I was committed years ago ! They let me out on Saturdays now !

It's usually the first thing they ask too! Once you start talking to a lady they begin the death watch....Lol I don't get it either! I'm a very social person so i connect easily, leaves the impression that I should commit i think????? I don't know but thia has always bothered me with online dating! A date is a date, a phone cnversation, texting, email, chatting is not a relationship if you ask me! I have to at least go to date three before i will commit! Use to be date two, but for some reason date three seems to be when people really become themselves!

I agree!

And then..even though you text/message/email/ and some start to take it way too seriously like you are now obligated for some sort of a connection, while in reality you never even heard and seen the person.

Of course any good relationship should always start with friendship- Nothing permanent will ever be built without a stable foundation. For me, I have met people before online dating and it has been and "attraction" but online you write and get to know a person from the inside.

The most beautiful outside can be tarnished by a not so nice inside.
If you talk to a person long enough- if they are not "real" they will eventually contridict themselves and you will get some indication they arent who they say they are...

While I havent met anyone from here yet I have been here long enough
to make some awesome frinds and you never know what may grow from those friendships.

Patience is they key- just like face to face dating, dont try to rush.

I Believe
it! lol

Relationships are built on mutual trust and respect, neither of which can truly be developed online. If taken to the next level, how do you know that someone isn't still gonna be on these things messaging people? It seems that most of the women on these things are just looking for someone to talk to, most often in a very flaky, flippant sort of way, or they are seeking some sort of ego-boost from seeing how many men will try and talk to them. That may sound jaded, but I'm just being real. A buddy of mine, unfortunately, married a woman he met online only to discover that she was still online messaging people while he was at work. That is whack, whether it is a woman doing it to a man, or vice versa! Utterly whack!

Yes Freesya you are right- however with todays technology this could be the case more often than not- with our phones having the ability to get you online anywhere.
Trust seems to be a hard thing to earn even if you are true blue
some people have been hurt so bad/so often they will never trust you or vice versa.
Technological advances have taken infidelity to a new level.
Most people dont consider it cheating...until it happens to them.

Double ditto I want that touchy sorta feeling. Ya know one ya can touch and be with in reality not in my dreams. Now if it happen that that person lived out of state but within my state quiet often now I could deal with that just so long as I got to see them more them once a month......

I agree!

Wow, did she stop speaking to all men in real life too? No male co-worker relationships? No male social relationships what so ever?

I was married for 17 yrs and I continued relationships with female co-workers, I drummed with a dance group-all the dancers were women.

Should I have stopped all those???

Oh definitely, you should have made a sign that said "Unless I'm married to you, I can't talk to you."

There is NO WAY i'd "commit" to someone online without MEETING them!........
I believe there has to be a friendship there first........
not to mention TIME to get to know them.

and until i MET that person IN PERSON, and spent time with them....alot of time....would i ever start to think of commiting myself to them!!!! Yes, you can gain a great friendship over-the-phone.....and even like them alot.....but until youve met them, and get to know how they really are in PERSON, id have no commitment whatsoever to them!!!!!
It takes a LONG time to get to know someone......and even longer to decide to commit to them!

I assure ya there are just as many men the same way.......

i agree it is about 3 dates... also the time of the dates does have a factor too... now 3, 30 min dates nooooo ! but then again.. you can tell the first or second date as well if it is a no go!

Precisely. Friends is good, but anything more than that, they better be within 6 blocks of me.

We could be friends, but no commitment would take place until we spent time together.

The persona they reveal online could be totally different than what you would meet in person.

I have no problem with taking chances, but I can't invest time in a fantasy.

JMO

Ditto until all that talking and texting becomes a reality and in person there will never be a commitment from me. Then it has to be one I really want to be with as well as them with me. And that is not found out on the first or second date by the third one now it could be a go but not always.........

Finally someone that gets it .....

Why can't guys grasp this?!?

I'm on another site and I am a 35 yo male. It's a predominantly male site and signing up as a woman is just asking for it. Plus you get insight into the boys club. LOL Anyway, eight women have told me they loved me because I am so understanding. I think one actually thinks we are in a relationship.