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I'm on another site and I am a 35 yo male. It's a predominantly male site and signing up as a woman is just asking for it. Plus you get insight into the boys club. LOL Anyway, eight women have told me they loved me because I am so understanding. I think one actually thinks we are in a relationship.  Those people freak me out 
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I've known people who found it hard to commit to anyone in real life, I'm sure it'd be impossible for many to commit to anyone online. Different strokes for different folks....
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It seems it's easier to commit online
they don't have to be "real" ya know guess ya can live out quite a few fantasies that way it's easier to say " I love you" I tried it once. Not for me!!! |
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The answer is- that when you finally find someone that you connect on so many levels with, you don't want to screw something like that up for a little piece of azz. I waited for 6-7 months to meet Angel and I'd still be kicking myself if I went out and played the field. Don't get me wrong, there has to be a pre established timeframe in meeting the person. But without the physical part of the relationship bogging things down, you really, really, get to know the person on a different level. At least that's how it worked for us. Kudos  I so agree with this 
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last year i had a long distance relationship with someone i had never met. we talked for hours on the phone every day while he was at work, and we got to know eachother so well without the pressures of sex getting in the way in the first stages of the relationship. i knew his heart well so i knew when we met it would be awesome. unfortunatly we never got there
 but the anticipation was delicious. now i have a hard time because i want to know someone that well again but havent been able to find one.
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last year i had a long distance relationship with someone i had never met. we talked for hours on the phone every day while he was at work, and we got to know eachother so well without the pressures of sex getting in the way in the first stages of the relationship. i knew his heart well so i knew when we met it would be awesome. unfortunatly we never got there but the anticipation was delicious. now i have a hard time because i want to know someone that well again but havent been able to find one. I've had that a few times, first guy turned out to be a major disappointment in person, second and third ones I never got to meet. You're right, it can be fun while it lasts. |
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last year i had a long distance relationship with someone i had never met. we talked for hours on the phone every day while he was at work, and we got to know eachother so well without the pressures of sex getting in the way in the first stages of the relationship. i knew his heart well so i knew when we met it would be awesome. unfortunatly we never got there but the anticipation was delicious. now i have a hard time because i want to know someone that well again but havent been able to find one. I've had that... It's bitter sweet.. Never thought I'd do it again.. Just did.. Now I know I never will again... |
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Good idea, prncs.
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It's like child birth Cal.. After a long time you forget the pain and do it again but after a couple you're done for good..
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Ugh, I hope I don't do it again. Maybe I should make a post-it and stick them all over my room "Note to self, don't do it, it's not worth it, it will only end in EPIC FAIL!!!" If all that will even fit on a post-it.....
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they sell large post it's now..
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Sweet!!!!!!
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These days there's always a fix for things.. well most things.. Still can't seem to figure out why people do what they do but hey, there has to be some mystery to life right?
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True, true. And like with me, my misery makes for kick azz poetry.
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We like the poetry but don't want you miserable...
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Oh I'm okay. I learned a good lesson, hopefully I won't forget it and I'm going to make sure nothing similar like it ever happens again. So it was a good thing. For me.
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I did too.. It'll suck for anyone that's "real" but it is what it is... LOL
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Yeah, that's how I figure it. Better safe than sorry.
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I am truly puzzled. How can some commit to one on a website with not even meeting them, and better yet not meeting them for a few months down the road? You may miss an opportunity walk right in front of you, and better yet the online person may either ditch or not be who you thought they were... I just dont get it...maybe its me Why not? If two people happen to have the foundation to do such a thing. I think all it takes is an extremely honest approach about knowing what one wants in a partner and what the other can give. I see it not much different then arranged commitments that exist in many countries and cultures and actually LAST more then five minutes... It would take people who could put the physical and sexual aspects on the back burner though |
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Edited by
leigh76
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Mon 02/01/10 12:59 AM
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i think its very easy for ppl to get so wrapped up in the physical aspect of a relationship right away, before truely knowing the person. i have been there before. its so much better to be able to learn about someone on the inside and then desire both body and mind. unfourtunatly most men i have encountered do not see this...i mean im not a prude or anything but sheeeesh...i can see it from a mile away now.
that is why i like the idea of an online relationship...but i would want to know that it could be real someday too. cause like i said, im not a prude 
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