Is it just me or is this really REALLY tacky?

"Here's the deal...im having logans birthday party on March 20th at 3 pm. if you would like and invitation, write back to me. SERIOUS PEOPLE ONLY! i dont know who would want to come...u tell me lol"

This was posted by my niece, on her Facebook wall. I am tempted to type, "Family gets invites sent to them, you should know that by your age" but that would be a little nasty of me....or would it?

well... sounds like that would be the normal procedure with your family to give out invites... then there would be nothing wrong with you 'reminding' her.

My family doesn't really do the birthday thing.

We just had a birthday party for my brother's 50th and it was late to send out invites to the homes so we did by email. If she thinks this is the way of letting us know, I will definitely be saying something.

From what she posted... it sounds like she has an attitude problem!

She also asked my other sis-in-law (her aunt) to make the cake by posting what she wanted it to look like and how big, on her FB wall about a month ago.....

Thing is, she was a really kid growing up but now that she has a child of her own, she lost it.

Maybe she is stressed... and just needs someone to talk to?

How old is she? Sounds like a self-absorbed teen. I would write on her FB for all her friends to see this: "You will not be having a bday party so no need to worry about anybody showing up until you change your bratty behavior".

She is 22 and you're right, she is acting more like a teen now than when she was a teen.

I've tried talking to her but she only wants advice from her friends not from someone who might be able to help her. Again, a teen behavior.

How old was she when she became a mom?

She was 21.

Just because someone is young does not give them an excuse not to have manners.

She HAD manners when she was younger, since she became a parent it seems they have disappeared.

I am not trying to get at that... but I was trying to figure out if she had her child young... which will complicate matters... she could be stressed, depressed or overwhelmed. I am not excusing bad manners, but there could be other stuff going on.

I'm not sure -

I'm with you on the paper-invites, I'm a rather staunch conservative when it comes to manners (yes, I will even stand up when a lady joins or leaves the table - I can't help it). Paper Invites for me are a must.

However,

In this day and age, with Facebook and Twitter and all this instant communication going on even writing an e-mail is 'extra effort' - just look at the 'Match me' system on here, who doesn't just click that rather than write and send an e-mail every so often?

I'd say let her know that invites to family go out via snail-mail, but I wouldn't chastise her for her transgressions, she probably has no idea that the etiquette even exists.

Just my two pence (or cents, I guess :p)

She may also be a selfish, snot nosed, poor mannered little kid who has had everything handed to her and is just too lazy to do the polite thing.

If she didn't want to spend the money to mail out invitations, phone calls could be a nice alternative. At least it is more personal. The FB thing is this generation but it is still lazy IMO.

sounds kinda like a rudely phrased invite in itself to me.

And not everyone is on Facebook. Did she email the others?

Younger people live by Facebook, my son tole me if I want up to date pics, of grandkids, I had to get an account.
We alwasy gave them to the grandparents.

"Times change"