading the content...lol Seriously?? Sometimes...yeah. It CAN be that difficult. Finding someone to talk to is relatively easy. Finding someone who has enough in common with you ( especially for someone like me with my scattered interests ) is like finding a needle in a field full of haystacks. Especially when you have gotten CLOSE a couple of times, but missed the mark on one thing or another. |
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Edited by
kc0003
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Thu 02/25/10 12:30 AM
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How to pick up girls on the internet...*available soon in paperback* 
This is completely indulgent. To say this is not about relationships is a little odd, don’t you think? Weather it is a sibling, a friendship, or dating these are all relationships. Not to mention that your post tells us that she is in one. The fact that she doesn’t seem to care does say something about her character as much as your continued pursuit does. Which leads me to wonder if you would be so lighthearted about this if you were the “boyfriend”? Please don’t insult me by saying, I have missed the point of the post, clearly you could have made it without some of the details you have included, therefore, they become part of the point. Especially when now, you feel the need to dismiss them as filler; it would be a bit self serving to omit them. The point that you are making, either consciously or sub- is that you are more interested in acquiring “notches” than anything else. I sight your own words for this point, “I’m not letting her saying she has a boyfriend slow me down”. That statement in and of itself, speaks volumes. I find it curious that you state you don’t cheat, but you obviously have no problem being a party to someone else’s unfaithful exploits. I know we cannot control other people’s actions however; we are responsible for our own. Like it or not, our actions are what define us as humans. With this example you have given us great insight to the level of respect that you hold for relationships, be they yours or not. Wow KC, that was insightful  I wasn't going to post b/c I was sickened by the whole thing but I admire the way you wrote your take on it, I was thinking along the same lines....
well i'm sure i'll hear it over this one... 
but thank you... 
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just remember " when your looking for a needle in a hay stack , light the hay stack on fire, get out a metal detector you'll find that needle. reading this thread all it tells me is the author has game and he is a player, he's talking about sending ten emails for a 3-4 return. How many times has this worked , He's on here now, guy's do you really need advice from a 46 year old who still hasn't found that special someone.
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I took it as the light-hearted joke it was. As an ice-breaker, it would certainly work. I know the debate over whether she's legit with a boyfriend or not might be up for debate, and it certainly doesn't mean that others would continue on with the conversation, but that doesn't make the fun chatting wrong or anything. I know I've jokingly plotted world domination with friends. Of course, I'd be pushing that little red button a few times. |
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I just straight up say hi and start up a conversation. Yeah the real me is interesting, and usually I prove it. Off the wall role play without even knowing anything about the person you're talking to might be fun, or an ice breaker, but when her curiousity of 'what's up with this guy?' wears off, you're still going to lose out if the real you is'nt what she's looking for. It's all about your personality (you're real personality). Stick to who you are. I agree 100%. You must absolutely be yourself. I'm saying to allow your true self to shine when composing your emails. Have fun with it! Be playful. Be creative. Come up with something no one else has thought of and put it in an email. I'd rather someone hate me for who I really am than love me for something I'm not. |
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Someone sent me that kind of lame dribble I would think they were self absorbed attention seeker more intent on pretending to be a player than having any real game. LOL always amazes me those who think that is smart, engageing, or even funny. Not even and original approach
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How to pick up girls on the internet...*available soon in paperback*
This is completely indulgent. To say this is not about relationships is a little odd, don’t you think? Weather it is a sibling, a friendship, or dating these are all relationships. Not to mention that your post tells us that she is in one. The fact that she doesn’t seem to care does say something about her character as much as your continued pursuit does. Which leads me to wonder if you would be so lighthearted about this if you were the “boyfriend”? Please don’t insult me by saying, I have missed the point of the post, clearly you could have made it without some of the details you have included, therefore, they become part of the point. Especially when now, you feel the need to dismiss them as filler; it would be a bit self serving to omit them. The point that you are making, either consciously or sub- is that you are more interested in acquiring “notches” than anything else. I sight your own words for this point, “I’m not letting her saying she has a boyfriend slow me down”. That statement in and of itself, speaks volumes. I find it curious that you state you don’t cheat, but you obviously have no problem being a party to someone else’s unfaithful exploits. I know we cannot control other people’s actions however; we are responsible for our own. Like it or not, our actions are what define us as humans. With this example you have given us great insight to the level of respect that you hold for relationships, be they yours or not. Paperback? LOL I was actually thinking ebook. 
