I once had a neighbor lady who loved sex...but was religious enough to feel guilty about it afterwards. Rather than give up sex, she decided to give up feeling guilty about having sex. She could not, however, just decide that all her religious training meant nothing...so she compromised. She made a point of going out with sleazy guys, or alone to wild parties, and getting drunk/stoned...knowing someone would take her to bed, and 'rape' her. She did this like clockwork, every weekend...often going to the same clubs, homes, etc for parties with the same folks who had 'raped' her before. The 'rape' was her psychological defense mechanism which freed her from feeling guilty. She had sex, got her jollies, felt attractive, and had nothing to feel guilty about... because it wasn't her fault that she got 'raped'.

There are women like that out there. If the OP-or her alleged friend-are such a type, there is nothing much that can be done. All a friend/counselor, or such will do is say:"it's not your fault"...when, in fact, it IS her fault. If you play with fire, you will eventually get burned. If you drink and drive, you will eventually wreck. If you willingly put yourself in harm's way, and then handicap yourself, you will get harmed. If after being so harmed, you go back for more, again put yourself in harm's way, and again handicap yourself, You must want it.

The solution is for her to figure out why she wants it enough to keep going back for more of it.

Such may, or may, not be the case with the OP, but the theory bears some consideration...as it is documented to occur in various people in various places. It may be so in her case, or not. Time will tell.