Casual does not equal sloppy or unkempt in my world. I will always put effort into my appearance for a date. I will generally buy a new piece of clothing as well even if it's just a new top or new pair of shoes. That doesn't mean I will be "dressed up".

She should look at least as good as she did when I met her and got her number. For some women that may take more time than others.

As for this internet thing, I've met women off sites like this that showed up wearing an over sized t shirt, sweat pants and flip flops. Those dates were over quickly!

Tie-dye T and ripped jeans with sneakers? Next.

Pleated Khakis with heels and a blazer? It's on!

I'd drop a guy if he showed up like that too.

So how did you come to agree on a meeting with some one via the internet then..and determine what was going to be appropriate for the meeting?

to each his own i guess.

if i went on a date with a guy, and he came dressed as though he were going to a wedding, the date would probably end rather quickly for me as well.

i'd much rather date and hang around a guy who wasn't afraid to get himself a little mussed up and didn't spend more time on getting primped and preened than i did.

if he looked that put together, i'd be afraid to mess him up and would probably think that he were anal about appearances, both his own and others. give me a little unkempt any day (makes them much more sexy and vulnerable looking).

I like jeans, clean t-shirt, tennis shoes. Casual, clean and easy to get off in case I decide to jump his bones.

It really hasn't been much of an issue because women seldom reply to my messages. In fact, I'm not looking online anymore because I can attract women out in the real world.

But, what I used to say was "Dress nice." That was usually enough.

I have a male friend of mine that does dress down intentionally. He has a ton of money, a fantastic house, an expensive car. He will go as far as to wear a wrinkled shirt on a first meeting just to see if a girl will take the time to get to know him, see if she likes him, his personality, sense of humor. He won't even drive his fancy car, And they have ended the date in the first 5 minutes because of his wrinkled shirt, beater car. It matters not to him..he figures if they are going to make a judgment call in 5 minutes over the way he dressed it isn't going to be the kind of girl he wants anyway. It takes him quite a few dates, every now and then he finds one that sticks around..
not very often, but he keeps doing it. He has to, he has $$ and that's all some women look for, so he weeds a lot of them out.

Poor does not equal sloppy. I would not assume someone who is dressed like a slob has no money. I would just assume they have poor hygeine. Nor would I assume that a guy who showed up in a fancy car was rich. He may very well just be deeply in debt.

So does "dress nice" work? Have they been on the same brain wave as you as far as..dress nice?

I'm just picking your brain, since this is all fairly new to me..

i can understand dressing for the occasion.

if i were being taken to the theatre for a date, i would dress a lot differently than i would if we were going to watch a little league game.

i can't fathom anyone wearing sweat pants to a first date, regardless of the venue. i think at least some consideration should be placed into how one presents themselves to another.

This guy isn't dirty..I mean he's groomed, clean, washed up. He cleans up nice and is attractive. I just know that he will intentionally wear a wrinkled shirt. I have seen him do it. lol, kinda funny.. Not dirty clothes, all nice and clean, just a wrinkled shirt.. it really does completely change his appearance.

So, that's how he screens his dates. I screen mine other ways.

Believe it or not ladies, some of us men really do want more than a willing hole.

oh yeah.. I can't even imagine meeting someone for the first time in sweats..

apparently not, based on what a lady said in your thread about what the opposite sex wants.

Dont care the money spent, just dont care for the outdoorsy types of dates. I like to be inside, whether formal or casual. Otherwise, no preferences.

He wants more than a willing hole, he just doesn't
want someone that wants him for his money...he's almost 40 and he wants to find the one I think. He just wants her to want him..not the money, that's why he does it that way.

If that works for him, great. Though, is he really being himself? Seems as though he's acting different because he's worried how women will act if he's himself.

Sings but he is not changing his character nor his ways just his clothing. Does clothing hold that much of an impact on how we perceive others to be?

Myself it all depends on where the date is going to be. And if it is a first date or after several. Myself I prefer to dress in nice jeans & shirt but I can dress up if it is needed.

As far as what one spends I can have just as much fun seeing a movie , walking out in the woods or eating hot dogs with someone that I enjoy being with. Expensive meals are not always better regardless where you have it or what you have it all depends on whom you have it with....