thanks but when will i sleep again did you have trouble sleeping after i have not told my family should i i dont want them to worrie but then at the same time i am scared that they will say i should not have gone to this party i am a single mom i just wanted a night with my friends but now wish i had stayed home with my kids
it getting harder every day i keep trying to for get it but i cant.

i dont think forgetting would help you in any way.
the fact that you are having trouble sleeping says a lot.
much better to seek counseling asap,and it kinda depends on your parents as if to tell them or not.

if they would support you,then by all means tell them what happened.

question?
did you tell the people in charge of that party what happened?
you might not have been the only victim that nite,you know...

i never told anyone i bagged my friends not to tell but then a little more than 24 hours later i had to go to the hospital.

At this time you really might still want to report the crime, you might have some info that is a missing link to finding the jerk.
Many more women have been raped than most even suspect and the feel that it was their fault, and are embarrassed to tell anyone. Any time a person touches u against your will, it is a assualt of some kind. Please do go to counseling or a support group. If you are afraid someone will recognoze you...go to another area. You'll get comfort being with others who will know exactly how you feel and give you tips on how to get through it. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I gotta ask

was all this really happening to you

with the kids
the men
the electrical problems
the date rape

I feel squemish over all this

if all this is happening in your life

why are you coming here for counsling-you need a prof.

All this in one young-single moms life is to much for the mingle members to help you with

I mean there is some good advice given but you have to be pulling our collective leg!

how do you know if you were raped if you dont remember anything?


yes i had 2 drinks once myself.. left my drink on table.. when i came off the dance floor there was a guy that came over after i sat down that i had danced with a couple of dances before.. i started feeling ill too after a bit. i left the bar to go home.. he followed me out < this was after conversaton over my last drink> <full drink i had two sips before that last dance> anyhow he wanted a blow job n the car... i said of course not! i just met u and im not feeling well.. i need to go now!<left by myself!> i got home 15 min later.. this was friday night maybe only 10 pm.. i fall right asleep, i awoke for the first time after that on sunday evening at 7 pm!.... so im sure it was that guy! and im sure i was drugged as well!

i have heard the term "a mickey" used for this drug, back in my day anyway lol!

http://www.gnb.ca/0037/report/Directoryeng.pdf

Look in this directory for counseling or crisis line for rape/sexual assault... and call the number.

you are So lucky..seriously..did you report this man?

back in the 90-s i was part owner of a bar,and one nite we had a couple of guys who were,lets say,acting a bit suspicously.
walking all around the tables etc etc,when they Were up in the pool room to begin with.
the capper was when i saw one of these clowns put something into a drink glass on a table.
i got my other buddy,and the other part owner,and we watched.
they thought i was imagining things But!!
sure enough,the song ended,and a lady comes back to the table and picks up the glass.
we stopped her immediately.

we then grabbed the guy,and collared his buddy too,and called the cops.
turned out,there was actually 3 of them,the 3rd one we missed,he got away,only one of them had the drugs on him.
the 2 we did catch,one got off free,but the other ended up in prison.
and!! his family made death threats against me,until i had some friends of mine say something to them.

these type of people are not human,they are predators.
and you are so right..i would bet money,that well over 75% never report what happened.

most bars only have security at the door,not inside,unless a fight breaks out.
so you Have to be careful.

Edit: im Hoping that the OP has gotten some help.

as was said above, it's not your fault, by getting it out and talking about it you can start to heal, however if you contionue to beat yourself up over it you'll remain a victim for the rest of your life, it happened, now move on and chalk it up to experience and know that the low life who did it will always be a low life, but you don't have to allow him to continue to control you through a memory you don't even have....Give yourself a hug, and say, oh well lesson learned....Be safe

how do you know if you were raped if you dont remember anything?

^women know by secretion, and even if she consented while under the influence of a drug that she didn't administer herself that is considered rape.

this dude wants to use a roffie on someone can none of you see this. im sure she would have told you all this most girls never even report being done like this

i know i dont have a pic up anymore but who goes off asking this. TELL ME ALL ABOUT IT. no pic smells funny. hey hey hey i DID have a pic up just got to get them back up. until then LOOK OUT i might have a roffie in my pocket

I don't get it. Women know they were violated by making it a secret?

secretion, look it up...sheesh

"Alcohol, a Date Rape Drug?

For years, alcohol has been used to facilitate sexual assault more than any other drug. Even today with the emergence of new substances such as Rohypnol and GHB, alcohol continues to be the substance most often associated with date rape, and the most easily accessible sedative substance.

The effects of Alcohol.

Alcohol can have tremendous sedating effects, particularly when consumed in large quantities. The effects of alcohol are quite similar to those of Rohypnol, GHB, and other sedatives and include both impaired judgment and motor coordination, loss of inhibition, dizziness, confusion, and extreme drowsiness. When large quantities are consumed, a person may become unconscious and experience a loss of memory or “blackout” for the time period in which they were intoxicated."

What's the difference really.

http://www.turningpointservices.org/date_rape_drugs.htm

I am alcohol, I play a part in:

"90% of all campus rapes"

http://www.alcoholthenarcotic.com/I_AM_ALCOHOL.html

I may be with you on this.

I must admit that this whole thing does smell pretty funky!

There is nothing you can do about what was done. All you can do is suggest that your friend become more sensible in future. Either don't go to clubs/partys, or don't drink/eat at the ones gone to, or only eat/drink what you prepare yourself, and never let anyone else near your food/drink. Also avoid booze. Drinking booze makes you less observant, less careful, etc, so someone can more easily slip a drug into your food/drink. If your friend goes to partys, gets raped, and goes to more partys, perhaps she enjoys being raped. If so, there is nothing you can do about that.

Did you not read above that this person later down past the OP admitted it was her. To say that perhaps she enjoys being raped is just a bit over the edge don't you think? No woman deserves or enjoys being raped!!! I think you need to re-think your thinking just a tad, Mr!!! Honey, it's not your fault. I'd suggest getting some counseling to help you get over your ordeal. Most of all don't blame yourself!!! If you don't know where to go the hospital or clinic who ran the test should be able to help set you up an appt with someone to talk to for counseling. Don't brush it off. It'll only get worse if you don't get help. Trust me!!! ((((Hottie))))


Dang, I just realized the OP has deactivated her account. Oh, well, I'm going to leave this in case she returns.

I once had a neighbor lady who loved sex...but was religious enough to feel guilty about it afterwards. Rather than give up sex, she decided to give up feeling guilty about having sex. She could not, however, just decide that all her religious training meant nothing...so she compromised. She made a point of going out with sleazy guys, or alone to wild parties, and getting drunk/stoned...knowing someone would take her to bed, and 'rape' her. She did this like clockwork, every weekend...often going to the same clubs, homes, etc for parties with the same folks who had 'raped' her before. The 'rape' was her psychological defense mechanism which freed her from feeling guilty. She had sex, got her jollies, felt attractive, and had nothing to feel guilty about... because it wasn't her fault that she got 'raped'.

There are women like that out there. If the OP-or her alleged friend-are such a type, there is nothing much that can be done. All a friend/counselor, or such will do is say:"it's not your fault"...when, in fact, it IS her fault. If you play with fire, you will eventually get burned. If you drink and drive, you will eventually wreck. If you willingly put yourself in harm's way, and then handicap yourself, you will get harmed. If after being so harmed, you go back for more, again put yourself in harm's way, and again handicap yourself, You must want it.

The solution is for her to figure out why she wants it enough to keep going back for more of it.

Such may, or may, not be the case with the OP, but the theory bears some consideration...as it is documented to occur in various people in various places. It may be so in her case, or not. Time will tell.