I posted our the entire correspondence for the sake of completeness. This isn't about a relationship. It's about starting a fun conversation with a stranger. It's about giving value, in this case a funny email, to another person instead of taking it. If you are getting results from your first time emails by doing something else I'd like to read your advice. I really would. I will admit to being a libertine. I do have more than a few women's numbers in my address book. So what? Do you think it's easier to maintain a relationship with one woman than it is with three or four or ten? And yes, all the women I date understand I'm not exclusive with them. However, I'm seeing no one now because I've just moved to a new town 250 miles away from where I was living. I don't see how someone else's cheating has anything to do with me. I'm telling no lies and I'm betraying no one. If a woman cheats on me I don't blame the man (or woman) she cheated with. I blame her. Besides, many women say they have a boyfriend only to get rid of the losers. Losers give up too soon and that's why they lose. Winners go in for the win. I posted earlier saying if a woman I'm with meets someone she cares more deeply about than myself I would be happy for her. I can find another lover as easily as she can. To love is to desire happiness for your love more than for yourself. I think I covered all your points. If I missed something let me know. Okay pumpkin? |
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Someone sent me that kind of lame dribble I would think they were self absorbed attention seeker more intent on pretending to be a player than having any real game. LOL always amazes me those who think that is smart, engageing, or even funny. Not even and original approach Well, it seems many of the women in this thread disagree with you. I know it's not to everyone's taste. But, I think that's a good thing. The ones that don't like it won't like me. I'm looking for a woman that has a similar sense of humor to my own. The kind of woman I'd want to be with would be playful and enjoy this kind of banter. Have you ever seen any of the old Thin Man movies? I'm looking for the Nora to my Nick. This young lady got it. She got me! We had fun together. What's the problem? Obviously you don't get me and we wouldn't be good together. That's cool. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with either of us. We just don't have any sparks. |
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Edited by
papersmile
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Thu 02/25/10 03:15 AM
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I posted about this once before and said I get better replies with this kind of thing than I do by saying something like "Hi, I really liked your profile and wondered if you'd like to chat sometime."
i absolutely agree. it's not just about getting noticed, but writing something that makes you stand out from the crowd, and encourages some sort of response. i don't get much email but i imagine there are women who get dozens of 'wanna chat' 'how are you?, etc. types of email daily and they are likely to respond to the one who grabs their interest, and it's usually in the form of something witty they say. i like that type of flirtatious dialogue. |
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I took it as the light-hearted joke it was. As an ice-breaker, it would certainly work. I know the debate over whether she's legit with a boyfriend or not might be up for debate, and it certainly doesn't mean that others would continue on with the conversation, but that doesn't make the fun chatting wrong or anything. I know I've jokingly plotted world domination with friends. Of course, I'd be pushing that little red button a few times. That's they way I took it as well. Just a silly way to start a conversation. A way to stand out a bit against most others, because most others write pretty much the same thing. |
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I posted about this once before and said I get better replies with this kind of thing than I do by saying something like "Hi, I really liked your profile and wondered if you'd like to chat sometime."
i absolutely agree. it's not just about getting noticed, but writing something that makes you stand out from the crowd, and encourages some sort of response. i don't get much email but i imagine there are women who get dozens of 'wanna chat' 'how are you?, etc. types of email daily and they are likely to respond to the one who grabs their interest, and it's usually in the form of something witty they say. i like that type of flirtatious dialogue. I'd have to say that most of the emails I get are nothing more than "wanna chat" and "how are you" type emails. I'm probably more patient than most, as I do reply anyway and give them a chance to show they can have an actual conversation. Most of the time, they don't have much to say. |
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How to pick up girls on the internet...*available soon in paperback*
This is completely indulgent. To say this is not about relationships is a little odd, don’t you think? Weather it is a sibling, a friendship, or dating these are all relationships. Not to mention that your post tells us that she is in one. The fact that she doesn’t seem to care does say something about her character as much as your continued pursuit does. Which leads me to wonder if you would be so lighthearted about this if you were the “boyfriend”? Please don’t insult me by saying, I have missed the point of the post, clearly you could have made it without some of the details you have included, therefore, they become part of the point. Especially when now, you feel the need to dismiss them as filler; it would be a bit self serving to omit them. The point that you are making, either consciously or sub- is that you are more interested in acquiring “notches” than anything else. I sight your own words for this point, “I’m not letting her saying she has a boyfriend slow me down”. That statement in and of itself, speaks volumes. I find it curious that you state you don’t cheat, but you obviously have no problem being a party to someone else’s unfaithful exploits. I know we cannot control other people’s actions however; we are responsible for our own. Like it or not, our actions are what define us as humans. With this example you have given us great insight to the level of respect that you hold for relationships, be they yours or not. Paperback? LOL I was actually thinking ebook.
