so when i was younger my mom sent me to stay with a family member while she traveled with my stepfather in his transport truck. i was 14 to 17 years old this family member molested me over and over again and its bothering me still to this day. and i am 24 now with 2 kids of my own and i have dated men that do the same to me hurt me. i stayed for 2-4 weeks each time with this family member and now i have a hard time to even go near him. i told my mom about this but they thought because i had a boyfriend it was just to get them to let me stay with him while they were away.

i have been sexually abused since i was a chiled the first time i was 6yrs old and my mom tryed to have the man charged but the police would not because the man was mentally sick.

then it happened again when i was 12 by someone i dont even know and again at 13 i was raped by a 16 yr old that i was dating i guess but to me it was just friends at 13 i was still a child.


okay so i have told you about me not sure why but i guess i needed to vent about it.
why went you been abused do you attract the abusive people

i dont know were to go from here i do not to therapy but have thought about it.

Perhapse therapy would be the best. Getting it out there like that took guts and it's a sign you want to do something about it, but arent sure which direction to step to. I wish i could help beyond this, and I do feel bad for you. Some people have a rougher life than others and it isnt fair, but you sound as if your ready to make steps in the right direction to get life on track the way you want it. Good luck to you, i wish the best for you and your children.

i think u need to go away far from that people together with ur child so that they wont hurt ur children too as they do to u..

She makes a good point, if you can't even get help from family, than it may be time to move somewhere away from the negativity.

thanks and i am thinking about the therapy. and have thought about moving too

You need some serious professional help. This is not something you can get past alone. Maybe finding some groups in your area and online for abused women would also help. Talking those who have been through the same things you have gone through, and are still going through can help alot.

I second this.

I know what I would do, but that’s another story.

You are asking what attracts abusers. You have to find it and have to change it. It is extremely difficult, but there is no other way. Will you be able to protect your children?

I would seriously consider therapy

you've had a traumatic experience and most of us don't have the tools to repair stuff like that

if your car is broke you see a mechanic

if your toilet is broke you call a plumber

if your head is messed up you should get a professional for that too

thanks every one i well do this as soon as i can this is so hard to deal with on my one.

Therapy!!!

With a good therapist who specializes in molestation/incest!!!

You don't do the therapy thing????

It's time to start!!!

I'm extremely empathetic to your situation and no child deserves to have suffered such a plight in life, however I'll probably receive a lot of flack for this, but I could care less about anyone else's opinion on my opinion, only what you'll do with the advice I'm about to give you.....

I know a man that molested a little girl, the family decided not to press charges to PROTECT their little girl, two years later that same man molested and killed two other children. Had they had him prosecuted the first time to the full extent of the law those two babies might be alive today. You are not responsible for anothers actions towards you, but you are totally responsible for your reactions. To not deal with this appropriately is to remain a victim the rest of your life and allow him to remain in complete control of your soul and it will haunt you til your death. Do the right thing, have that a.s.s strung up and just maybe you'll be able to sleep at night and more importantly you'll save someone else from being a victim.......Good luck with whatever you decide to do and again, much empathy

thanks really this was hard for me but i had to do some thing and i did not know what. I guess had i been stronger or had more knowledge when my parents did not listen i should have go to the police or school guidance councilor he11 kids help phone but i did not know thought if my mom of all people don't believe me than know one ever will.

when i think of this i keep going back to the 'IF I HAD' or 'I did this so its my fault"

people keep saying its not my fault but i for some reason feel it is

Those thoughts will keep you locked in. You have to find a healthy way to move away from those thoughts. You can't change the past, tomorrow is not promised to us, we have only this moment that actually matters.

It's not your fault at all that such bad things happened to you. You're not alone in this. There's help, support, and hope for you. Talk to a professional and be as open and honest as possible so that you can move on.

people keep saying its not my fault but i for some reason feel it is

^keep listening to people and you'll end up harboring these feelings for a long long time, people by nature are nurturing to a condescending point, they'll baby you and coddle you and give you a false sense of security. True it is not your fault what HAPPENED to you, but it will be your fault if you allow it to eat away at your soul, it will be your fault if these animals attack someone else because you've done nothing to prevent it when you have the chance, there is no statue of limitations on rape or molestations, it doesn't take much courage to tell the truth, just to stand behind it.

i think of this all the time, one man did go to jail a few years later for molestation and rape on a young boy but its not that i did not try to stop this but i was a child and the ones who should have been there were the ones molesting me this man was out of jail just 3 months after and now i see him and i get so scared there are days were i wish canada would deal with things the way they do in the USA but things are different here and we cant change this so you are entitled to your feelings and me to mine

Best of luck

thanks PATSFAN really am glad i posed here its helped me to realize that this is not something i can do on my own or with out a professionals help


this has lifted a weight off me but i still feel lost confused and think therapy must be the next step for me.

thanks every one really

Therapy!? What therapy you are talking about? The therapy will make you a “highly qualities” “semi-professional” victim. You cannot escape from it; relocation will not help. Take a big kitchen knife and cut their balls, one by one. -- Let them feel the pleasure. Let them feel the pleasure of their fear. Tell them, “I am coming for you. I’ll put you in jail first and on the day of your release I’ll cut your balls.” I saw graffiti, “Dead man does not rape.” -- I think a castrated man does not either. Pigs comply with the only rule, rule that their fear formulates. They are not human beings and must be trained accordingly. You showed your fear to them in the past; as the consequence they made you their prey. Now it is their turn to show you their fear.

You may agree or disagree with the above; the choice is yours.

i am sure she would love to do this but she says she has kids she most likley dose not want to end up in jail or she might have done this before who know really

ok so i just want to say thanks for the advice and you must know now i am posting under hottie2005...........LonlyGirl4124 is me hottie2005 this was hard for me i don't know if i really even now want to tell all you on mingle that this is my story but it is and i can hide it and i can change it i have to live this life i was given and so i am trying to day by day and i don't want to make the same mistakes my parents did i love my family but there are things i just hate as well anyways you no now who this lonlygirl is