Maybe I should just post a pic on her wall of a really expensive gift and tell her if she considers that an invite, "that" is his present (just the pic).

Yep, it's just the way things are now. I had a friend who posted the death of his son in an auto accident on his FB and let everyone (not the immediate family, of course, they were called) know that way. At first I was kinda shocked but it's really no different than getting a letter.

She didn't say she is mailing out invites to the immediate family, knowing her she's not. I had to remind her to call her Grandmother (my Mom) when her son cut his first tooth and when he was taken to the hospital. Hard to believe but some people still don't have computers, so how will they find out?

Oh well....I guess I am old fashioned and like to get a paper invite. Gives my mailman something else to bring me other than bills.

I feel it is rude to not send paper to my older relatives. Especially if I know they are not on the computer or on it rarely. And, her attitude was terrible. At the very least she could have put it out as "Everyone is invited to the party! Please RSVP" or something like that.

And, I love getting mail, too. There's something really exciting about getting a letter.

I just recently read an article recommending email etc in place of paper invitations as a way to go a bit green. I would hope the wording would still be polite. Just a point of view....

Going green is grand and all - talking as somebody who's a right activist on the whole 'going green' thing - but there's no need to let it run your life to the point of not sending out paper invitations. Maybe go for recycled/recyclable paper for them, but there's something important about an invitation landing on the front doormat.

ooh, that sounds all confrontational and everything I guess politeness goes both ways and even getting an invitation is wonderful, regardless of the methods.

In fact, I got an invitation to a cousin's wedding over facebook - though she lives in Australia and didn't have my current address. I was thrilled to get it nonetheless...

go a little easy on her. times-a-changin' and so are the invitations....and she is young...

in a sense she is being very generous! she probably feels
that she is so nice she is inviting everyone who might be
interested at once so she does not miss anyone. it might
seem a little easy that way but it was never possible to
invite 'everyone' through the mail...

perhaps in addition to her facebook notice she might also
send out some more formal invitations. of course that would
be redundant...

Could it be possible that she is feeling a little nervous about the party and not knowing who might actually want to be there......so she put out that little teaser to find out who was truly interested in coming. That way she wouldn't feel like she was imposing invitations on people who really could care less? I know there were times when I wondered just how many people to actually invite to parties, as in just close family.....or invite the whole crowd.

Maybe you could just tell her that you definitely want to share in his birthday celebration and you would like an invitation.