I posted our the entire correspondence for the sake of completeness. This isn't about a relationship. It's about starting a fun conversation with a stranger. It's about giving value, in this case a funny email, to another person instead of taking it. If you are getting results from your first time emails by doing something else I'd like to read your advice. I really would. I will admit to being a libertine. I do have more than a few women's numbers in my address book. So what? Do you think it's easier to maintain a relationship with one woman than it is with three or four or ten? And yes, all the women I date understand I'm not exclusive with them. However, I'm seeing no one now because I've just moved to a new town 250 miles away from where I was living. I don't see how someone else's cheating has anything to do with me. I'm telling no lies and I'm betraying no one. If a woman cheats on me I don't blame the man (or woman) she cheated with. I blame her. Besides, many women say they have a boyfriend only to get rid of the losers. Losers give up too soon and that's why they lose. Winners go in for the win. I posted earlier saying if a woman I'm with meets someone she cares more deeply about than myself I would be happy for her. I can find another lover as easily as she can. To love is to desire happiness for your love more than for yourself. I think I covered all your points. If I missed something let me know. Okay pumpkin? Yes you did. My comments are based on your entire post, you see, while you may argue that your intent was to “start” a dialogue, you also gave specific details, to which I responded. I stand behind my previous comments. As for me and my “results” sorry, I would not be pretentious enough to come on to a dating site and tell everyone else how they should or should not conduct their opening statements. Just me…I don’t know. Your question about dating more than one person; I agree with this part. Until both people decide to make it exclusive, each has the right and really, they owe it to themselves, to live how they see fit. No problem here. “I don't see how someone else's cheating has anything to do with me.” Huh? If you are the one she is cheating with, it has everything to do with you. But, this is a moral issue and as an adult you know the difference between right and wrong. If you choose not to take responsibility for your actions that is up to you. I would like to ask a question though. Do you believe that all of Tiger’s mistresses (what are we up to now…75?) are innocent? Every one of them knew he was in a relationship, yet they made the decision to ignore it. So, should his wife embrace them as victims, innocent bystanders or accomplices? btw i despise pumpkins, but i do appreciate the sentiment
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As for me and my “results” sorry, I would not be pretentious enough to come on to a dating site and tell everyone else how they should or should not conduct their opening statements. Just me…I don’t know. Well, what works for you? If you were to tell us, you wouldn't be telling someone what they should or should not do. You'd just be telling us what has worked for you. I'm interested in hearing what works for different people, as there are so many that complain about nothing at all working. |
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Edited by
TheShadow
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Thu 02/25/10 07:53 AM
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I like the idea and have done it in the past. The problem with this is for me. They expect you to be this way with them all the time. If your not, a lot of women lose interest real quick. Actually, I don't even consider a women a women if she can't enjoy life with out having to be pleased all the time.
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This is getting too far off topic. I won't discuss Tiger Woods relationships. Start another thread about it if you want to.
I've already given you my opinion on seeing a woman with a boyfriend. A wise man once said "If you want to sleep at night don't marry a beautiful, young woman." I've read so many post by men asking why they can't get replies and if there's something wrong with them. I feel for these men because I was one of them once and now I want to help. I don't think women are rejecting these men because they don't know them. The women are rejecting the men's approach. I've given them a new approach and something to think about. If you like my ideas and feel they could help you, use them. If not, disregard them. You can see from the replies that a number of women like this approach. And it's works for me. I'm just trying to help. Love & kisses Texas Scoundrel |
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I like the idea and have done it in the past. The problem with this is for me. They expect you to be this way with them all the time. If your not, a lot of women lose interest real quick. Actually, I don't even consider a women a women if she can't enjoy life with out having to be pleased all the time. I understand. It's hard to be like this after a rough day a work and she should understand that. But, I don't have any trouble being playful most of the time. I'm always looking for fun things to talk about with people. It also helps to have a life outside your relationship. You'll both have more to talk about when you come home. |
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How to pick up girls on the internet...*available soon in paperback*
This is completely indulgent. To say this is not about relationships is a little odd, don’t you think? Weather it is a sibling, a friendship, or dating these are all relationships. Not to mention that your post tells us that she is in one. The fact that she doesn’t seem to care does say something about her character as much as your continued pursuit does. Which leads me to wonder if you would be so lighthearted about this if you were the “boyfriend”? Please don’t insult me by saying, I have missed the point of the post, clearly you could have made it without some of the details you have included, therefore, they become part of the point. Especially when now, you feel the need to dismiss them as filler; it would be a bit self serving to omit them. The point that you are making, either consciously or sub- is that you are more interested in acquiring “notches” than anything else. I sight your own words for this point, “I’m not letting her saying she has a boyfriend slow me down”. That statement in and of itself, speaks volumes. I find it curious that you state you don’t cheat, but you obviously have no problem being a party to someone else’s unfaithful exploits. I know we cannot control other people’s actions however; we are responsible for our own. Like it or not, our actions are what define us as humans. With this example you have given us great insight to the level of respect that you hold for relationships, be they yours or not. Wow KC, that was insightful I wasn't going to post b/c I was sickened by the whole thing but I admire the way you wrote your take on it, I was thinking along the same lines....
Big ole Ditto to the both of ya.
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As I've already said, if you like these ideas feel free to use them. If not, disregard them. But, you can't argue with success. I did get her phone number and I did meet her for coffee. The majority of women that took the trouble to post in this thread say they liked the idea of this kind of email.
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